Diaper Swappers

sojomisa · 07-08-2012, 10:48 AM

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Originally Posted by jbug_4

It really doesn't matter whether you intended you statement as a threat or not. She took it that way. And if your isn't a threat then neither is hers. After she let you know she took it as a threat and told she was done communicating with her- you still responded again. I will not believe that your scared of her threat- or you wouldn't have responding yet again fueling the flames. report it if it makes you feel better, just keep in mind she can go to the police and press harassment charges against you and possibly defamation. She told you she thought you were threatening her and she was done and you sent her another message and are planning to go to her place of employment to complain. I would seriously back away.

Yes to all of this. Especially the bolded. You're keeping this going not her. You're going after her. That's not fear.

JeDeeLenae · 07-08-2012, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by sojomisa

Yes to all of this. Especially the bolded. You're keeping this going not her. You're going after her. That's not fear.

Yeah. If I feared someone, the last thing I would do was go after their livelihood.

CandiceM · 07-08-2012, 10:59 AM

I commented before reading the update.
I don't agree with taking it all the way to her boss. I just find the other woman's "threat" more out of line than the OPs.

amiecheatham · 07-08-2012, 10:59 AM

the responses are coming much faster than I can quote/reply but I'll do my best.

I have an issue with the post saying that I should be worried about the response from other responders at the fire house. That is the same mentality that keeps women from reporting rapes, abuse, harassment, etc. when it is coming from an official like a cop. Public servants are held to the same standard as everyone else where I am concerned. If a cop threatened me with his job I would report it to his supervisor. The issue is not what will be done with it, but the fact that you don't let people get away with things like that. Anyway, as far as being a "joke" I think that this thread has shown I can handle being the butt of people's jokes.

to the part about me not being afraid of her. that is true. I am not afraid of HER. I am afraid of what could happen the next time I needed an EMT. This would be true whether I reported it or not, but I *will* feel better having it on record in some capacity that this was said- perhaps it will be a deterrent of further inappropriate behavior in a professional capacity. If I ever do have to ride in an ambulance she is in I will personally feel much better about the fact that she is less likely to follow through when it is already on record that she has made such a threat.

I don't really know what to say to the posts about not believing that I feel the way I do. It is strange to me that anyone would say, "no you don't really feel that way." I don't know what to say back? "Uhm, yes I do." obviously you are looking for some evidence that those are my actual feelings but I wouldn't even know where to start with that one.

SarahLee318 · 07-08-2012, 11:03 AM

IMO...
yes, this is a dumb internet fight

BUT...the EMT chick has no business implying she wouldn't treat you. PERIOD! She is playing 'God' in that circumstance and a person who throws that around has no business in that field. NONE!

If it were me I would go to her boss tomorrow, without a doubt.

What a totally sick thing to imply...just SICK!

I really don't care who started it or what was said. She could have said 'Im going to kick your butt when I see you' but you don't imply to not help when you are in that profession. JUST WRONG. That is not about the internet...that is real life. sick!

sojomisa · 07-08-2012, 11:05 AM

Bottom line my feeling is that you're doing this out of spite not fear or any other reason. You want to win the fight.

Mommy2Gav · 07-08-2012, 11:06 AM

Wow. Just wow. She was much nicer to you than you deserved based on your comment. I hope her boss can show just how irrational this whole thing is.

tommymommy · 07-08-2012, 11:10 AM

Amie, I strongly council you to think again before you go to this meeting.

I can see where the other women who had issues with her might be egging you on to deal with her once and for all. You should all go to the head of this B/S/T group and get her banned from the group for sure, but going to her workplace isn't really warranted.

And I really hope that if you do go to the meeting, that her supervisor isn't a sexist male, because this stupid argument would just be a step back for everybody.

JeDeeLenae · 07-08-2012, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by SarahLee318

IMO...
yes, this is a dumb internet fight

BUT...the EMT chick has no business implying she wouldn't treat you. PERIOD! She is playing 'God' in that circumstance and a person who throws that around has no business in that field. NONE!

If it were me I would go to her boss tomorrow, without a doubt.

What a totally sick thing to imply...just SICK!

I really don't care who started it or what was said. She could have said 'Im going to kick your butt when I see you' but you don't imply to not help when you are in that profession. JUST WRONG. That is not about the internet...that is real life. sick!

