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|01-25-2013, 09:52 AM||#1|
How to take the last step? (long)
We've had a good run BFing my DS who will be 3 in spring, but it's time to wrap it up. I'm just not sure what the next step should be, in gentle careful weaning.
I'm attachment parenting and we've had some health issues that have made nursing very important up till now.
He EBFed on demand till 7 months, then not so much on demand at 12 months.
At 19 months I night weaned him, that went really well.
At 25 months he was diagnosed with a lot of severe food allergies, and asthma was added shortly thereafter, so BFing was really important to continue.
By December we were down to morning, bedtime, and naps on weekends. He started to skip some mornings, though, when something was going on other than coming to me for his AM snuggle.
A few weeks ago I started to cut out mornings altogether. Usually it was by getting up before he woke up, and more recently it's been OK to have our morning snuggle and say "No, mommy doesn't have milk now because you're getting to be a big boy, we just nurse for nite-nite now."
Also his Dad now lives here after being away for awhile, and LO stays with him 2 nights a week.
So we're currently nursing 5 bedtimes per week. I limit that too: if he isn't asleep in about 10 minutes, we stop nursing and rock and stuff instead. That doesn't work particularly well, it then takes him an hour to fall asleep.
We do have a long established bedtime routine that starts 2 hours before his bedtime.
Last week, we found his food allergies are improving, and it's a good time for him and for me, to finish weaning.
I'm really ready, but at the same time LO is dealing with a lot of changes. He LOVES that he sees his Dad almost every day now, but it's a big change in routine. I'm full time work/school now too, so our long lazy mornings together before daycare have been changed to getting up early and having my fiancee drop him at daycare on the way to work.
I'm also encouraging a drop in supply, having him nurse only on one side each night. With the 2 nights he spends with his dad, that means that each weak each breast has one 48 hour "rest".
So I don't know when/how to make the final step. He's *just* accepting that we don't nurse in the morning anymore. But D-future-H and I will be TTC in about 3 weeks, and given that I'm avoiding about 20 foods for LO's sake, and another few for mine, I need the wider nutritional choices that will happen only after we wean.
And yes, I have to be the one who puts him to bed. We have a busy family schedule and the time when I'm putting my son to bed is when D-future-stepdaughter gets her alone time with her dad.
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Last edited by TrennaII; 01-25-2013 at 10:06 AM.