Nursing and libido

[yogamama28]

My dd is 8 mo old and still nursing... Is it possible that nursing her is causing me to have decreased libido?

[mommabritt]

Yes. Absolutely.

[nursenmom]

Originally Posted by mommabritt Yes. Absolutely.

[yogamama28]

So there's nothing that I can do besides wait?

[Nickel+3]

Originally Posted by yogamama28 So there's nothing that I can do besides wait?

Basically. I'm right there with ya.

[Sweet_Fantasy_Fox]

sorry your dealing with it too, it happens to everyone nursing I think

[Bhavana]

I weaned DS2 3mos ago...and I can tell you Im so relaxed while we are at it. When I was still nusrsing, DTD felt like a chore, it didnt even feel right since I felt like breasts were made to nurse little babies and sex was the farthest from it. DH understood that and didnt resent me for it. So we had it rather infrequently for 1.6yrs!

Also, I found that you just arent as well lubed down there...no amount of foreplay would help arousal. So, I 'helped' him often till I finished nursing. FWIW, AF appeared after I weaned -with both boys. Around 18mos each time. Maybe ovulation has a connection to feeling kinky?

[yogamama28]

Thanks. At least I'm not alone I guess. I stopped taking the mini pill and also using the estrogen cream that the dr had put me on to help scar tissue and pain DTD. I have almost no discomfort (huge improvement) since stopping both which is great but I'd love to start "wanting" to again. Oh well, at least my DH is a patient man.

[l_Kimmie_l]

Originally Posted by yogamama28 My dd is 8 mo old and still nursing... Is it possible that nursing her is causing me to have decreased libido?

Yup - it is the progesterone and lack of estrogen. If you are lucky enough to get your cycles back while nursing, then you might at least be frisky sometimes. We have not DTD in the nearly 6 months DS4 has been here. I simply have no interest at all.

Originally Posted by Bhavana I weaned DS2 3mos ago...and I can tell you Im so relaxed while we are at it. When I was still nusrsing, DTD felt like a chore, it didnt even feel right since I felt like breasts were made to nurse little babies and sex was the farthest from it. DH understood that and didnt resent me for it. So we had it rather infrequently for 1.6yrs! Also, I found that you just arent as well lubed down there...no amount of foreplay would help arousal. So, I 'helped' him often till I finished nursing. FWIW, AF appeared after I weaned -with both boys. Around 18mos each time. Maybe ovulation has a connection to feeling kinky?

Yes it does. Estrogen makes us want to DTD and makes us ovulate a mature egg. So when you are ready to 'o', you would want to DTD more than any other time.

[SarahS12]

My libido is dead and gone as well. It's awful!!