Re: never learning to nurse discreetly?
I think there are people that have no desire to ever NIP. I was with a friend last night and her new baby and she took the baby into another room to nurse and said that she wants to be able to pump for bottles when out. To me, that just sounds like way more work than necessary, but it's not my life.
As for the modest nursing, I NIP all the time. Yes, even my big 2 yr old still. No one knows because I cover well. Some people get so used to a system because it works that they don't want to change it, or they are afraid to change it. I was like that with my first. She was older before I felt like I could confidently nurse her discreetly with no cover. I see this as really a different strokes for different folks thing and I would only mention it if she asks. Or, maybe make a comment while you are nursing like, "I'm so glad I figured out how to nurse like this. It bothered me so much when I had to expose everything." Something like that.
Eleanor, mama to Maren (07.05.08) and Grant (10.20.10)