View Poll Results: Cohabiting before marriage: yay or nay? | |||
Yes. |
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
164 | 52.56% |
No. |
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
112 | 35.90% |
Who cares? Marriage is an outdated institution anyway. |
![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
36 | 11.54% |
Voters: 312. You may not vote on this poll |
![]() |
Hey Mom! Learn more about the Gerber Life Insurance Grow-Up Plan! |
|
Thread Tools | Display Modes |
![]() |
#61 |
Registered Users
Formerly: New cloth lover |
Re: Living together before marriage. Yay or nay?
In your situation, I would not. It sounds like he's really not understanding you feelings on the matter. That's an issue. You can still be together and live separately. Is it ideal, no. But neither is living together to accommodate him and others when it doesn't feel right it to you. The two of you need to figure this out before you go any further.
Advertisement
__________________
Cindy wife to B ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
#62 |
Registered Users
|
Re: Living together before marriage. Yay or nay?
My upbringing says no one should live together before they marry but I think everyone should do it. Does that make sense? I NEVER would have married my ex if I would have lived with him first, EVER. I think you have to date for several years or live together because you don't REALLY know someone til you have spent a considerable amount of time with them.
__________________
Single, working 2 jobs mama to 3 boys Jace (7), Myles (4), Kip (6months), I ship once MAYBE twice a week. ISO/IHA:http://www.diaperswappers.com/forum/...1#post16975682 My store:https://www.etsy.com/shop/PeriwinkleParsnips |
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
#63 |
formerly R***and**********
|
Re: Living together before marriage. Yay or nay?
OP how are you doing? Have you made a decision about your living arrangement?
From where you were in your last post I'd say giving the relationship some more time to build trust between you would be a good idea, as well as maybe a trial week of living together. I don't really think that living together or apart would make or break your relationship. But fear very well can be a wedge that keeps people from truly experiencing unconditional love. So that imo would be the priority. Maybe going to couseling together to get everything from the past out in the open, share what has happened and overcome the fear of the same things happening between you two. How far along are you now? |
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
#64 |
Registered Users
|
Re: Living together before marriage. Yay or nay?
This exactly. With cohabitation, there is the temptation to never bother with marriage since you already live together and it is more convenient to just keep on living the way you already are. It may be a good idea to relocate closer together but not live in the same place.
|
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
#65 | |
Registered Users
|
Quote:
|
|
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
#66 |
formerly 4boysMomma
|
Re: Living together before marriage. Yay or nay?
I felt the same way as you, I wanted to know that marriage was at least "in the cards" for us. At first I didn't think I cared, but the more I fell I fell in love the more I realized I still had those dreams for myself. So I made my wishes known as gently as possible, and tried to just give him some time. It worked!
If you are overall well-matched and in love, and you want to be together, I say cohabitating is a smart step. You will want his support during your pregnancy. We weren't pregnant (yet) but it just made sense to move in together. We were spending all our time together anyway and my little apartment was too small and with both our incomes we could get a really nice place. We rented a house together in Aug and by Thanksgiving he'd proposed. We got married the following summer. And I was six months pregnant at my wedding LOL. I wouldn't change a thing. ![]()
__________________
Mom of six boys
DS(18) ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() who are the love of my life and the bane of my existence all wrapped up in one wonderful wacky package. And wife to my amazing DH who supports me in all I do! ![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
#67 |
Registered Users
|
Re: Living together before marriage. Yay or nay?
dp
__________________
Mom to boys
DS1 (07/10) DS2 (10/11) DS3 (03/13) TTC #4 Last edited by I_run_with_scissors; 12-09-2012 at 02:36 PM. |
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
#68 |
Registered Users
|
Re: Living together before marriage. Yay or nay?
i voted yes, because we did. But i dont really care what anyone else does, so i guess im indifferent to it.
__________________
Mom to boys
DS1 (07/10) DS2 (10/11) DS3 (03/13) TTC #4 |
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
#69 |
Registered Users
|
Re: Living together before marriage. Yay or nay?
I voted yes. I've been with my love 8 years and we're not married. We have 2 beautiful kids together. I think it depends on each situation, IMO.
__________________
Mama of 3. 2 girls ('06,'10) 1 boy via med-free VBAC! ('14) Homeschoolin', cloth diaperin', BF'in fam
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
#70 |
Registered Users
|
Re: Living together before marriage. Yay or nay?
My hubby and I bought house before we got married.but we were going to get married because my situation with my oldest kid. Maybe you should just ask if small wedding would be ok. Cheap with finger food sandwiches, chips, end like especially if you have Sam or Costco......
__________________
Join me making money doing the following: shopkick, Swagbucks, fronto unlock screen , Perk and Perk unlock screen, receipthog,1Q, Free Eats, panel app, qmee, bzzagent, slidejoy unlock screen, smiley360, adme unlock screen, Rewardrack, Snap by Groupon, reviewsio, swaggable, checkpoints referral name: jmnhuisman, pinchme referral code: 54K7J, lootpalace, shopalong , drizzle sms - clock, yerdle, send Earnings, yaarlo referral code JESSA398, ibotta, BrowseU, survey cow unlock referral code is8513604729 |
![]() |
![]() |
![]() |
Thread Tools | |
Display Modes | |
|
|