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Old 09-26-2012, 08:36 AM   #31
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Long update!

I saw my OB yesterday and we had a nice long appointment and talked in depth about most of what was discussed here. Luckily he was on board with 99% of what I was thinking - there were actually a few times where DH and I looked at each other like, "did he really just say okay that quickly?" since he is quite "main stream".

We decided to opt out of urine dips, GD testing, AFP/genetic testing and any other further blood work, flu shot, and some of the "check up" appointments where not much will be done.

The 20 week ultrasound will also be delayed until January when I will be 25 weeks (mostly for insurance reasons). His main concern with delaying this was if a major abnormality of some sort developed that would prevent the baby from surviving outside of the womb, that delaying the ultrasound would be more difficult to "take care" of the issue - meaning, induce miscarriage. Ugh. He was so uncomfortable and wanted to stick with speaking in euphemisms, but it really irritated me that he wouldn't just say what he was thinking. When I made it clear that we would never induce a miscarriage and I believe if God intends for me to miscarry, I will - he was totally fine with delaying the ultrasound.

And, honestly, I'm not even sure that I want to have that ultrasound done. I asked him WHY it was necessary, really, and he said if I'm not concerned with having a "bad baby" (oh my gosh, I was so frustrated when he said that!) then there really was no reason for it. When he was in the Navy (can't remember where he said he was stationed) the OBs on base were delivering 600+ babies A MONTH. Omg! And they just didn't have the time/money for ultrasounds, so they stopped doing them, and there were no adverse affects on prenatal care or mother/baby health (aside from, I'm assuming, mothers who would rather have "taken care" of their "bad babies").

The only misgiving I have about skipping the ultrasound is that they won't know where my placenta is attached, which could be problematic during delivery if it's not in a good spot.

We had a good conversation about GBS testing and he would rather err on the side of caution, and I'm inclined to agree. Although if I do test positive for some reason, I think I will have them re-test before delivery after trying home remedies... Not exactly crazy about the potential of being pumped full of antibiotics, when I can count the # of times I've taken them on one hand.

The only thing I could tell he was a little miffed about was me refusing the flu shot. I refused it with DS, so he wasn't surprised, but he still thinks I need to be vaccinated for last year's flu. *rolls eyes* I've never had the flu shot and never come down with a serious case of the flu.

So, all in all, I'm really happy that he is on board with what we wanted to do. He called me "outside of the box" once and DH and I laughed so hard... I have ALWAYS been "out of the box", since day 1, so I told him I have no problem with that. Lol. Of course he said he wasn't crazy with being out of the box... But whatever. I'm also really happy that DH is 110% supportive of what I want, even though he is also quite medically "main stream" as an EMT. He admitted to me that if he was the pregnant one, he would be getting all of the screenings, tests, and probably a few extra, but he would support whatever I wanted since he trusts my judgment and knows I do my research and don't make snap decisions. On anything. love him!

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Old 09-26-2012, 09:03 AM   #32
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Re: Update! What comprises "unnecessary" prenatal care?

That sounds like a great appt!!! Wonderful to hear of a Dr who is willing to work with their patient, instead of just bossing them around and controlling everything.

I think there is more to the 20wk u/s than just deciding about abortion - as you mentioned, finding out placenta placement could be very important come labor time, if you had full previa, labor could end up really bad for both you and baby, kwim?
And I think it is important to see how baby is growing and developing. Like you, we would never abort if something was wrong with baby (even if it was incompatible with life), but I would want to know if something was wrong so that we could prepare ourselves/things for the best experience possible.
For us, with Elliana, we (possibly stupidly) were hopeful and expecting her to live until birth, but we were all ready making plans for spending whatever time we had with her. Or if baby had something wrong that would require surgery, or even just something going on that may require some testing or observation or therapy, we would want to have time to get things all lined up, as much as possible, before baby was born.
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Old 09-26-2012, 09:25 AM   #33
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Re: Update! What comprises "unnecessary" prenatal care?

YAY! Sounds wonderful! Sorry I haven't gotten back to you yet with the stuff from my other computer (we're packing up to move cross country and my life is a bit insane), but it sounds like you don't even need it now! So happy for you... probably feels like a ton of bricks was lifted off your shoulders huh?
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Old 09-26-2012, 12:00 PM   #34
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Yea! I'm glad it went well for you. Your hubby sounds like mine. Wonderful!
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Old 09-26-2012, 02:58 PM   #35
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That sounds like a great appt!!! Wonderful to hear of a Dr who is willing to work with their patient, instead of just bossing them around and controlling everything.

I think there is more to the 20wk u/s than just deciding about abortion - as you mentioned, finding out placenta placement could be very important come labor time, if you had full previa, labor could end up really bad for both you and baby, kwim?
And I think it is important to see how baby is growing and developing. Like you, we would never abort if something was wrong with baby (even if it was incompatible with life), but I would want to know if something was wrong so that we could prepare ourselves/things for the best experience possible.
For us, with Elliana, we (possibly stupidly) were hopeful and expecting her to live until birth, but we were all ready making plans for spending whatever time we had with her. Or if baby had something wrong that would require surgery, or even just something going on that may require some testing or observation or therapy, we would want to have time to get things all lined up, as much as possible, before baby was born.
This. Just because you won't 'induce miscarriage' doesn't mean knowing about an issue is unnecessary. You're baby might need surgery right away, or you could start getting into specialists now, since it can take 6 months to a year depending on what's available. If you live in a rural area you may make arrangements to deliver at a hospital with a full NICU. Lots of things to think about if there is a problem then whether or not you're keeping the baby.
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Re: Update! What comprises "unnecessary" prenatal care?

I had a midwife with DS and we are using the same one for this pregnancy and she is very hands off and I love it.
*We did urinalysis at every appointment
*I had 1 u/s for dating
*She checked my iron levels 2x
*Blood work to find out blood type and rh factor
*Abdominal palpation
*Listened to baby heartbeat

Obviously I took prenatals and we monitored my diet to make sure I didn't develop PE since I was having a decent amount of protein in my urine.
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This. Just because you won't 'induce miscarriage' doesn't mean knowing about an issue is unnecessary. You're baby might need surgery right away, or you could start getting into specialists now, since it can take 6 months to a year depending on what's available. If you live in a rural area you may make arrangements to deliver at a hospital with a full NICU. Lots of things to think about if there is a problem then whether or not you're keeping the baby.
And good point - if baby had something like spina bifida, or something else that has been shown to respond well to treatment inutero, I would definitely want to know so we could get where we needed to be for that treatment.
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Great appt! And great points made by others!
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