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|06-19-2012, 01:26 PM||#1|
Formerly: Jonah Baby
I yell at my kids so much I get head aches!
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I don't want to be this type of parent!
My five year old has such severe behavior issues, I have another thread about that. Long story short is we are waiting on an evaluation for psych/behavior. We have even had some case workers/specialists/whatnot that see kids like him everyday for years tell us HE IS AN EXTREME.
My two year old has discovered he is two. Not that any child cannot be into everything, scaling furniture, destruction, making mischief, and basic wreaking havoc, but he has entered into that "I am two I am going to be WILD!" phase. Not really even naughty, just EVERYWHERE. At once.
My two and five year old are constantly at odds. They strategically find ways to hurt each other and cause chaos.
My 8 month old can now pull herself to standing against furniture. She crawls, she picks up things and eats them. And she no longer wishes to stay put for very long. Even when nursing.
I feel like I just chase kids, yell at kids, turn around and yell at another one, pick up a mess, go do three dishes in the sink, yell at a kid, pick up three more messes, sit down with my head in my hands, yell at a kid that is doing the exact thing he did earlier, get up just in time to watch another mess happen, rescue the baby from kids/furniture/Legos/herself, yell at a kid, put four pieces of clean laundry away, yell at kids trying to steal food....
you get it.
I don't like yelling. And yelling doesn't seem to make a damn difference anyway. I haven't found ANYTHING that redirects the kids well. It makes me want to hide on the computer, which makes me ignore the kids and they get into even more things.
It isn't that my house isn't child proofed either. Yes, we could improve, but my kids are CRAZY. They can cause utter destruction with a pen, a cracker, or a rubber ball. They have destroyed undestructible items. They are just.that.good.
My kids infuriate me so bad sometimes I literally cannot function. I sometimes wish I could just take frustration out on them (I don't, but I wish I didn't want to, either!) I am tense and grumpy a lot these days and it comes out on Sam too.
How can I learn to be a gentle, calm Mama?
How can I efficiently redirect my children BEFORE they are out of control?
What types of "tricks" do you hold up your sleeve to distract your children when they are looking for mischief?
~Lana~ SAHM and EMT student to J 4/11/07, Asperger's, ADHD, ODD, MDNOS A 3/25/10, Autism N 10/14/11
Last edited by GreenHome Sewing; 07-18-2012 at 10:31 AM.