Maybe I'm being irrational but...

[raymark]

I don't agree with grandma's food/drink choices, but i'm picturing a loving grandma & unloving mom. I'd prefer the LO drink a few cokes with someone who loves spending time with him vs flouride free H2O with the mom who can't wait to send him off to grandma's again!

[HugeBabyBoy]

Originally Posted by ohsnap I have kept the kid a few afternoons when K truly did need someone to help her out. I went to the bathroom and when I got back he had one of my husband's sodas and a fork, trying to pry the can open. The kid is barely two, but he's quite resourceful. My son was, of course, supervising me so I know he didn't help him! She didn't send him any food so I let him snack on string cheese and a fruit cup, and then I got lectured about the cheese so I haven't kept him anymore, and won't ever again. It just really bothers me to see her posting on facebook about how much she loves being a stay at home mom and watching her kid eat healthy and crap like that, when his grandma keeping him all the time. (And then she texts me complaining about it, but I'm the kind if person who tells random strangers on the internet how I feel, rather than saying it to your face, so I say nothing. Passive aggressiveness ftw!) Last month she sent him to his other grandparents in another city for a week because she had a cold and was too sick to take care of him, but not too sick to go to a movie the next night.

Oh, so she's a lecturer & a complainer, but not a doer... never saw that coming, lol!

I have cut a few people out of my life, because they take time from my life and bring way too much negativity. They brought lots of drama, took little or no responsibility and there was rarely at time when they seemed to care about anyone but themselves (or the problems they had a hand in creating). #OverIt so I moved on

[syfitz]

I think K doesn't really care about her wishes not being followed. She's just a complainer.

[JasmineMama]

Maybe she is suffering from PPD or some other mental illness? It kind of sounds like she wants to be present for her kid, but can't. I can't understand giving a kid soda, even if I don't know a toddler and I see a parent giving him/her soda I cringe inwardly. But, I can't police the world (sadly ).

Or...she might be a better parent for taking breaks, maybe she just can't handle the full time SAHM. Maybe she would be happier working but can't admit that she would be? It does sound like she is unhappy with her life and the complaints/negativity stem from that. Sounds like a tough situation for you to be surrounded by that negativity.

[mcpforever]

Originally Posted by Sha-nanagins If K knows that her wishes are not respected, she needs to provide the food she wants her child to eat when he is with them. If they still refuse to cooperate, and she stills sends him there without her supervision, then she has no reason to complain.

This. And she needs to get over micromanaging.

[MamaJules]

If he managed to grab a soda while you were in the bathroom (I assume you don't leave sodas lying around in the toy box?) is it possible he grabbed one when the grandparents weren't looking? Or is the Coke an all-the-time type of thing? If they are giving him Coke a lot, then I would have an issue with that and politely ask them to stop. But yeah, all the other stuff, if she doesn't want him eating cheese sticks or milk, which I would consider mostly healthy, then she needs to send plenty of meals and snacks with him.

[ohsnap]

Originally Posted by MamaJules If he managed to grab a soda while you were in the bathroom (I assume you don't leave sodas lying around in the toy box?) is it possible he grabbed one when the grandparents weren't looking? Or is the Coke an all-the-time type of thing? If they are giving him Coke a lot, then I would have an issue with that and politely ask them to stop. But yeah, all the other stuff, if she doesn't want him eating cheese sticks or milk, which I would consider mostly healthy, then she needs to send plenty of meals and snacks with him.

I know that the grandma pretty much always has a coke, so it's probably just him drinking from her glass rather than, like, giving him a sippy of coke. We're in the south where it's not unusual to see a bottle full of kool aid or mountain dew for an infant though...

And no, the sodas weren't in the toy box, lol.

[ohsnap]

Originally Posted by aleatha5 Maybe she is suffering from PPD or some other mental illness? It kind of sounds like she wants to be present for her kid, but can't. I can't understand giving a kid soda, even if I don't know a toddler and I see a parent giving him/her soda I cringe inwardly. But, I can't police the world (sadly ). Or...she might be a better parent for taking breaks, maybe she just can't handle the full time SAHM. Maybe she would be happier working but can't admit that she would be? It does sound like she is unhappy with her life and the complaints/negativity stem from that. Sounds like a tough situation for you to be surrounded by that negativity.

I kind of thought that. She seems to have gone off the deep end since getting pregnant and she spends way way way too much time on the internet and I think she wants to be all natural and "crunchy" but her heart just isn't into it.

I think even when her son is at home he is playing in his room alone while she is on the computer, or he is in his sandbox while she is on her phone. She likes to tell this "funny" story about how he was trying to get her attention while she was checking facebook on her phone and she was ignoring him until he stuck a spider in her face. And she's always talking about all the stuff he gets into. I know how he is, but she would have to really be ignoring him for him to get into some if the messes he gets into.

I hate to end our friendship but I'm in the process of it. (It's a long, drawn out process with me.) I like her but I can't stand her as a parent.