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Old 08-03-2012, 11:06 PM   #61
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My first was a BO. My son was conceived within the first three months (which they say is your most fertile time post m/c) and was born one year almost to the day of the loss of our first!

As devastating as this is babe, there is hope! I know statistics mean nothing to heal your heart. So I won't throw them in your face right now.

Please just know YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!

Please don't be afraid to grieve your loss. People who have never experienced a pregnancy loss (and even a few who have) may say some very insensitive things to you. You can be prepared for comments with this statement. "my baby was very precious to me, please don't try to minimize my pain or loss" ad leave it at that.

The one thing about pregnancy loss is that it does take away your innocence in a sense that future pregnancies you may not be as blissfully happy at the sight of a BFT. We in the sisterhood of lost babies know the realities. Often times there is fear, anxiety, and detachment along with hope and amazement.

I like to think of BOs as our bodies not willing to give up on our babies. Which says to me, "my body is working perfectly to support life." What happened is, somewhere when the egg and sperm met, one part of either or both of our genes didn't "zip up" per say. But my body can support life in the event that all the millions of things that need to line up to create life happens in synergy. Your body has not betrayed you.

I wish you peace and hope. You will survive this horrible moment in time. And I believe you will go on to have a healthy baby when your mind and body are ready to try again.

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My first was a BO. My son was conceived within the first three months (which they say is your most fertile time post m/c) and was born one year almost to the day of the loss of our first!

As devastating as this is babe, there is hope! I know statistics mean nothing to heal your heart. So I won't throw them in your face right now.

Please just know YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!

Please don't be afraid to grieve your loss. People who have never experienced a pregnancy loss (and even a few who have) may say some very insensitive things to you. You can be prepared for comments with this statement. "my baby was very precious to me, please don't try to minimize my pain or loss" ad leave it at that.

The one thing about pregnancy loss is that it does take away your innocence in a sense that future pregnancies you may not be as blissfully happy at the sight of a BFT. We in the sisterhood of lost babies know the realities. Often times there is fear, anxiety, and detachment along with hope and amazement.

I like to think of BOs as our bodies not willing to give up on our babies. Which says to me, "my body is working perfectly to support life." What happened is, somewhere when the egg and sperm met, one part of either or both of our genes didn't "zip up" per say. But my body can support life in the event that all the millions of things that need to line up to create life happens in synergy. Your body has not betrayed you.

I wish you peace and hope. You will survive this horrible moment in time. And I believe you will go on to have a healthy baby when your mind and body are ready to try again.
This was absolutely amazing!
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Old 08-04-2012, 04:21 AM   #63
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It was perfectly amazing, it even made me start to smile and feel some hope during a time where I am feeling completely hopeless. Thank you for taking all the time and effort to write those few paragraphs of a post it really hit me hard and definitely helped touch my tender heart<3
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Old 08-04-2012, 10:20 AM   #64
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Re: No embryo seen :(

My husbands cousin had a BO last year, she is now pregnant and due at the same time as I am. The one thing she said her OB did was do a US to make sure that the dates and baby were measuring right

I know that you are hurting right now, and in my heart I also know that you will have a successful uneventful pregnancy. Grieving the loss of this pregnancy is what is needed right now, and as other have said, don't let anyone minimize what you are going though
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There is a thread in the January DDC about this that you should read!
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I had a BO 8 weeks into my second pregnancy. It was the first month off BC pills and 7 months after my DS was born. I conceived DD1 the month after the BO passed. Since then i have also had DD2 and am now 17 weeks pregnant with hopefully another healthy sticky bean and I haven't had another BO.
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My first was a BO. My son was conceived within the first three months (which they say is your most fertile time post m/c) and was born one year almost to the day of the loss of our first!

As devastating as this is babe, there is hope! I know statistics mean nothing to heal your heart. So I won't throw them in your face right now.

Please just know YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!

Please don't be afraid to grieve your loss. People who have never experienced a pregnancy loss (and even a few who have) may say some very insensitive things to you. You can be prepared for comments with this statement. "my baby was very precious to me, please don't try to minimize my pain or loss" ad leave it at that.

The one thing about pregnancy loss is that it does take away your innocence in a sense that future pregnancies you may not be as blissfully happy at the sight of a BFT. We in the sisterhood of lost babies know the realities. Often times there is fear, anxiety, and detachment along with hope and amazement.

I like to think of BOs as our bodies not willing to give up on our babies. Which says to me, "my body is working perfectly to support life." What happened is, somewhere when the egg and sperm met, one part of either or both of our genes didn't "zip up" per say. But my body can support life in the event that all the millions of things that need to line up to create life happens in synergy. Your body has not betrayed you.

I wish you peace and hope. You will survive this horrible moment in time. And I believe you will go on to have a healthy baby when your mind and body are ready to try again.
thank you. I had a miscarriage last year and lost my pregnancy innocence. You said it so beautifully.
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