Diaper Swappers

swedishmaiden · 08-01-2012, 11:22 AM

I have a friend who just hit her due date today. I noticed on her Facebook wall that a couple people already commented about induction. I know she really wants a natural labor, but she is seeing an OB and I don't think she has been exposed to as much information about natural birth and problems with induction as I have been.

Any thoughts on how I can support her? I had both my babies early (37 weeks and 38 weeks), so I haven't been there. What might be helpful to hear? Or what should I avoid saying?

swedishmaiden · 08-02-2012, 03:09 PM

Bump! Any thoughts?

keen1981 · 08-02-2012, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by swedishmaiden

Bump! Any thoughts?

Offer to bring her dinner or meet for a pedicure!!

jlsquire0324 · 08-02-2012, 03:56 PM

I think at that point in pregnancy (DD was 10 days late) pretty much everything annoyed me

Maybe just see about spending time together? It might be nice for her to not get bombarded with a bunch of questions or opinions... You can genuinely ask how shes feeling.. Chances are she'll appreciate the open dialogue and you can share some of your experience/ knowledge then.. I agree with pp pedicure or dinner! :thumbs up:

lovebabies · 08-02-2012, 04:05 PM

Try to do some fun stuff together to take her mind off the "wait". Give her info on natural birth, not inducing, etc. if she's open to it. An encouraging, knowledgable friend (you!) is a great support to her!

Caz · 08-04-2012, 04:38 PM

My DD was 9 days "late" and I agree with the pp that everything was irritating at that point. But helping her to pass the time by getting lunch, a pedicure, or even just a visit would be good. Once you go past your due date, I feel like all you're doing is waiting and over-analyzing every little twinge and ache hoping its labor, so having someone around as a distraction would be a big help!

swedishmaiden · 08-04-2012, 10:23 PM

Thanks for the feedback! I forgot to mention that this was a long distance friend, but I'm hoping I can do something from a distance to help keep her mind off things. Maybe a package if I send it fast enough or something.

loveramongstars · 08-04-2012, 11:00 PM

What about a face-to-face chat? Something to do while "hanging out".

Sent from my Inspire. Hope everything makes sense!

songbird516 · 08-05-2012, 06:43 AM

Just say supportive, rather than impatient things. So many people are going to say things like "how long will they let you go", and "wow you're still pregnant?!" Comments like, "you look great and that baby just must like it in there" or "babies are smart and they know when to be born!" can go a long way.

crazyeyesmcgee · 08-05-2012, 08:25 AM

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Originally Posted by songbird516

Just say supportive, rather than impatient things. So many people are going to say things like "how long will they let you go", and "wow you're still pregnant?!" Comments like, "you look great and that baby just must like it in there" or "babies are smart and they know when to be born!" can go a long way.

sometimes that can help gently remind others how they are coming off, too.

08-01-2012, 11:22 AM	#1
swedishmaiden Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Inland Northwest Posts: 461 Ratings: 18 Feedback: 100%	How do you support a friend...? I have a friend who just hit her due date today. I noticed on her Facebook wall that a couple people already commented about induction. I know she really wants a natural labor, but she is seeing an OB and I don't think she has been exposed to as much information about natural birth and problems with induction as I have been. Any thoughts on how I can support her? I had both my babies early (37 weeks and 38 weeks), so I haven't been there. What might be helpful to hear? Or what should I avoid saying? __________________ Mama (23) and DH (27), Jael (2), Judah (infant) Vegan, FAM user (check out ChristianFamilyPlanning.net), trying to live green, babywearer, former CD'er until the washer quit working, and future homeschooler! (Profile pic courtesy L'Amore Photography)

08-02-2012, 03:09 PM	#2
swedishmaiden Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Inland Northwest Posts: 461 Ratings: 18 Feedback: 100%	Re: How do you support a friend...? Bump! Any thoughts? __________________ Mama (23) and DH (27), Jael (2), Judah (infant) Vegan, FAM user (check out ChristianFamilyPlanning.net), trying to live green, babywearer, former CD'er until the washer quit working, and future homeschooler! (Profile pic courtesy L'Amore Photography)

08-02-2012, 04:05 PM	#5
lovebabies Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: WA Posts: 1,225 Ratings: 9 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Try to do some fun stuff together to take her mind off the "wait". Give her info on natural birth, not inducing, etc. if she's open to it. An encouraging, knowledgable friend (you!) is a great support to her! __________________ Wife to the love of my life, and Mama to a little princess a little prince a baby princess and a pea in the pod!

08-04-2012, 04:38 PM	#6
Caz Registered Users Formerly: ccin*s Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: NC Posts: 914 Ratings: 23 Feedback: 100% My Mood:**	Re: How do you support a friend...? My DD was 9 days "late" and I agree with the pp that everything was irritating at that point. But helping her to pass the time by getting lunch, a pedicure, or even just a visit would be good. Once you go past your due date, I feel like all you're doing is waiting and over-analyzing every little twinge and ache hoping its labor, so having someone around as a distraction would be a big help! __________________ Mama to The Scientist (8/06), The Little Miss (4/10), and The Littlest Miss (2/13)

08-04-2012, 10:23 PM	#7
swedishmaiden Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Inland Northwest Posts: 461 Ratings: 18 Feedback: 100%	Re: How do you support a friend...? Thanks for the feedback! I forgot to mention that this was a long distance friend, but I'm hoping I can do something from a distance to help keep her mind off things. Maybe a package if I send it fast enough or something. __________________ Mama (23) and DH (27), Jael (2), Judah (infant) Vegan, FAM user (check out ChristianFamilyPlanning.net), trying to live green, babywearer, former CD'er until the washer quit working, and future homeschooler! (Profile pic courtesy L'Amore Photography)

08-04-2012, 11:00 PM	#8
loveramongstars Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 593	What about a face-to-face chat? Something to do while "hanging out". Sent from my Inspire. Hope everything makes sense! __________________ Bonita - Loving, Converse Wearing, Hippie College Student, Now Back in Texas Expecting My Cheshire in Feb 2013 Lover Among Stars, a blog about my journey as a single mom with my little one.