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Old 10-13-2012, 09:35 PM   #11
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Old 10-14-2012, 12:24 AM   #12
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The best advice I received was from an older hospital nurse (50-something and she had 4 kids)...

One leg for baby, one leg for the older child.

Whenever they want your attention, you offer to sit with you and baby and child. It helps equalize the attention received. If baby is nursing, the older child can be there and feel as if they're getting equal amounts of attention. It wore off quickly in our house. It went from almost every feed, to a few times a day, and in a week, DD was pretty over it. I talked to her, gave her hugs, would read a book, etc. This might also be helpful when you're tandem nursing; you can reading a book and teaching manners while the baby is present.

We also encouraged her to help with the baby. Like "holding the baby", which was her putting hands on baby's bottom or back. It lasted like 10-15 seconds, and then she was over it. She'd randomly ask to hold the baby, so we happily obliged to let her "hold him".

They're 25 months apart, but I think these could help. Good luck!
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Old 10-14-2012, 01:04 AM   #13
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Mine are exactly 2 years apart. When DS got to this nightmare stage I was totally baffled. The hitting, biting and pulling my hair caught me totally off guard. The only time I could find for him was after the baby went to sleep for the night. I climbed in bed with him and we cuddled and talked for 15-20 minutes. I did this every night for a couple of weeks, then tapered off.

It worked.
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Old 10-15-2012, 01:28 PM   #14
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Re: Toddler and Newborn, how long for the "adjustment phase"...

I second the PPs who said that the adjustment period is 4-6 months. Our transition was....pretty horrendous. Very similar to what you're describing. By the time the baby was six months old things really were back to normal (well, I mean, having a 2.5 year old is no walk in the park, but things were at a 2.5 year old level of "normal" )

I know that, now, you're 2 weeks in and thinking that 6 months is an eternity. You will get there! Just keep ignoring the bad stuff as much as possible and praising the good stuff. Whenever things got really bad, it helped me to sort of reset and think about just how hard and stressful having a new baby was on my older one. It's just as life changing for them as it is for us. And! cash in your babysitting points with anyone and everyone you can think of!
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Old 10-15-2012, 02:42 PM   #15
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Re: Toddler and Newborn, how long for the "adjustment phase"...

the adjustment period between my first & second was 9 long months. NINE months. th elongest nine months of my life. It was horrible. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I tried everything. All the tricks, all the tips. Turns out she just needed time. The adjustment between my second & third seems non-existant compared to the first time. Wow. Did I mention it was horrible?
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Old 10-15-2012, 10:32 PM   #16
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I guess we were really lucky! Our adjustment was only about a week. She "wubs him".
...the sharing toys, well, I think we'll always be working on that!!
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