Diaper Swappers

juclark77 · 10-09-2012, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by thtr4me

My parents were able to successfully fight birth parents for custody in 2 of our 4 foster to adoptions. The other 2 were not contested. If you need more help, I can see if they remember what the arguments they used were, although it has been over 20 years since the last trial.

It would be great to know what the winning arguments were. I think we are going to hire a lawyer. It was really stressing me out to think I had to figure it all out on my own, especially with the system being so confusing.

chemnerd · 10-10-2012, 12:17 PM

Thank you for posting this thread. It appears that we are approaching this same point in our case (15 months in our care). We are also debating hiring a lawyer. I appreciate the stories some people were able to share even though I know not all contested cases end favoring the foster parents.

Msheidiann · 10-10-2012, 01:55 PM

Have you filed de facto parent status, OP?

juclark77 · 10-10-2012, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Msheidiann

Have you filed de facto parent status, OP?

No. I have never heard of it.

WynneBabies · 10-11-2012, 05:46 AM

It's called different things in different states. Some don't allow it at all and some after 6 months or 12 months of being the foster parent. Here it is referred to as becoming a party to the case. Luckily there are no time restrictions here so I may do it at any time if I feel I need.

Msheidiann · 10-11-2012, 07:57 AM

Depending on your state (I had no idea it wasn't universal) it allows you to be party to the case. You should be able to speak at the court hearings then? I think. We were waiting to do it with our FFS, but he left after only 4 months.

WynneBabies · 10-11-2012, 09:45 AM

Msheidiann, is it 6 months in CA? Seems like 6 months or 12 months of being the child's foster parent lets you do this in most states. My state says you can at any time which is surprising. Then I know in Illinois, for example, it's not allowed at all.

Msheidiann · 10-11-2012, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by WynneBabies

Msheidiann, is it 6 months in CA? Seems like 6 months or 12 months of being the child's foster parent lets you do this in most states. My state says you can at any time which is surprising. Then I know in Illinois, for example, it's not allowed at all.

It's 6 yes. But I have heard judges approve it at 4, which may mean its not a hard fast rule.

juclark77 · 10-11-2012, 05:56 PM

My state doesn't allow de facto parent status.

Msheidiann · 10-11-2012, 08:18 PM

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Originally Posted by juclark77

My state doesn't allow de facto parent status.

Crap.

10-10-2012, 12:17 PM	#12
chemnerd Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2009 Posts: 61 Ratings: 6 Feedback: 100%	Re: Anyone appeal? Thank you for posting this thread. It appears that we are approaching this same point in our case (15 months in our care). We are also debating hiring a lawyer. I appreciate the stories some people were able to share even though I know not all contested cases end favoring the foster parents.

10-10-2012, 01:55 PM	#13
Msheidiann Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: California Posts: 915 Ratings: 36 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Anyone appeal? Have you filed de facto parent status, OP? __________________ SAHM/Foster mommy and Wife to Matthew Hopeful forever Mommy to T 9/7/11-present

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WynneBabies Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: USA Posts: 6,296 Ratings: 219 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Anyone appeal? It's called different things in different states. Some don't allow it at all and some after 6 months or 12 months of being the foster parent. Here it is referred to as becoming a party to the case. Luckily there are no time restrictions here so I may do it at any time if I feel I need. __________________ A SAHM to four long out of diapers (all used cloth for all or part of their diapering years) and a baby girl currently in cloth part time.

10-11-2012, 07:57 AM	#16
Msheidiann Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: California Posts: 915 Ratings: 36 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Depending on your state (I had no idea it wasn't universal) it allows you to be party to the case. You should be able to speak at the court hearings then? I think. We were waiting to do it with our FFS, but he left after only 4 months. __________________ SAHM/Foster mommy and Wife to Matthew Hopeful forever Mommy to T 9/7/11-present

10-11-2012, 09:45 AM	#17
WynneBabies Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: USA Posts: 6,296 Ratings: 219 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Anyone appeal? Msheidiann, is it 6 months in CA? Seems like 6 months or 12 months of being the child's foster parent lets you do this in most states. My state says you can at any time which is surprising. Then I know in Illinois, for example, it's not allowed at all. __________________ A SAHM to four long out of diapers (all used cloth for all or part of their diapering years) and a baby girl currently in cloth part time.