My twin girls taught me a great lesson with their horrible birth and 3 month NICU stay, there is NO way we will not get attached. When it comes to children we are "in it to win it". With my girls I chose to be positive and live in the moment, think good thoughts and plan for the future. In the end if they had died I would have enjoyed every moment and they would have felt loved, I would have to deal with the grief over time but "preparing" myself would not have saved me from the grieving process. When they lived I was thankful that in the whole process I was present. I treated our last baby the same way and although poor baby River died I LOVED my pregnancy with him. Each two week wait I tell the eggy to stick and hope for a bright future.
Like I said, so positive it is borderline stupid My hubby says when it comes to children I am crazy optimistic.
^^^ya this is how I am about life in general! One can never be to optimistic I "think" I had my first pp o so I'm watching out to see if my lp will be short or perhaps a bfp is in my future
Jessica wife to my sexy soldier SAHM to THE BOSS(9) THE SCIENTIST(8) THE CLOWN(5) THE CRAZY(3) and MISSY MOO(1) and #6 arriving summer 2013!!!