That comment can be taken a few different ways, though. She's basically saying this woman needs a lesson in manners, yet she could very well be the one responding in an emergency situation. And if she finds her manners so atrocious, that's too bad, because she would be the one saving her or someone she loves life. And OP would just have to deal.

The funny thing about inference is that depending on how you are already feeling, it could go either way.

luminajd · 07-08-2012, 11:13 AM

What was the exact wording of her first response to you where she called you a bit&*?

07-08-2012, 10:59 AM	#103
CandiceM Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Nova Scotia, Canada Posts: 1,300 Ratings: 11 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: If someone said to you, "i sure hope you never dial for ems I commented before reading the update. I don't agree with taking it all the way to her boss. I just find the other woman's "threat" more out of line than the OPs. __________________ Candice - wife to Ben, mama to Josiah - 4/4/02, Avonlea - 1/4/08, our little angel, lost to T13, Finley Grace - 8/18/10 - 8/19/10, Harlow Grace - 11/25/11 and due 12/30/13!

07-08-2012, 10:59 AM	#104
amiecheatham Registered Users Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Charleston, SC Posts: 1,610 Ratings: 15 Feedback: 100%	Re: If someone said to you, "i sure hope you never dial for ems the responses are coming much faster than I can quote/reply but I'll do my best. I have an issue with the post saying that I should be worried about the response from other responders at the fire house. That is the same mentality that keeps women from reporting rapes, abuse, harassment, etc. when it is coming from an official like a cop. Public servants are held to the same standard as everyone else where I am concerned. If a cop threatened me with his job I would report it to his supervisor. The issue is not what will be done with it, but the fact that you don't let people get away with things like that. Anyway, as far as being a "joke" I think that this thread has shown I can handle being the butt of people's jokes. to the part about me not being afraid of her. that is true. I am not afraid of HER. I am afraid of what could happen the next time I needed an EMT. This would be true whether I reported it or not, but I will feel better having it on record in some capacity that this was said- perhaps it will be a deterrent of further inappropriate behavior in a professional capacity. If I ever do have to ride in an ambulance she is in I will personally feel much better about the fact that she is less likely to follow through when it is already on record that she has made such a threat. I don't really know what to say to the posts about not believing that I feel the way I do. It is strange to me that anyone would say, "no you don't really feel that way." I don't know what to say back? "Uhm, yes I do." obviously you are looking for some evidence that those are my actual feelings but I wouldn't even know where to start with that one. __________________ Amie. Wife to Brook and Mama to my Jedi Ninja Girl, Sarah Jane and my handsome devil, Carver. Check out my Newborn Diaper and Baby Clothes De-stash!

07-08-2012, 11:03 AM	#105
SarahLee318 Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Charleston, SC Posts: 6,286 Ratings: 315 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: If someone said to you, "i sure hope you never dial for ems IMO... yes, this is a dumb internet fight BUT...the EMT chick has no business implying she wouldn't treat you. PERIOD! She is playing 'God' in that circumstance and a person who throws that around has no business in that field. NONE! If it were me I would go to her boss tomorrow, without a doubt. What a totally sick thing to imply...just SICK! I really don't care who started it or what was said. She could have said 'Im going to kick your butt when I see you' but you don't imply to not help when you are in that profession. JUST WRONG. That is not about the internet...that is real life. sick! __________________ Hi, I'm Sarah, Mama to Lily 3.08 & Violet 2.11 Follow me on Facebook to see my latest creations!

07-08-2012, 11:05 AM	#106
sojomisa Registered Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: MD Posts: 4,516 Ratings: 11 Feedback: 100%	Re: If someone said to you, "i sure hope you never dial for ems Bottom line my feeling is that you're doing this out of spite not fear or any other reason. You want to win the fight. __________________ Kim, a doing what works for us mama to S (06/01), J (03/03), M (12/07) and S (01/11) ~Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain.~ Last edited by sojomisa; 07-08-2012 at 11:08 AM.

07-08-2012, 11:06 AM	#107
Mommy2Gav Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: NOLA Posts: 1,692 Ratings: 42 Feedback: 100%	Re: If someone said to you, "i sure hope you never dial for ems Wow. Just wow. She was much nicer to you than you deserved based on your comment. I hope her boss can show just how irrational this whole thing is. __________________ Mommy to Gavin(11/09/07) 7 weeks premature (HELLP Syndrome) and Rosalie(9/29/09) I used to go to sleep but now I go to nursing school... ISO: Nook. Will trade goodmamas.