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Old 07-10-2012, 01:07 PM   #1
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Please tell me this is only a phase!!

My 3 year old ds is, well, being such a 3 year old! lol! No, really – my guy is making me want to pull my hair out. It seems like anytime I try to talk to him, he ignores me... even while we’re having fun together. If I tell him to stop doing something, money could be bet that he will do it at least one more time and usually until I physically remove him. He’s very defiant, yelling NO to everything from “It’s time to brush teeth” to “Would you like to go play at the park?” He fights everything, and I feel like he needs constant direction. It’s getting more and more challenging to keep my cool – I have to make a conscious decision every single morning to be a calm, patient, and understanding mommy. This is just a phase and will soon pass, right?!?

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Old 07-10-2012, 01:19 PM   #2
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Sounds appropriate to me It helps if you call their name first, make eye contact(if possible, may need to tap on the arm/hand ect), then give directions. Also keep offering choices but phrase it to where the answer 'no' wont make sense. Ex-do you want to go to the park or play in the back yard? Do you want the blue or yellow plate? And pick a phrase for when there are no choices. I simply said 'not a choice' ex-me-time to brush teeth, kid-no!, me-not a choice, then I may have to physcially take their hand and lead them to the bathroom while i would say 'would you like the pink or blue toothbrush', 'do you want to start or me to start' ect. This too shall pass as long as you stick to your guns oh and ftr I never understood why ppl said terrible 2s. It should totally be terrible 3s lol
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Re: Please tell me this is only a phase!!

Mine was b4 2 til like 3 to 4.......
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Old 07-10-2012, 05:41 PM   #4
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I absolutely could have written this exact thread! My 3yo ds is the same way - I have no advice for you, hopefully it will get better soon!

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Old 07-10-2012, 06:10 PM   #5
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phase? I dunno. If so the 'phase' continues on until at least 4.5. Awesome day here with Mr. 4.5. I spose 4 is a *little* better than 3
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We've definitely seen our share of defiance over the last couple of years, but before, it would come and go and wasn't so intense! Glad to know it's normal I guess. We are doing our best to keep things lighthearted and simple, but some, no, most days I feel lucky we survived through bedtime! I suppose I need to get used to it!
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Re: Please tell me this is only a phase!!

Glad to know I'm not alone! I could've written that post about my 3.5yo DS, and it's all new to me because my DD wasn't like that at all!
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We've definitely seen our share of defiance over the last couple of years, but before, it would come and go and wasn't so intense! Glad to know it's normal I guess. We are doing our best to keep things lighthearted and simple, but some, no, most days I feel lucky we survived through bedtime! I suppose I need to get used to it!
I know the feeling! Dh gets so frustrated, and I keep trying to tell him ds acts this way because he's 3, not because hes a bad child. He's not gonna be like this forever (hopefully!). It is good to know we're not alone though.

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I know the feeling! Dh gets so frustrated, and I keep trying to tell him ds acts this way because he's 3, not because hes a bad child. He's not gonna be like this forever (hopefully!). It is good to know we're not alone though.

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We're having the same issue! In fact, DH and I just had a long conversation about it last night. He's is usually so incredibly patient about everything, but my guy has been wearing him out (and he's the one that works!)
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