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|10-03-2012, 11:04 AM||#1|
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: right in the middle of the us
Starting for Sure!
My husband and I have made the decision for sure that we want to try to adopt.
I have made a few inquiries (thanks to everyone that has given me some direction) and I know that our family already having 3 kids might be a deterrent to many BM's.
We have told only my parents and my brother and SIL, my parents are not really on board. My brother and I are both adopted, but my mom seems to think that the whole process will be bad for the family, and that it is just "too hard."
I feel like a lot of people seem to think that adoption is something that we have talked about, but won't really go through. Like, we will start, and then realize that it will take too long or whatever. But when DH and I got married, we said we wanted to have 4 kids, and we have always felt in our hearts that is what our family should be.
I am really nervous about the whole process- adoption profile, home visit, being chosen my a BM, trying to decide how open of an adoption that we are willing to have... but at the same time, I know I had lots of questions and fears each time I had a child, yet we knew it was the right thing to do.
I am nervous about an open adoption and how it will effect the other kids, and I think the best situation for our family would be to exchange pictures and letters, but to not do visits, at least at this point, but I am open to listening to others needs.
I do worry a little about my husband, he is very structured in what he wants, and I know he would really like a boy, so we have two boys and two girls. I keep reminding him that if I had another child, we wouldn't get to choose!
Anyway, I know I am just rambling, but I feel like there aren't many people to talk to about this!
Laura, Wife to Bri Guy Mama to Ellie 9/6/08
Greg 6/25/10 and Baby Brenna 9/18/11