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songbird516 · 07-31-2012, 04:29 PM

Apparently my husband usedto get teased because of his ears. His stepsister would tell him that he was about to fly away like Dumbo, lol. But now they don't look big; I had never even noticed.

I agree with what someone else said about it being a charity- if I donated to that charity I'd be plenty mad that my money had gone towards making an average-looking teenager look better to her schoolmates. 'Fixing' her ears would be one thing, but the nose job and chin reduction really just make it that the bullies won. What happens if she breaks her nose? Or is in an accident? Or the kids find something else to pick on? Not everything in life can be fixed with plastic surgery, especially not self-esteem.

champatlife · 07-31-2012, 05:12 PM

this before and after picture isn't all too drastic. Her having her eyebrows done made a world of difference, as well as her new hair color, and make up. I think this girl was far from what I considered "deformed". So, I'm opposed to the charity funding it. If I was her parents and the bullying because of her ears was causing her extreme distress, I would consider pinning her ears back, but she never even noticed she didn't like her chin or nose, but she did state she can now breathe better after the surgery. I think a simple makeover could have made a world of difference for this young lady.

As for my solid opinion- I don't know if I watched my daughter come home in tears day after day, or she didn't want to go to school. I potentionally would consider it after trying other smaller things to make her feel beautiful.

kushie tushie · 07-31-2012, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by champatlife

this before and after picture isn't all too drastic. Her having her eyebrows done made a world of difference, as well as her new hair color, and make up. I think this girl was far from what I considered "deformed". So, I'm opposed to the charity funding it. If I was her parents and the bullying because of her ears was causing her extreme distress, I would consider pinning her ears back, but she never even noticed she didn't like her chin or nose, but she did state she can now breathe better after the surgery. I think a simple makeover could have made a world of difference for this young lady.

As for my solid opinion- I don't know if I watched my daughter come home in tears day after day, or she didn't want to go to school. I potentionally would consider it after trying other smaller things to make her feel beautiful.

This is kind of what I was thinking. Her brows cleaned up made a big difference.
If her mother got her eyebrows done and showed her how to do a little makeup she would have been cute. Maybe she could have still had her ears pinned back but I dont think a girl that young needs her chin done and such.

Amanda

. Blaming my phone for typos and crap.

FlyingMama · 07-31-2012, 11:30 PM

I voted it depends. My cousin had a nose job when she was 14. Her dad has large nose and so does her mom and she inherited both. She was getting teased about it and was very unhappy with hr nose. While I'm not sure I agree with getting a 14 yr old a nose job, for her it did wonders for her self-esteem. The surgeon also wanted to give her a chin implant because she had a little bit of a recessed chin and I'm glad her parents said no to that one.

paper_girl_76 · 08-01-2012, 09:54 AM

It would totally depend on a lot of factors. Obviously it would not be a first choice. Without being in a particular situation, it is hard to say "no I would never do that!"

I was teased and spit on etc throughout elementary school and even into middle school. My parents were fantastic, and I am very happy with who I am and it has def made me strong. But, I would prefer my children learn to be strong in a different way.

swedishmaiden · 08-01-2012, 11:20 AM

I would probably say no unless it was a health issue. My DH was teased a lot all through school because he is very short for a guy (5'2") and his dad offered some surgery that helps extends your legs, to make you taller. DH refused because he wanted to play sports and you couldn't do it with the surgery (he was a wrestler in high school). But the whole thing made me upset. I love him the way he is, even if it isn't as average.

I can see how some more severe deformity would be different, though.

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07-31-2012, 04:29 PM	#71
songbird516 Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Virginia Posts: 6,153 Ratings: 36 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Would you allow plastic surgery to avoid bullying? Apparently my husband usedto get teased because of his ears. His stepsister would tell him that he was about to fly away like Dumbo, lol. But now they don't look big; I had never even noticed. I agree with what someone else said about it being a charity- if I donated to that charity I'd be plenty mad that my money had gone towards making an average-looking teenager look better to her schoolmates. 'Fixing' her ears would be one thing, but the nose job and chin reduction really just make it that the bullies won. What happens if she breaks her nose? Or is in an accident? Or the kids find something else to pick on? Not everything in life can be fixed with plastic surgery, especially not self-esteem. __________________ Sara- mommy to Claire (01/10) and Micah (3/12) Birth doula and life-long student of Everything! Need a doula in the central VA area? Let's talk! www.beyondbirthsupport.com Gorgeous custom baby carriers- www.batikbabyslings.weebly.com

07-31-2012, 05:12 PM	#72
champatlife Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Tyler, Tx Posts: 1,766 Ratings: 13 Feedback: 100%	Re: Would you allow plastic surgery to avoid bullying? this before and after picture isn't all too drastic. Her having her eyebrows done made a world of difference, as well as her new hair color, and make up. I think this girl was far from what I considered "deformed". So, I'm opposed to the charity funding it. If I was her parents and the bullying because of her ears was causing her extreme distress, I would consider pinning her ears back, but she never even noticed she didn't like her chin or nose, but she did state she can now breathe better after the surgery. I think a simple makeover could have made a world of difference for this young lady. As for my solid opinion- I don't know if I watched my daughter come home in tears day after day, or she didn't want to go to school. I potentionally would consider it after trying other smaller things to make her feel beautiful. __________________ *Selling my turbofire workout program $50* http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/...8#post16579758

07-31-2012, 11:30 PM	#74
FlyingMama Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Sunny SoCal Posts: 364 Ratings: 13 Feedback: 100%	Re: Would you allow plastic surgery to avoid bullying? I voted it depends. My cousin had a nose job when she was 14. Her dad has large nose and so does her mom and she inherited both. She was getting teased about it and was very unhappy with hr nose. While I'm not sure I agree with getting a 14 yr old a nose job, for her it did wonders for her self-esteem. The surgeon also wanted to give her a chin implant because she had a little bit of a recessed chin and I'm glad her parents said no to that one. __________________ Maegen, happy wife to DH, Mama to three beautiful DD's, Madeline 10/08, Linnea 5/10 and Kara 3/12.

08-01-2012, 09:54 AM	#75
paper_girl_76 Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 2,779 Ratings: 155 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Would you allow plastic surgery to avoid bullying? It would totally depend on a lot of factors. Obviously it would not be a first choice. Without being in a particular situation, it is hard to say "no I would never do that!" I was teased and spit on etc throughout elementary school and even into middle school. My parents were fantastic, and I am very happy with who I am and it has def made me strong. But, I would prefer my children learn to be strong in a different way. __________________ tina UC mama of 5!