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Old 11-15-2012, 01:39 AM   #11
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When my nephew was about 3, SIL decided to do a super restrictive diet. There were about 6 items he was allowed to eat, and he ate pretty much the exact same meals every day. He would constantly stare at people while they ate and and beg for food. She had some very extreme views about nutrition and what is good for the brain, as well as using food to control his behavior without any behavior modification. I wanted to give that boy food soooo badly and tried to help her realize it wasn't realistic for him to be around people and not eat the food they eat. Fast forward a few years, and he'll puke any time he eats one of the approved foods, she's had to relax quite a bit. And without treating any of his mildly autistic symptoms, his behaviors have become extremely explosive and volatile... she's asking me for books and advice to deal with his emotional regulation - wish she'd worked on these problems years ago but better late than never.
My SIL would've gotten a black eye if she had reduced my nephew to BEGGING for food. That's terrible.


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Old 11-15-2012, 08:47 AM   #12
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When I was a nanny I worked for a TERRIBLE family, I mean, these people were jerks, and they couldn't/wouldn't set limits for their kids at all. The mom and dad both looked at me like I was a cruel, mean person when I tried to put their 4 year old in time out or tell him he couldn't do something that was clearly dangerous or destructive. Well one day the dad had some buddies over and he wanted to show off what a good dad he was, so he magnanimously announced, "Jenn you should take a lunch break! I will watch X and Y for the next hour!" *cue rapturous applause* No less than 10 minutes later I'm in my room eating when I hear a blood-curdling scream and the dad shouting "Jenn! Oh my gosh, Jenn where are you!?!?" The 4 year old was playing with the gate (which I never let him do) and he pinched his finger. The dad completely panicked, which made the kid freak out even more than he normally would. I got the kid calmed down and put an ice pack on his blood blister, as the dad paced back and forth repeating "I warned him he could get hurt, why didn't he listen!?" Uhh, because he's 4 and you never tell him no. The kid even yelled at the dad that I never let him play with the gate, it was hilarious. The mom got home that night and as soon as she saw his finger she looked at the dad and me and said "Who was supposed to be watching him!" The dad turned white and didn't even admit it was his fault! I ended up taking the blame for that one, but the dad never again second-guessed me when I told his kid to stop doing something dangerous, instead he would say, "X you need to listen to Jenn, she is smart!"

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Old 11-15-2012, 10:02 AM   #13
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Re: the "i told you so" parenting moments

One that got pulled on me (and my parents like to constantly remind me of) was me saying I wanted at least 4 kids. "Just wait until you have one or two. You'll change your tune!" Oh boy, they were SO right. Two kids later and I'm so done. Honestly, I hated the baby stage. We never had a newborn, but the constant carrying, feeding, changing, etc. I'm so glad all that's done. I love my school-aged kids!
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