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Old 01-06-2013, 08:14 AM   #1
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If your DH/SO successfully took weight off, how did you help?

More specifically, I'm interested in what THEY felt was most helpful from you. Meal planning? Encouragement? Working out together?

DH wants to take off some weight. Every other time this has happened he is gung-ho at first but then fizzles out after a few weeks, even if he sees progress. I feel like I'm nagging if I keep after him -- I think we both get tired of it. I want him to WANT to do it, kwim? But I know the right kind of encouragement probably goes a long way. I'm just not sure what that is!

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Old 01-06-2013, 08:29 AM   #2
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Re: If your DH/SO successfully took weight off, how did you help?

my dh took off 50lbs but that was entirely because he wanted to. I don't think there is anything you can say or do to make him lose weight if he isn't ready to. The same went for when I lost 42lbs, it was because I had had enough and made the decision.
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Re: If your DH/SO successfully took weight off, how did you help?

I know he wants to do it. Right now he is really motivated by himself. But if this goes like all the other times he will get discouraged in a few weeks. I guess I'm just wondering if there is something I can be doing that will gently encourage him without nagging, something I've missed the other times ...
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dh has to keep his bmi under 30 to qualify for medical studies. he's a big guy about 6'1 and 225 normally. when his pants start feeling tight he wants to go on a diet. he did a round of hcg with me, he also did a month of raw vegan, he's currently doing low carb (vegetarian) he would like to lose about 25 lbs (get under 200) i help him by giving him ideas to make low carb alternatives to his favorites and i make him snacks like low carb cheesecake etc. even though he's bordering on obese i think he looks HWP
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My DH has lost 100 pounds. I've helped by cooking healthier meals, and making sure to make him a lunch to take to work so that he's not tempted by fast foods.
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My DH has lost 100 pounds. I've helped by cooking healthier meals, and making sure to make him a lunch to take to work so that he's not tempted by fast foods.
100lbs that's awrsome
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Re: If your DH/SO successfully took weight off, how did you help?

My DH lost over 120lbs over a year and I really did nothing different, it had to come from him or it wouldn't have stuck. I had always cooked reasonably healthy, he just had no idea how to eat a proper portion or limit himself. His sister helped him with working out as that is just not my thing. We live in a really small town though, so he got alot of praise/encouragement from tons of people he knows all the time, which I think boosted his ego more than I ever could. Now, I slip in info on healthy eating under the guise of "teaching the kids" while he is within earshot.
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Re: If your DH/SO successfully took weight off, how did you help?

Wow 100 lbs and 120 lbs lost! That's incredible. Good for them!

Ego stroking will go a long way for sure. LOL. I have a few subtle changes to implement around here that I'm debating whether to discuss with him or just do it and see if he even notices. Ha!

I think one of his biggest issues is portion control so I might casually bring it up ... I like the idea of "teaching the kids" when he is around! That's smart.
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Re: If your DH/SO successfully took weight off, how did you help?

Yeah, he thinks I am nagging if I speak to him directly, so it is the only way to impart my wisdom . Plus my older DD is very interested in learning what foods are healthy and where they fit (ie protein/carbs etc) in her diet.
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