Diaper Swappers

mibarra · 09-20-2012, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by jessca06

The way I took it was that people were telling me to go and nurse--not necessarily to shove it in peoples' faces, but because baby was hungry and it was normal to feed him.

After driving to the school and then being in the lunchroom for 45 minutes, DS would have needed to nurse while there.

I saw those too. Maybe I'm misremembering... I thought I saw several 'go and make sure you nurse whether he needs it or not' type of things. I could be mixing and matching thread's in my head, though

. Certainly if he needs to eat I would have fed him regardless of their protests. But I also wouldn't have gone out of my way to make sure he had to nurse, just because of their response, KWIM? It's sad your family isn't supportive, I would have been livid at them too!

Connor · 09-20-2012, 07:45 PM

I'm sorry but if 7 and 9 year olds don't know what breastfeeding is, they obviously need to see it. Their parents have had 7-9 years to teach them how our bodies are designed to feed babies. So be if it they "learn" about it from a stranger, def not your issue OP.

Kätzchen · 09-20-2012, 07:55 PM

I'd go and nurse. It's not the kids fault their mother is rude.

**Puppydog** · 09-21-2012, 03:56 AM

I remember being tiny and BF'ing my dolls.
When did it become a stigma or something to be debated. Its really sad.

OP. I'm so glad that you stood up for your baby and your husband supports you. I'm sorry about the rest of your family though.

foxynursejo · 09-21-2012, 04:09 AM

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Originally Posted by doulamomma

I would go, make sure to nurse at least once, and tell aunt to shove it. Kids need to know bf is normal, and if they never see it.....how is that gonna happen??

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my thoughts exactly, i think its GOOD for children to see babies nursing. its perfectly normal.

jessca06 · 09-21-2012, 08:41 AM

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Originally Posted by mibarra

I saw those too. Maybe I'm misremembering... I thought I saw several 'go and make sure you nurse whether he needs it or not' type of things. I could be mixing and matching thread's in my head, though

. Certainly if he needs to eat I would have fed him regardless of their protests. But I also wouldn't have gone out of my way to make sure he had to nurse, just because of their response, KWIM? It's sad your family isn't supportive, I would have been livid at them too!

You're right. Some people did say that. If I had gone, I know that DS would've had to nurse. It's a drive there and then we would have been there for close to an hour...then we would've had to drive home. He definitely would've had to nurse at least right before leaving to drive back home.

Michelle_M · 09-21-2012, 10:28 AM

"my mom and grandma say I'm being disrespectful for not going..." that's ridiculous considering THEY are being disrespectful regarding your choice to nurse.

As far as the school thing goes.. that's ridiculous too. If you aren't flashing your boobs, then I see no problem with it, and I would have nursed there anyway.

I think I might tell my family .... "I nurse my son. It's how he eats, it's the only way he eats. And if my breast feeding makes you uncomfortable, and I'm not "allowed" to nurse my child around you, then I just can't be around you. It's not that I'm being disrespectful, it's that my child needs to eat. So I have to choose.. spend time with family, or feed my son with he's hungry. I'll choose taking care of my son every time."

I'm so sorry you're going through this.. but it's awesome that your DH is supporting you!

God bless!

mibarra · 09-21-2012, 11:54 AM

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Originally Posted by jessca06

You're right. Some people did say that. If I had gone, I know that DS would've had to nurse. It's a drive there and then we would have been there for close to an hour...then we would've had to drive home. He definitely would've had to nurse at least right before leaving to drive back home.

Makes sense. I certainly agree, feed a baby if it's hungry!! I hope things get better with your family.

*LizziesLoops* · 09-21-2012, 11:54 AM

I'd go and be sure to nurse just to spite her! She has no right to tell you not to nurse and the law is on your side. She can just get over it. Kids don't care about such things.

Harmony96 · 09-21-2012, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by mibarra

I would tell them you find it extremely disrespectful that they don't support your parenting choices, and it's not disrespectful in the least to not show up if you don't feel comfortable. I would tell them simply that you won't go anywhere you don't feel comfortable feeding your baby because of their attitude.

09-20-2012, 07:45 PM	#52
Connor Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 2,728 Ratings: 31 Feedback: 100%	I'm sorry but if 7 and 9 year olds don't know what breastfeeding is, they obviously need to see it. Their parents have had 7-9 years to teach them how our bodies are designed to feed babies. So be if it they "learn" about it from a stranger, def not your issue OP. __________________ Single Mommy to my 3 year old DS born all natural. We are a Cosleeping, Breastfeeding, Babywearing Non-Vaxing DUO!! Last edited by Connor; 09-21-2012 at 01:06 AM.

09-20-2012, 07:55 PM	#53
Kätzchen Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 1,520 Ratings: 8 Feedback: 100%	I'd go and nurse. It's not the kids fault their mother is rude. __________________

09-21-2012, 03:56 AM	#54
Puppydog Banned for 6 months for ignoring multiple requests to please be polite/respectful when posting Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 1,142	Re: what are your thoughts on this (asked to not BF)? (update in #34) I remember being tiny and BF'ing my dolls. When did it become a stigma or something to be debated. Its really sad. OP. I'm so glad that you stood up for your baby and your husband supports you. I'm sorry about the rest of your family though.

09-21-2012, 10:28 AM	#57
Michelle_M Registered Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Arlington, Tx Posts: 15,858 Ratings: 81 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: what are your thoughts on this (asked to not BF)? (update in #34) "my mom and grandma say I'm being disrespectful for not going..." that's ridiculous considering THEY are being disrespectful regarding your choice to nurse. As far as the school thing goes.. that's ridiculous too. If you aren't flashing your boobs, then I see no problem with it, and I would have nursed there anyway. I think I might tell my family .... "I nurse my son. It's how he eats, it's the only way he eats. And if my breast feeding makes you uncomfortable, and I'm not "allowed" to nurse my child around you, then I just can't be around you. It's not that I'm being disrespectful, it's that my child needs to eat. So I have to choose.. spend time with family, or feed my son with he's hungry. I'll choose taking care of my son every time." I'm so sorry you're going through this.. but it's awesome that your DH is supporting you! God bless! __________________ Christian wife to my hubby, mamma to three little men and a little lady! Send a custom greeting card from Just Because Stationery!Because you don't need a reason to show you care. Caring is reason enough!!!

09-21-2012, 11:54 AM	#59
LizziesLoops Registered Users Formerly: angelami4 Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Sweet Home Alabama Posts: 1,979 Ratings: 47 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: what are your thoughts on this (asked to not BF)? (update in #34) I'd go and be sure to nurse just to spite her! She has no right to tell you not to nurse and the law is on your side. She can just get over it. Kids don't care about such things. __________________ ~Amy Eddie: Heather (1/7/2007), Mikayla (11/4/2009), an angel baby (3/29/11), and Michael Edward(3/22/12) We are now expecting baby #4 in January 2014!!!