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Old 10-09-2012, 07:54 PM   #11
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My parents were able to successfully fight birth parents for custody in 2 of our 4 foster to adoptions. The other 2 were not contested. If you need more help, I can see if they remember what the arguments they used were, although it has been over 20 years since the last trial.
It would be great to know what the winning arguments were. I think we are going to hire a lawyer. It was really stressing me out to think I had to figure it all out on my own, especially with the system being so confusing.

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Old 10-10-2012, 12:17 PM   #12
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Thank you for posting this thread. It appears that we are approaching this same point in our case (15 months in our care). We are also debating hiring a lawyer. I appreciate the stories some people were able to share even though I know not all contested cases end favoring the foster parents.
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Have you filed de facto parent status, OP?
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Old 10-10-2012, 03:07 PM   #14
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Have you filed de facto parent status, OP?
No. I have never heard of it.
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It's called different things in different states. Some don't allow it at all and some after 6 months or 12 months of being the foster parent. Here it is referred to as becoming a party to the case. Luckily there are no time restrictions here so I may do it at any time if I feel I need.
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Depending on your state (I had no idea it wasn't universal) it allows you to be party to the case. You should be able to speak at the court hearings then? I think. We were waiting to do it with our FFS, but he left after only 4 months.
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Msheidiann, is it 6 months in CA? Seems like 6 months or 12 months of being the child's foster parent lets you do this in most states. My state says you can at any time which is surprising. Then I know in Illinois, for example, it's not allowed at all.
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Msheidiann, is it 6 months in CA? Seems like 6 months or 12 months of being the child's foster parent lets you do this in most states. My state says you can at any time which is surprising. Then I know in Illinois, for example, it's not allowed at all.
It's 6 yes. But I have heard judges approve it at 4, which may mean its not a hard fast rule.
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My state doesn't allow de facto parent status.
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