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Old 07-22-2012, 06:25 PM   #1
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Anyone else feel guilty about not telling anyone yet?

OH and i have decided to wait until 12wks to tell anyone. we didnt tell anyone with DS until about 13wks. But everytime i'm around my mom or sister or OH's family i feel so weird and guilty. i have this tiny human being inside growing and no one knows!! i know it's best to wait and that's how alot of families do it but i just wanna scream from the mountain tops "IM PREGNANT!!!" I almost told my mom and sister today while out on a picnic with them. but i think we're gonna do the "big brother" tshirt and i am going to make a shirt for my sister that says "Auntie of 2" ha ha. one more week-eeeek! i am nervous!!!!

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Old 07-22-2012, 07:25 PM   #2
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Me! My family & close friends know, but I am just dying to formally announce it. I am waiting til 12 weeks, but it's killing me.
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Old 07-22-2012, 08:27 PM   #3
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I haven't been as social as I used to be since 2011 after some hurtful comments about my miscarriage were made. With this current pregnancy I told my husband, MIL, FIL, mom and 3 or 4 close friends about it. I told hubby hours after I got the positive, 3 days for it to sink in and then called the midwife. I shared with a few close friends because frankly I was very scared. I know ppl get really excited about being pregnant after a loss but I wasn't trying to conceive and when we did I needed to talk about it. I was perfectly content if I never conceived again and I only had my 2 kiddos. I was also ok if I had more but I wasn't really asking for it.

Once I came back to DS (you ladies are awesome) I embraced this pregnancy and talk about it frequently here. I'm glad to have online met you all as it helped me cope and accept that things may not always work out but I do have today and today everything is ok.

For DS (2008) my DH MADE me wait until 12 weeks before I shared with the world and it felt odd, like WHY again am I keeping it a secret? with DD (2010) I shared with my close friends, MIL, FIL and mom the MOMENT I found out and waited 3 months or so for a formal (fb announcement. lol!) to let acquaintances know
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Old 07-22-2012, 10:16 PM   #4
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Well my next mw appointment isn't until mid aug. and I'll be 13 weeks 3 days. That will be the first time I hear the hb. So long to wait! But my last appointment I was only 8 weeks and she didn't even bother looking for the hb. So I'm thinking we are going to wait but honestly I feel like I look so obviously pregnant that people suspect anyways.
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Old 07-22-2012, 11:29 PM   #5
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Re: Anyone else feel guilty about not telling anyone yet?

Nope, DH and I aren't going to tell anyone early. We prefer to keep our family matters private. I didn't even tell him for a couple of days during any pregnancy. Where does the guilt come in, Mama?
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Old 07-23-2012, 12:02 PM   #6
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Kinda. I know people will think I should be ashamed (I'm gonna be a single mom) but I feel proud of making this baby. I told some people here at work and my parents, of course, but not really back home. I want to tell them after the first trimester, so it's not awkward talking to them about it, kwim? But I do wanna talk about my pregnancy on fb, but I know I'm not quite ready.

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Old 07-23-2012, 01:41 PM   #7
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Kinda. I know people will think I should be ashamed (I'm gonna be a single mom) but I feel proud of making this baby. I told some people here at work and my parents, of course, but not really back home. I want to tell them after the first trimester, so it's not awkward talking to them about it, kwim? But I do wanna talk about my pregnancy on fb, but I know I'm not quite ready.

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Good for you, Mama, you deserve to feel proud! A healthy baby is always a blessing, always, no matter what the external circumstances.

Ahh, maybe I understand the original "guilt" question now, forgive me. I don't think that guarding a precious secret is at all a sign of shame. Quite differently, I feel that protecting my family's privacy demonstrates respect for my children, earthside and not.
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Old 07-23-2012, 02:35 PM   #8
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Re: Anyone else feel guilty about not telling anyone yet?

I hate hiding it but I've not heard the hb yet so most people don't know. I feel like I'm lying by ommision though..,,
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