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Old 08-01-2012, 11:22 AM   #1
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How do you support a friend...?

I have a friend who just hit her due date today. I noticed on her Facebook wall that a couple people already commented about induction. I know she really wants a natural labor, but she is seeing an OB and I don't think she has been exposed to as much information about natural birth and problems with induction as I have been.

Any thoughts on how I can support her? I had both my babies early (37 weeks and 38 weeks), so I haven't been there. What might be helpful to hear? Or what should I avoid saying?

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Re: How do you support a friend...?

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Offer to bring her dinner or meet for a pedicure!!
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I think at that point in pregnancy (DD was 10 days late) pretty much everything annoyed me Maybe just see about spending time together? It might be nice for her to not get bombarded with a bunch of questions or opinions... You can genuinely ask how shes feeling.. Chances are she'll appreciate the open dialogue and you can share some of your experience/ knowledge then.. I agree with pp pedicure or dinner! :thumbs up:
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Try to do some fun stuff together to take her mind off the "wait". Give her info on natural birth, not inducing, etc. if she's open to it. An encouraging, knowledgable friend (you!) is a great support to her!
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Re: How do you support a friend...?

My DD was 9 days "late" and I agree with the pp that everything was irritating at that point. But helping her to pass the time by getting lunch, a pedicure, or even just a visit would be good. Once you go past your due date, I feel like all you're doing is waiting and over-analyzing every little twinge and ache hoping its labor, so having someone around as a distraction would be a big help!
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Old 08-04-2012, 10:23 PM   #7
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Re: How do you support a friend...?

Thanks for the feedback! I forgot to mention that this was a long distance friend, but I'm hoping I can do something from a distance to help keep her mind off things. Maybe a package if I send it fast enough or something.
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What about a face-to-face chat? Something to do while "hanging out".

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Re: How do you support a friend...?

Just say supportive, rather than impatient things. So many people are going to say things like "how long will they let you go", and "wow you're still pregnant?!" Comments like, "you look great and that baby just must like it in there" or "babies are smart and they know when to be born!" can go a long way.
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Just say supportive, rather than impatient things. So many people are going to say things like "how long will they let you go", and "wow you're still pregnant?!" Comments like, "you look great and that baby just must like it in there" or "babies are smart and they know when to be born!" can go a long way.
sometimes that can help gently remind others how they are coming off, too.
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