Need to vent about my mother.

[KendallMarie]

Well talk was somethign of a non entity... she wouldn't broach the subject at all on her own... but was atleast once again showing interest in my pregnancy. So I finally just said are you okay with it if I annouce at Thanksgiving. She said yes... so we'll see. Big annoucement at the dinner table isn't my style or actually any of the family's style. But if I can get it in there in the pre dinner mingling then I will. And i may send announcements to the out of town family... though i know once the news is out is will beat anything i mail... my one aunt is an incurable gossip.

It does seem that my comments about the fact that it's a rare event that I actually talk to the extended family outside a family gathering where as she talks to her sisters weekly did sink in atleast. I don't think she'd actually considered the logistics of it. (in her defence she is just back form a european holiday and jet lagged. Actually so are all my aunts so should make for an interesting Thanksgiving here)

I'm still bothered by my mom's inconsistancy on this but i suppose there's nothing i can do about it but ride it out... I know she's going to be fine once she has her grand baby. Just have to not let it get to me i guess. Atleast my dad has turned out to be more positive then I expected. And my firends are probably more excited then I am at this point... so I have positive input coming from that side.

[canadianbakers]

Good luck this weekend!

[KendallMarie]

Well apparently my mom has now done an about face... and emailed one of the Winnipeg Aunts and told her. Glowing positive response. So hopefully that will be then end of her not wanting to share. And it may save me actually announcing anything given the rate gossip travels in this family.

Anticlimactic but has lower my stress level significantly.

[UmmKira]

Originally Posted by KendallMarie I'm still bothered by my mom's inconsistancy on this but i suppose there's nothing i can do about it but ride it out... I know she's going to be fine once she has her grand baby. Just have to not let it get to me i guess. Atleast my dad has turned out to be more positive then I expected. And my firends are probably more excited then I am at this point... so I have positive input coming from that side.

It sounds like it is rough, and I'm glad to hear she turned around and did tell one of her sisters! I'm not taking her side at all, but I think many of us in the similar situation would be inconsistent. Shoot, I'm inconsistent with my emotions when I'm trying to be okay with something that bugs me, even if I know logically it is okay.

It's still rough for you, no doubt... I guess it helps me to put myself in their shoes and see how differently I would react. My MIL was not happy about DD2 since we are a different religion than them, but this time around she is positively glowing about it. A friend of mine told me when I was preggo with DD2 that it all changes when the baby comes and they love their grandbaby... I didn't think that would be the case, but she was right!