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Old 01-21-2013, 05:37 PM   #1
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20mo and pushing problem

someone help! our 20mo DS has a pushing problem. wherever we go he pushes little kids. hard. they always fall on the ground, i feel so embarrassed and apologize to the parents like 5 times over and over and they just stare at me like i have 5 heads. after he does that i take him by the arms, look him in the eyes and say "NO. THAT IS NOT NICE. WE DONT PUSH." very firmly. i dont know what else to say/do. advice? any other toddlers have a "pushing" problem?? is this normal behavior?

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Old 01-21-2013, 06:01 PM   #2
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Kinda norm but I bit & only learned not to by being bit.... so maybe try that to see if he likes & compare to what he does....
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At that age it's hard to understand "don't". What he really hears is "we push". Id say what you want, like "use gentle hands. No pushing "
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At that age it's hard to understand "don't". What he really hears is "we push". Id say what you want, like "use gentle hands. No pushing "
I agree. We tell DD with her kitties 'be sweet' because 'don't', etc was not working.

And then lots of praise for gentle things. Perhaps encourage high fiving or something. Hugs are okay, but some kids don't like to be hugged.
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My DD2 is 21 months and doing this too. She's the youngest of 3 and used to having to push in to get anything. We are working on it, but it is definitely frustrating.
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Warn him prior to going anywhere with kids. If you push we leave.

The first time he pushes someone, pick him up and leave. Explain in a few words why you are leaving and that you warned him and he loses his play time because he was pushing.

I had a biter and had to do this method and it worked pretty fast.
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Warn him prior to going anywhere with kids. If you push we leave.

The first time he pushes someone, pick him up and leave. Explain in a few words why you are leaving and that you warned him and he loses his play time because he was pushing.

I had a biter and had to do this method and it worked pretty fast.
I would prepare yourself mentally for going out with the expectation that you might be immediately returning, too, so that you are better prepared to follow through with it (ie don't do this when you NEED to get groceries - or get them first before letting him out of a cart where he could push).
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Warn him prior to going anywhere with kids. If you push we leave.

The first time he pushes someone, pick him up and leave. Explain in a few words why you are leaving and that you warned him and he loses his play time because he was pushing.

I had a biter and had to do this method and it worked pretty fast.
yes we had a biter and we had to do this as well. It was very effective.
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