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My cousin's excuse for not disciplining her kid, ever (like, actually EVER - the kid HITS adults and takes their food from them, then eats it in front of them, while glaring at them... I could go on. He's quite a peach)... is... word for word.... "I don't want to hurt his feelings and upset him, then he might not like me." I don't care if you do time out, if you take away toys, if you make your kids write sentences, if you make your kid wash your car, or if you spank your kid's toosh. Just please, for the love of goodness, DO SOMETHING! Consistent discipline is really a necessary evil. It doesn't matter HOW you do it, but you MUST do it. If you don't do it now, you WILL pay for it later. Advertisement |
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So, fine... don't discipline your kids (general you, not YOU), but when you are paying wads of money for things your kid broke, or hurts someone... just be prepared. It's your butt, not theirs. |
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I'm a non-spanker and I hate that argument as well. Non-spanking does not mean no discipline. My kids have consequences, they just aren't violent (yes I believe spanking, smacking, tapping, popping, etc are violent forms of punishment. Some more so than others).
I also dont' think kids today are any different then they were previously, nor do I think there is a lack of discipline. I read an interesting article that said that every generation says the exact same things about "kids these days" or "parents these days", and that they are normally the same, you just have a different view when you're an adult as opposed to when you were a kid. My children are happy, healthy, respectful and independent and I've been able to do that without spanking of any sort and not yelling either. It's completely 100% possible. |
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I don't spank either and my parents didn't spank me or my 3 sisters. I discipline primarily by positive reinforcement, time outs and talking it out. I will never say I would NEVER spank any child of mine, because I believe you have to discipline in an effective way and if all else failed I would spank. However, I do think the gentlest, effective form of discipline is the best. I am truly disturbed when parents spank in anger and anyone who refers to it as "beating his/her a$$"...that makes my skin crawl. I have friends who spank and do so with a loving heart...I don't judge them for it.
ETA: Discipline shows in the manners and conscious of the child, so I let that speak for itself.
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a lack of work ethic, and a belief they are so special, jobs should fight for them. I know many people including myself who saw this in hiring postitions, but it's not all 20 year olds and I doubt it matters if they were spanked. We don't spank I have never seen it work. The friends I had who were spanked tended to be sneakier and tended to talk to their parentsor trusted adults less when it mattered. I also love two of my friends teenagers so much! I have know both of these kids families since they were small. Neither family spanked and they are the kids I hope my kid grows up to be. So I get parenting advice from them. The teens of another few families who did not grow up so nice or together, one has a screamer for a parent and a very rare spanker, the others total spankers for parents, so don't taje discipline advice from them. Overall I do what works for us and seek help from those who have gone before me. My nook hates me. |
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I am a spanker. I agree with the OP that it should be a choice and no one should push either tactic on the other parent. But much like OP gets tired of people pushing spanking, I get tired of people complaining about spanking and about spankers.
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All of you that are saying kids aren't different these days...
How else do you explain the AMAZING rise in crime over the last 20 years? Crime rates are higher among 12-17 year olds than they EVER have been in the past. |
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I have "friends" that say things like this, and it infuriates me. Do they think that I beat my children's a$$es as well? If that's what they call it, then that's obviously what they think I do... When someone says they beat their a$$, it makes me think of two grown men fighting in parking lot, hitting in the face and everything else. Last edited by leyash; 10-04-2012 at 12:10 PM. |
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But also when talking about spanking, I wouldn't consider 12 to 17 to be KIDS, but TEENS.
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