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Old 11-19-2012, 01:59 PM   #21
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Is it bad that I'm ok with the fact that my MIL and FIL passed away before DH and I ever met? DH has always told me that his parents weren't particularly easy to get along with and his mother wouldn't have been fond of me since I'm not Korean. She also would have expected to live with us since we have the youngest grandkids.

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Old 11-19-2012, 02:03 PM   #22
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Things started off pretty badly with my ILs. FIL died one month after our wedding, and There was just a huge mess that lasted almost two years. Finally things have settled down, rifts mended, etc, and things are much better. DH lives my parents, as do I. My dad tries very hard to make him feel like a part of the family.
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My issue with my in-laws is my MIL just acts stupid. It's all an act though. She couldn't figure out how to build legos. Who can't build legos? I normally let it go and ignore it but now it's starting to effect my kids.

She was watching the kids when I had the baby and asked if she could get McDonald's for the kids, we told her exactly what to get since DD has life threatening allergies and milk is huge. We told her flat out no French fries only apples because their fries have dairy. As she walked out the door to go straight to McDonald's we reminded her no fries. Guess what she gave DD? And then asked why DDs face was red and covered in a rash. And now she says well she can have fries because I gave them to her once. Uh no.

FIL just thinks he's always right and complains about everything. I ignore him and it's not too bad.
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i love my in-laws.
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Old 11-19-2012, 02:42 PM   #25
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I absolutely love my MIL. And FIL isn't so bad either! I consider myself to be incredibly blessed.
Totally the same here, now for DH on the other hand, MIL for him is the same as the others. He and my Dad get along great though.
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I've never not gotten along with MIL, because I can play nice with almost anyone, but she wasn't always my favorite person. She just generally got on my nerves and it made me want to smack her when she tried, however gently, to give parenting advice.
Coincidentally (or not?), around the time I started to like her was when my relationship with my own mother started to deteriorate. I'd be curious to know if there's a common trend there.
My relationship with MIL now is not a mother/daughter type one at all, but we are friends and I do love her. I like her more than DH does.

DH shares my feelings for my parents, which are not good ones lately, to say the least.
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I will say though that not all ILs are terrible. DH and my parents get along famously. In fact, my mom and DH were just txt each other yesterday about random stuff.
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Is it bad that I'm ok with the fact that my MIL and FIL passed away before DH and I ever met? DH has always told me that his parents weren't particularly easy to get along with and his mother wouldn't have been fond of me since I'm not Korean. She also would have expected to live with us since we have the youngest grandkids.
No, I don't think that's bad, just honest. DH's parents are actually his aunt and uncle, and they adopted him and his sister as teenagers, so there is a drastically different relationship dynamic there than there would be with a biological parent, which I think is why I get along so well with her. From stories about DH's biological mother (who died when he was 3), I probably would not have gotten along with her as well as I do with his mom now. She is very respectful of our need for space and the need to parent our child the way we see fit, but she is there for us when and how we need her, but isn't judgmental and only gives us her opinion if we ask for it. Mostly she is just supportive.
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THIS POST JUST MADE ME LOL!!!!!

I don't know why but I think before we get married there is a special class that in-laws have to take to learn crazy bc seriously you can not make this stuff up!
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I get along with most people... My MIL is just insane. I find it really hard to get along with someone who is illogical, moody, and nosy. She is manipulative and so its hard to know if she is really losing her mind or if she just is pretending to so she can be even more lazy. Dh just keeps telling her because we live in a rural area our cell reception/internet keeps dying. So if she annoys us.. we just hang up on her.
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