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Old 10-02-2012, 04:58 PM   #21
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I told my husband and sister right away. (Sister knew we were trying no one else did). Told work couple days after I found out- was barely 4 weeks at the time but had to let him know as work around dangerous gases (vet clinic) and had to take precautions. Told rest of family at 8 weeks and announced to friends on facebook around 12 weeks after hearing heartbeat.

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Old 10-02-2012, 05:15 PM   #22
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For dd we told dhs parents right after the sonogram I was close to 8 weeks, they where both very unhappy/ almost angry that I got pregnant while on bc. We told everyone else could not keep it to ourselves.
For ds told dh who had no idea right after the positive test. I shared with my mom/ and sister around 8 weeks, but we waited until 12 weeks to tell dhs parents. His father was happy but mil did not take it well ( thankfully she was not vocal about it this time just looked shocked then left the room). we were on Skype so not in person.
Next time around probably won't tell dh's family or anyone else until at least 16 weeks hoping i do not have to see any of them and can keep it quiet until after 20 weeks along. Everyone on here will probably know before anyone other than dh knows. We don't even plan on telling the kids, or they will tell the world until where ready to spread the news.
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Old 10-02-2012, 05:31 PM   #23
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For dd we told dhs parents right after the sonogram I was close to 8 weeks, they where both very unhappy/ almost angry that I got pregnant while on bc. We told everyone else could not keep it to ourselves.
For ds told dh who had no idea right after the positive test. I shared with my mom/ and sister around 8 weeks, but we waited until 12 weeks to tell dhs parents. His father was happy but mil did not take it well ( thankfully she was not vocal about it this time just looked shocked then left the room). we were on Skype so not in person.
Next time around probably won't tell dh's family or anyone else until at least 16 weeks hoping i do not have to see any of them and can keep it quiet until after 20 weeks along. Everyone on here will probably know before anyone other than dh knows. We don't even plan on telling the kids, or they will tell the world until where ready to spread the news.
Oh yeah, the internet doesn't count. Diaper swappers and my babywearing group on Facebook know! Lol
I hate that they can't be excited and celebrate a new life with you! part of me says just don't tell them and when they notice a belly/baby just brush it off as no big deal. Haha
My mom yelled at me and made me cry when I told her I was pregnant with my baby. She literally said "how could you do this to me?!" Like the whole reason we got pregnant was to spite her. Lol
This time around, the baby wasn't planned, but nobody needs to know that, and I'm confident that everyone will be excited with us.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:26 AM   #24
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Oh yeah, the internet doesn't count. Diaper swappers and my babywearing group on Facebook know! Lol
I hate that they can't be excited and celebrate a new life with you! part of me says just don't tell them and when they notice a belly/baby just brush it off as no big deal. Haha
My mom yelled at me and made me cry when I told her I was pregnant with my baby. She literally said "how could you do this to me?!" Like the whole reason we got pregnant was to spite her. Lol
This time around, the baby wasn't planned, but nobody needs to know that, and I'm confident that everyone will be excited with us.
I'm so sorry you have some one in your life like that. The ils where very upset when we told them over the phone they made dh feel terrible. We lived 45 minutes away and saw them once a week, so we knew we would not be able to hide my morning sickness from them. Both our lo's where conceived on bc, we planned for them but they were four years early. Where so happy with our lives and the joy those two crazy lo's brought into our lives. Luckily now we live in virginia and the ils still live in Florida they used to come to visit every major holiday and summer breaks, but since their aggressive 80lb dog is no longer welcomed at our home, they said they will no longer be visiting us, just dh's sister who lives 3 1/2 hours away. I will be able to keep my future pregnancy from the people who make me feel bad. I figured 20 weeks because then i would be showing and if my sil finds out she will be so happy she will tell the world, including her parents.
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Old 10-03-2012, 07:33 AM   #25
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DD: told family just shy of 9 weeks the weekend of my ILs' 50th anniversary celebration. My family found out via phone calls a few days later (I don't have any living immediate family, just extended). Friends found out around 12 weeks, work at 14.

DS in my tummy: DH's family guessed it when I was just shy of 9 weeks because I was already showing this time. Told DD at 11.5 weeks, everyone else about a week or two later.

Guess we're a bit conservative in telling people early on. I've spotted in both pregnancies, so we wanted to wait until we knew the pregnancy was viable before going public.
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We tell once we get the +. After losing our daughter it became important to have prayers surrounding me and the baby so we want them as soon as possible!
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Old 10-03-2012, 10:15 AM   #27
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My mom yelled at me and made me cry when I told her I was pregnant with my baby. She literally said "how could you do this to me?!" Like the whole reason we got pregnant was to spite her.
I worry that this will be my parents' reaction this time, so I haven't said anything yet. Since we lost Elli, they've told me repeatedly that they "can't handle that again", and asked me "never to do that to them again". Yup... cuz I totally chose for that to happen, just to hurt them.

We only tell most people once they are sure enough by looking at me to ask!
We told MIL at 6-7wks, cuz she was moving here and staying with us then. We told our good friends at 10wks, cuz she knew by looking anyways.
Like I said, we haven't told my parents yet... not sure when we will. They don't live near, only visit once a year or so (and just were here in the summer). I may not say anything until after the baby is born - seriously considering thing - or if they happen to visit while I'm still pregnant.

We haven't actually told our kids yet either - though I'm sure at least the older 2 know what's going on.
Things are very different this time around for us.
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Old 10-03-2012, 12:46 PM   #28
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I told right away with both mine - the first because I was in shock - we were preventing with both condoms and spermicidal gel, and the second because we were so dang happy after trying for almost 2 years, and I figured if I just stopped talking about having another baby that would be as good as telling those closest to me that we were pregnant anyway. I have no history of miscarriage, it's getting pregnant that's the problem, or has been since my first c-section, so no worries there.
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I told right away with all 5! But, after our loss I'm seriously thinking about waiting until the end.
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Old 10-09-2012, 07:58 PM   #30
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Re: When did you tell?

This is our first and we waited the "standard" 3 months to tell everyone, just after our first early ultrasound once we knew things were in pretty good shape. I didn't have any morning sickness so nobody could tell, but I sure was getting big and bloated!
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