How do you help kids purge without the meltdown tears? - Cloth Diapers & Parenting Community

rawheid · 12-07-2012, 03:57 PM

I've tried to involve the kids and it always seems to end in tears. There are things that they are ok with getting rid of , but there always seems to be the meltdown.

The thing is about a month ago, I pulled 2 rubbermaids of toys out of rotation and they haven't asked for any of them. In fact they haven't even been playing with what I left on the shelf. They are in a lego phase (which is good since that's what they're getting for christmas).

So how do I convince them it's time to let these things go. I know that they'd love and appreciate what they have a lot more if we let go of more.

BNC · 12-07-2012, 04:47 PM

If they haven't asked for them, just donate it.

Jenn135 · 12-07-2012, 04:49 PM

You could do it when they are in bed and hold onto it for a week, see if anyone even notices. Or tell them the toys are going in storage for a while. Or....(I haven't tried this but love the idea). Explain to them how some kids have no toys, ask them to pick a toy to give to another kid for Christmas, and take them to deliver the toy. Maybe you could do this a few times before Christmas. Good luck!

Anna0623 · 12-07-2012, 05:03 PM

I used to have my dd, and ds pick items they where ok with giving away, then explained to them that we still needed to get rid of a few more items. After I was done picking out toys, I allowed each of them to get one item out of the bag to keep. I also made it a point to explain that it made it easier for them to clean up if they had less toys. My dd is almost 5 and ds is almost 3 and there have been a few times where they will bring broken toys to me to trash, or toys that they no longer want or play with for me to put in the goodwill bag.

moms5angels · 12-07-2012, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by BNC

If they haven't asked for them, just donate it.

i dont always ask my kids what they do & dont want. if they dont play w/ it i get rid of it. there r times i even go through them when there not home or in another room playing. they never notice. i just keep what they like & do use.

elizabeth.scalf · 12-07-2012, 06:10 PM

A lot of times I make up a big box of donation toys and leave it in the hallway. The kids see it, they grab one thing out of it, and play with it in the playroom. I let them take that one thing, then the rest goes. I figure that one toy will make the next round. If they ask where something went, I just tell them that we shared it with other kids who don't have any toys. No meltdown tears yet. I would ask for your kids to pick one thing that they want to share with other kids. After they pick one thing, add whatever else you want to. If they ever ask, which they rarely do, tell them that it went to the other kids along with *whatever they picked to donate*. It also sometimes to pick up to items and ask your kids which one they'd like to KEEP. This focuses them on the positive, and they're less likely to thing about the negative (meaning the one that gets donated).

rawheid · 12-07-2012, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Anna0623

I used to have my dd, and ds pick items they where ok with giving away, then explained to them that we still needed to get rid of a few more items. After I was done picking out toys, I allowed each of them to get one item out of the bag to keep. I also made it a point to explain that it made it easier for them to clean up if they had less toys. My dd is almost 5 and ds is almost 3 and there have been a few times where they will bring broken toys to me to trash, or toys that they no longer want or play with for me to put in the goodwill bag.

I actually did that this time. It really helped. We also talked today about how much easier it will be for cleaning up. It did help that the school is having a white elephant sale and so we had been talking about things to donate.

TalkinBoutMyGirl · 12-07-2012, 11:52 PM

I feel your pain mama. My daughter will put on this super sad face and say "goodbye" to stuff. It makes me want to give it all right back. I think I am going to get rid of a ton of the stuffed animals this weekend when she gets back. Wish me luck! lol

rawheid · 12-08-2012, 08:07 PM

Stuffier have never been a problem for us. I always line up say 5 and say pick 3 to keep. Then I did it again till the pile was gone. Then a month or so later I did it again. Now I think the kids have 5 stuffies top.

TalkinBoutMyGirl · 12-08-2012, 08:27 PM

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Originally Posted by rawheid

Stuffier have never been a problem for us. I always line up say 5 and say pick 3 to keep. Then I did it again till the pile was gone. Then a month or so later I did it again. Now I think the kids have 5 stuffies top.

I actually ended up tearing her room apart tonight. I packed up a TON of toys and some stuffies I knew she wouldn't miss. I am going to go through the stuffies with her tomorrow since I know she will notice if they just go missing. We will probably end up with 15-20 stuffies left but thats a huge downsize...yes we have a ton LOL

12-07-2012, 03:57 PM	#1
rawheid Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 5,707 Ratings: 14 Feedback: 100%	How do you help kids purge without the meltdown tears? I've tried to involve the kids and it always seems to end in tears. There are things that they are ok with getting rid of , but there always seems to be the meltdown. The thing is about a month ago, I pulled 2 rubbermaids of toys out of rotation and they haven't asked for any of them. In fact they haven't even been playing with what I left on the shelf. They are in a lego phase (which is good since that's what they're getting for christmas). So how do I convince them it's time to let these things go. I know that they'd love and appreciate what they have a lot more if we let go of more. __________________ ~ Heidi ~ Christian Wife and Mom DS ~ DD ~ DS Rustic Barnyard - Custom Refinished Furniture Join me on Swagbucks

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Jenn135 Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2012 Posts: 379 Ratings: 29 Feedback: 100%	Re: How do you help kids purge without the meltdown tears? You could do it when they are in bed and hold onto it for a week, see if anyone even notices. Or tell them the toys are going in storage for a while. Or....(I haven't tried this but love the idea). Explain to them how some kids have no toys, ask them to pick a toy to give to another kid for Christmas, and take them to deliver the toy. Maybe you could do this a few times before Christmas. Good luck!

12-07-2012, 05:03 PM	#4
Anna0623 Registered Users Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Virginia Posts: 1,692 Ratings: 131 Feedback: 99% My Mood:	Re: How do you help kids purge without the meltdown tears? I used to have my dd, and ds pick items they where ok with giving away, then explained to them that we still needed to get rid of a few more items. After I was done picking out toys, I allowed each of them to get one item out of the bag to keep. I also made it a point to explain that it made it easier for them to clean up if they had less toys. My dd is almost 5 and ds is almost 3 and there have been a few times where they will bring broken toys to me to trash, or toys that they no longer want or play with for me to put in the goodwill bag.

12-07-2012, 06:10 PM	#6
elizabeth.scalf Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Hershey PA Posts: 2,738 My Mood:	Re: How do you help kids purge without the meltdown tears? A lot of times I make up a big box of donation toys and leave it in the hallway. The kids see it, they grab one thing out of it, and play with it in the playroom. I let them take that one thing, then the rest goes. I figure that one toy will make the next round. If they ask where something went, I just tell them that we shared it with other kids who don't have any toys. No meltdown tears yet. I would ask for your kids to pick one thing that they want to share with other kids. After they pick one thing, add whatever else you want to. If they ever ask, which they rarely do, tell them that it went to the other kids along with whatever they picked to donate. It also sometimes to pick up to items and ask your kids which one they'd like to KEEP. This focuses them on the positive, and they're less likely to thing about the negative (meaning the one that gets donated). __________________ SAHM to Coralie, 1/09, Siri 9/10, Ellie Sue 9/12, Baby #4 due May 2014.