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Old 09-15-2012, 09:29 PM   #21
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I have to admit that I would have looked at this a whole different way! I would have let her out to eat with the family, AFTER I had scooped up all her clothes in a bag and put them in "time out." Make a mess with the clothes and don't clean them up? Then you don't need so many. I would give her one set to wear each day, until she decided she was fed up of the same items and wanted to put them away.

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Old 09-15-2012, 09:33 PM   #22
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Food is not punishment in my house, so I would let my kid eat. I would tell my son I was coming back in 10 minutes and what is not picked up goes away for a few days.
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Old 09-15-2012, 10:31 PM   #23
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Thank you for the replies! I went in and told her that I loved her but she had to follow directions and that we really wanted to eat dinner with her, but it was her choice if she wanted to eat dinner with us or not. I also added that I would be needing help making dinner and sure wish she would pick her room up. She did it in record time!
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Thank you for the replies! I went in and told her that I loved her but she had to follow directions and that we really wanted to eat dinner with her, but it was her choice if she wanted to eat dinner with us or not. I also added that I would be needing help making dinner and sure wish she would pick her room up. She did it in record time!
Yay! That always gets my son moving too. Lol. Giving the choice back to them takes the power struggle out of it, and gives them the chance to learn lots of different lessons. Especially when they choose things that have rough consequences. It's always hardest to enforce those rough consequences, so I make a point to ensure that the consequences are age and specific-kid appropriate. If my son really can't handle something I won't humiliate or punish him. But I won't rescue him from his own consequences either.

Preschoolers are fun. :-)
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I have to admit that I would have looked at this a whole different way! I would have let her out to eat with the family, AFTER I had scooped up all her clothes in a bag and put them in "time out." Make a mess with the clothes and don't clean them up? Then you don't need so many. I would give her one set to wear each day, until she decided she was fed up of the same items and wanted to put them away.
That, it would be the ULTIMATE punishment for my 4 (almost 5) year old. She MUST pick out her own clothes and throws a fit if I try to dress her. If she was stuck with my choices for clothes for a week? Oh my...ultimate punishment. I promise she'd never throw all her clothes on the floor again.
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Thank you for the replies! I went in and told her that I loved her but she had to follow directions and that we really wanted to eat dinner with her, but it was her choice if she wanted to eat dinner with us or not. I also added that I would be needing help making dinner and sure wish she would pick her room up. She did it in record time!
Glad you were able to get the results you had hoped for. I think you did great. FTR when my DS is being really terrible meaning mean to his brother, talking back, etc. We make him eat dinner by himself after we have all eaten. Reminding him that we don't like spending time with people too grouchy. We haven't had to do that in a while thank goodness.
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