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Old 10-09-2012, 09:25 AM   #11
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To help a child gain the love of learning I have read over and over that you must let them read what ever they want with no expectation that they will be tested on the material read. Magazines/comics/novels, whatever they want. Also they should see their parents reading for fun regularly. My 8 year old loves to be read too even though she can read and I have been told this is totally fine. A lot of upper elementary teachers read to their students in class.
sigh... Again yea we do ALL of this DH and I read ALL the time she always sees us reading. We also read to her ALL the time her content is not limited and all I meant about age appropiate was that she wasn't spending the 30 required timed minutes reading her 2 year old sisters pat the bunny books, I want her reading at her level (or with in a grade or so) she can do book magazine comics ect and we have a huge variety of these. We also go to the liabary every week she has to be forced to even open a book. All we have done has been pointless. Hoenstly if I really saw that she truly disliked reading I'd probably jsut push through the required time and not really worry. Its beyond frustrating though that she LIKES the books once she actually opened them but then all I hear after or before is whine whine whine. That and its like she remembers while reading oh wait I'm sosposed to hate this MOM!

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Old 10-09-2012, 10:06 AM   #12
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Re: but I dont like to read...

This sounds like my 6 year old (almost 7) he fights me on reading and then he's so proud of it when he's finished it. We do magazines, the books where I read some then he reads some, easy books, books with pics...nothing seems to make him want to read . Just wanted you to know you are NOT alone.
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Old 10-09-2012, 10:30 AM   #13
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Hi there Deanna!

Sorry to hear you are having this trouble. It really does seem like you tried everything you could to get her to read. The good thing is she is good @ reading and it seems like she enjoys it when she gets into it.

Since things don't seem to be working I would just back off for a little while. Don't force her to read but continue to read to her and let her continue to listen to the audio books. Instead of spending her 30 minutes of reading whining about how much longer use the time to read to her, I know you are reading to her already but maybe do extra or just cut it out of your day for now. If you go to the library and she comes along see if she wants to get out books. If she doesn't let it go.

It might be she is doing this because she sees she gets a rise out of you. Once she notices you aren't getting upset about her not reading she may pick it up on her own. Who knows she may be reading when you aren't looking.

Another idea is there a book club @ the library she could join? What about a book club @ the local bookstore or start one up w/ the homeschoolers in your area. She may be more interested in reading if she gets a social function out of it.

Best wishes and keep us posted!
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Old 10-09-2012, 10:33 AM   #14
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I didn't read replies, but have you considered having her eyes checked, just in case? She may enjoy the stories but maybe it puts strain on her eyes and that's what she's protesting?
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Old 10-09-2012, 10:42 AM   #15
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Has this been an ongoing thing or is it just in the last year or so? 9 is around the time that we had the most trouble getting my son to do the majority of his work that required any reading on his part. I had to read all of his instructions to him and any time I tried to get any independent silent or out loud reading out of him you would think I was torturing him. Then in the last few months now that he is about 10.5 it is like that stage never happened. He is now reading at least a long book( such as harry potter) a week or several shorter books.

The one other thing that I have not seen mentioned yet that may be a possibity is has she had her eyes checked lately? Maybe things are not focusing right so that makes reading not very fun.

I am sorry that I can not be more help. I hope things get better for you.
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Old 10-11-2012, 05:18 AM   #16
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This was my solution.....I started using teacher created guides to popular books. They have everything: vocabulary, comprehension, writing, tests, extras. So they have to read to be able to do the fun assignments. Very hands on, recipes, crafts, research.....my kids are reading Heidi, Holes, and Our Only May Amelia right now. Once I started this, no one complains anymore. The website has a list of books. I let them choose what they want to read.
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Old 10-11-2012, 06:47 AM   #17
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To get my 9 year old to read more, I make him lie down at 8:30. The only thing he is allowed to do past that is read. He would rather read than sleep that early, so he reads about an hour each night. I did this after a friend suggested it and it works for him. He picks out what he reads and sometimes it is comics, but he is reading every day. I also consider being read to and audio books as part of reading and would be happy that she is listening to books. Listening helps children focus on reading comprehension and it is hard to do both read and comprehend what they are reading.
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Old 10-11-2012, 11:24 AM   #18
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What about shared reading on longer books? Let her pick the book and then you read a page, couple of pages, chapter out loud, then she reads the next section to you. That makes her vested, she gets to hear you read, and she only has to read a "little".

When I was that age we did this when reading the stories to my younger brothers. We would each take a turn. Youngest brother, younger brother, me, then my mom. Then around again.
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I feel your pain, seriously. I had two girls who were on or above grade level readers and it was a battle to get them to read anything. To make matters worse, they were in a school which based 15-20% of their English grade on Accelerated Reader tests. They had to read an approved book worth so many points. When finished they took a comprehension test to guage how well they read and were awarded so many points based on how well they did. It never failed that they were reading the night before the end of the quarter to take tests to make the minimum required points to get the credit for class.

I would like to say that we did something special, but no go. I did start reading in the car when we went anywhere as a family. That hooked DD2 on the A to Z Mysteries, which lead to many other series books (Weird School Daze, Magic Rainbow Fairies, etc.). DD1 picked up the first Harry Potter book on a dare from DH who just wanted her to get those dumb AR points. She ended up reading all 7 books in just shy of 5 months and now reads a 400-500 page book a week with no prompting from me.

We're back to little reading with DD2 b/c she liked the idea of the AR points once she got into it and she could crank out those series books 2 or 3 a night. Now that she doesn't have that incentive, she's slacked quite a bit. I'm trying to get her hooked again by doing more read aloud. We're doing the Narina Chronicles now. She asks to be read to nightly, but won't read ahead herself.

I've just started an assigned amount of reading each day (supplementary material to go with science and history mostly plus reading from a book of saints). She does it and discusses it with myself and DD1, so I know she's actually reading and like your DD, she seems to enjoy what she reads once she gets over the hump of having to read.

I kind of look at it as a season. There have been times in my life where I read more and some where I read none at all. I think I'm ok. I figure that as long as they have the skills necessary to read, there will be times when they need/want to read more. Me nagging about it just gives me a headache.

Oh, just to add, when I did the timer thing, if you complained or kept checking to see how much time there was, the timer automatically started over!
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Old 10-13-2012, 10:35 AM   #20
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Re: but I dont like to read...

Thanks all I've gotten some good suggestions here. I'll be trying some and see if things don't improve. At least I know I'm not alone.
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