Med-Free Birthers I want opinions!

[Kelly3139]

With my DD I used a midwife run hospital based birth center. I had an AMAZING birth med-free birth experience, everything I wanted. The center is 1 hour and 15 minutes from where I live. With no children to worry about that drive was no problem.
Being pregnant with #2 I decided to use a closer midwife group, 45 minute drive, but they deliver in a standard hospital setting. I have toured the hospital and talked with a couple L&D nurses who were very nice and open to natural birth although they admitted they don't tend to see too many. Two of the midwifes from this group also work at the group where I delivered DD and they both said that I should be find delivering in the hospital because I have done this before.
Now I have my birth plan and the midwifes say it will be fine, but deep down I feel doubt. I know doubt during a med-free birth can cause major hang-ups. I had zero doubt with DD.
The main reason I am choosing the closer group is because I want DD to be able to come to the hospital for a little while and then be able to leave when she gets bored, she will be 2 years 3 months when the baby arrives. It will be easier to find someone willing to bring her for a little while if we are closer to home.
Will I be killed with mother guilt if she I chose the farther away group and she does not get to see the baby until we get home a few days later? Since I trust my midwife completely and I am just uncertain about delivering in a hospital do you think it will not be a factor once I am in labor and supported by my midwife?