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jbug_4 · 12-04-2012, 07:15 AM

What do you say when your lo runs across their first non-believer? Just curious. DD said this morning "Did you know that J (boy in her class) didn't think Santa was real?" . I just told her people believe all kinds of different things, that its ok and no big deal if he didn't believe Santa was real. I compared it to favorite colors and told her its just one of the many ways people are different. Then i asked her if she believes Santa is real- She very excitedly said yes like I was insane for even asking her that question.

No Santa debates please.

irishdancemomma · 12-04-2012, 10:40 AM

I would have said exactly the same thing. DS isn't old enough to even know what's going on at this point, but we plan on taking a very relaxed "What do you think?" approach to the Santa thing. If he wants to play along that's great, if he figures out its a game early on that is fine with us too.

happysmileylady · 12-04-2012, 11:24 AM

It would depend on the situation. Someone who doesn't believe because their family celebrates a different holiday instead is going to be different than someone making fun because the child still believes. The former is going to get an explaining that leans more towards different people celebrating different holidays and Santa knowing the difference. The latter is going to lean heavily towards bullies not knowing what they are talking about followed by a story or two about "Christmas magic." And the individual situation would dictate the exact answer, inline with how old the child is as well.

Kaci · 12-04-2012, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by irishdancemomma

I would have said exactly the same thing. DS isn't old enough to even know what's going on at this point, but we plan on taking a very relaxed "What do you think?" approach to the Santa thing. If he wants to play along that's great, if he figures out its a game early on that is fine with us too.

We don't encourage (or discourage) Santa. We leave it entirely up to DS. Whenever he asks about it we also answer with "Well, what do *you* think?"

Geckmumto3 · 12-04-2012, 11:49 AM

Like so many things, I have basically done a "What do you think..." approach and see where it goes.

When my DD was in grade 3, she had a classmate who announced to the entire class that "Your parents are Santa, there is no Santa!" DD came home and told me, and my initial reaction was sadness (as in, "Oh, I guess it's over...") but I asked her, "Well, what do you think about what Boy said?" and she replied, "Well, I just told him that is impossible. My parents don't have any reindeer."

jbug_4 · 12-04-2012, 12:14 PM

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Originally Posted by happysmileylady

It would depend on the situation. Someone who doesn't believe because their family celebrates a different holiday instead is going to be different than someone making fun because the child still believes. The former is going to get an explaining that leans more towards different people celebrating different holidays and Santa knowing the difference. The latter is going to lean heavily towards bullies not knowing what they are talking about followed by a story or two about "Christmas magic." And the individual situation would dictate the exact answer, inline with how old the child is as well.

This boy its for religious reasons. They are Christians focused on Christ rather than gift giving and Santa. In the back of my mind I expected it, but forgot until dd mentioned it. I am a little worried that the boy might get picked on by some of his classmates, but that is not my problem. I have made sure my dd won't pick on him.

eliz7 · 12-04-2012, 02:44 PM

My mom always said Santa is for those who believe. I have said it to my kids and my 11 and 9 year olds both still believe

LittleThingsMama638 · 12-04-2012, 07:56 PM

I told DS that different people have different beliefs. We beleive in Santa but others may not. I do a lot of "what do you think" too.

MyPerfectLife · 12-04-2012, 09:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Geckmumto3

Like so many things, I have basically done a "What do you think..." approach and see where it goes.

When my DD was in grade 3, she had a classmate who announced to the entire class that "Your parents are Santa, there is no Santa!" DD came home and told me, and my initial reaction was sadness (as in, "Oh, I guess it's over...") but I asked her, "Well, what do you think about what Boy said?" and she replied, "Well, I just told him that is impossible. My parents don't have any reindeer."

That's just awesome!

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12-04-2012, 07:15 AM	#1
jbug_4 Registered Users Join Date: May 2011 Location: West Olive, MI Posts: 4,948 Ratings: 1 Feedback: 100%	Santa Believers... What do you say when your lo runs across their first non-believer? Just curious. DD said this morning "Did you know that J (boy in her class) didn't think Santa was real?" . I just told her people believe all kinds of different things, that its ok and no big deal if he didn't believe Santa was real. I compared it to favorite colors and told her its just one of the many ways people are different. Then i asked her if she believes Santa is real- She very excitedly said yes like I was insane for even asking her that question. No Santa debates please. __________________ SAHM to LR 7/26/07 and IHM 10/6/10, wife to a self proclaimed genius, ex-navy guy. Going places and doing things that I always dreamed of, but never imagined I would.

12-04-2012, 11:24 AM	#3
happysmileylady Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 5,540 Ratings: 9 Feedback: 100%	Re: Santa Believers... It would depend on the situation. Someone who doesn't believe because their family celebrates a different holiday instead is going to be different than someone making fun because the child still believes. The former is going to get an explaining that leans more towards different people celebrating different holidays and Santa knowing the difference. The latter is going to lean heavily towards bullies not knowing what they are talking about followed by a story or two about "Christmas magic." And the individual situation would dictate the exact answer, inline with how old the child is as well. __________________ Kim-married to Dan Mama to Caiti (17), Rae Rae (4), Dani Lee(2), and CJ, born 10/12/12. Stuff From Kim's Kloset That Special Moment Photography Also come check out Swagbucks with me!

12-04-2012, 11:49 AM	#5
Geckmumto3 Registered Users Join Date: May 2008 Location: S. Ontario Posts: 4,785 Ratings: 8 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Santa Believers... Like so many things, I have basically done a "What do you think..." approach and see where it goes. When my DD was in grade 3, she had a classmate who announced to the entire class that "Your parents are Santa, there is no Santa!" DD came home and told me, and my initial reaction was sadness (as in, "Oh, I guess it's over...") but I asked her, "Well, what do you think about what Boy said?" and she replied, "Well, I just told him that is impossible. My parents don't have any reindeer." __________________ Kat ~ Mum to G (9), D (7) and O (5)

12-04-2012, 02:44 PM	#7
eliz7 Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New Jersey Posts: 1,097 Ratings: 2 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	My mom always said Santa is for those who believe. I have said it to my kids and my 11 and 9 year olds both still believe __________________ ~Elizabeth~ Proud Mama to Hannah (5/98), Parker(3/01), Sofia (7/03) and Lily(10/10) Happy to be again after a bit of a break

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LittleThingsMama638 Registered Users Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 883 Ratings: 69 Feedback: 100%	Re: Santa Believers... I told DS that different people have different beliefs. We beleive in Santa but others may not. I do a lot of "what do you think" too.