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Old 10-04-2012, 11:38 AM   #11
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Hi, I had a 33weeker who was also in the nicu for 29 days. It's definitely a trying experience. He is now 2yo and is a fantastic big brother to his 5mo brother who was born on his due date via and amazing hospital vbac.
I didn't have the same medical issues as you, so I can't speak to your experience but I am so happy I have both of my boys. Pregnancy can be kind of a crap shoot, sometimes it goes great, sometimes not. But once the kids are here we would go thru heck all over again for them.

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Old 10-05-2012, 11:31 AM   #12
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I say yes! This time they might be able to be more cautious and give you something to help you keep the baby in longer or your baby might naturally stay put longer. Don't let that deter you!
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Old 10-05-2012, 12:26 PM   #13
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I would say go talk to a maternal fetal doc/specialist and maybe then could give you some info/expectations. I have had tough pregnacies, not quite as tough as yours. I ended up on bedrest at the hospital the day after Christmas and couldnt hardly see DS1 who was only 10 months old because of H1N1. It was terrible, but it was temporary and Ds1 doesnt even remember. He had a great time hanging with the grandparents. I see my boys together and it is wonderful. They are very different so I relate differently to each of them but I dont have a favorite or love one more than the other. I want one more and am expecting a third preg to possibly be harder. I know I will have frequent appointments, along with daily insulin injections will have to get a weekly shot, p18 I think, for the 2nd half of the preggo. I just try to forget about that stuff and focus on the newborn because really its only for 9 months right
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Old 10-07-2012, 05:12 PM   #14
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Each pregnancy is different. My 1st and 3rd DS came at 35 and 34 weeks. DS #2 came at 39 and DS #4 came 3 days before the due date. So hopefully if you chose to have another, your first pregnancy will not deter you from trying. As for not loving one as much, I agree that you heart grows with each child. I do not love any child less. They all have different endearing qualities that makes my heart grow.
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Old 10-24-2012, 11:07 PM   #15
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I was 19 when I had my oldest DS, K, and wasn't ready to be a parent but I love him to death and wouldn't change it for the world. K was a very easy pregnancy, ended up being induced which ended in c-section and we both went home less than 48 hours later. Younger DS, J, was born at 32w1d and spent 31 days in the NICU. Yes, my relationships are different with my children but I can't imagine a world without either one of them. I have said from the time J came home, K taught me how to be a parent, J taught me how to appreciate it. We're mothers. We will always have regrets and feel guilty and not a single mother will ever tell you she did EVERYTHING right by her children. Your heart will grow and if you want another child, I say go for it. Timing is up to you but don't say no. Like another poster said, you will never regret having another child, but you will regret not having one.
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After my preemie and high risk pregnancy we elected to not have any more. I'm sad, but I barely made it to 31 weeks last time and my DR said I'd likely go even sooner next time.
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My first baby was born too early at 24 weeks. Slow leak of fluid. I was young and dr. wouldnt listen to me. My next 2 babies were OVERDUE. It's no guarantee but each pregnancy is different. Find a high risk dr. That will take good care of you. I have 6 and do not have a favorite at all. Chin up mama. Do what feels right for you.
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Here's my 2 cents. I have had really rotten pregnancies. I get preeclampsia. My placenta abrupts. With my 4th I abrupted and had a uterine infection and my baby died after birth. I was told that having any more kids would be a bad idea. But I wasn't done and my daughter was born in June only 3 weeks early and perfectly healthy.

Every pregnancy is different and since you've only had one pregnancy it's not a guarantee that you'll have the same issues. Bedrest when you have other kids is hard but it's temporary.

As far as giving your daughter all your love, my kids get a different kind of love from each other. They have such a wonderful relationship that I can't imagine them not having that.

It's a hard decision but only you will know what is really right for you.
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Oh and I totally have a favorite but it changes every day.
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I have two friends who had micropreemies as first babies, and completely normal subsequent pregnancies. Each pregnancy is different.

I'd go for it personally!

I have 3 kiddos, and my middle one is adopted with significant special needs. My favorite changes day to day. Sometimes it is the adorable baby. Some days it is DS because of all he's been through. Sometimes it is the oldest, because she is doing new and amazing things. It depends on who is being good at the moment!
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