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Old 01-30-2013, 08:58 PM   #21
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If your dad was going to help you out with a car can he help you with bunks instead? Do you know where the fathers are? Why is only 1 giving child support?

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Old 01-30-2013, 10:39 PM   #22
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Cps isnt always evil.

How old are your kids? What state do ypu live with? Thats going to help depend on If beds are a big deal.

Can ypu have a friend come over to help Keep the kids under control so you can talk with her and Keep track of Whats happening?

Social services didnt ask me about vaccines they did ask about dr and for his récords showing dates hes been there for care but mine was a Medical neglagence claim. So i dont know it came back unfounded.....

They checked for food, asked about the Medical concern, checked for running water, asked what I needed, checked for bruises, etc....

They did give me a vaccuum and hook me up with resources to help me. She was actually a great help to me.

I cosleep, dont vaccinate, etc... Im fairly free range. Itll be okay deep breathes

Do you have craigslist? I have found alot on there and freecycle. Maybe you can
find a bunk bed.
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My father has not been very helpful with things of late, and this matter proved no different.
I found and ordered a loft bed from Walmart, cheapest one I could find even with rush shipping (which I haven't received a shipping notice for yet, cross your fingers!) My mom has been kind enough to find money for a new twin sized mattress and a new toddler size mattress (my older son has completely destroyed his, I'd prefer not to pass it on with the toddler bed to my preschooler.)
After buying the bed, plastic mattress covers, and doing ALL the laundry, I am so beyond broke! I was able to sell a few things to help balance it out, cross fingers that I can sell off the last few infant items in my apartment this weekend! They are so very much in the way too.


I wish you could see my apartment and offer suggestions!
I will be putting my oldest into the play/sewing room with his new bed (we have all been in one bedroom until now, but he is almost 6 and I worry what he might see/hear/understand about mommy sleeping with her boyfriend hehe). I reorganized and cleaned that room like crazy yesterday, so it should be almost to my standards of acceptable. My living room feels very cramped and I wish I could think of a way to fix it in time. On the to-do list is all the regular "need to cleans" and those stupid carpets to shampoo. My boyfriend is here weekends, so he can help get the bed situation together (it is being shipped to him anyway).
We now have clean laundry and are way over stocked on healthy groceries, for a positive.
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For our county, children over 1 must be in their own room. .

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I don't think it was just that. There was probably an allegation of neglect that was communicated and that's why they're coming out. From what I've seen and heard (especially with my sis and her messed up family) you're lucky they gave you a "warning" call and didn't just show up.

You do sound overwhelmed, overworked, and unable to handle the kids. Maybe the school is picking up on that. At any rate, you can tidy up and what not but your attitude about and toward your kids is going to have the biggest impact on them, as well as the overall condition of the home. I would be honest with DCF. Tell them that you've had your share of bad things happening, hit a point where you felt downtrodden but you're working toward your goals in baby steps. Be honest about your abilities to parent your children, and tell them if they'll help you you're willing to do what it takes to make things right. They may have options and resources that you didn't know about. Once there is a paper trail it may hurt you a little bit but it may also help you to get whatever services and help are available to you and your children.
As a former DCF worker I have to say this is spot on. Your attitude will make a WORLD of difference. Ask for help and show them your willingness to change. BE HONEST because if you lie you'll get caught and it will make things much worse. Social workers can find out a lot of things just by calling. From what you've said I see several smaller red flags which the school has probably seen too. See this as an opportunity for change. Good luck!
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I don't think it was just that. There was probably an allegation of neglect that was communicated and that's why they're coming out. From what I've seen and heard (especially with my sis and her messed up family) you're lucky they gave you a "warning" call and didn't just show up.

You do sound overwhelmed, overworked, and unable to handle the kids. Maybe the school is picking up on that. At any rate, you can tidy up and what not but your attitude about and toward your kids is going to have the biggest impact on them, as well as the overall condition of the home. I would be honest with DCF. Tell them that you've had your share of bad things happening, hit a point where you felt downtrodden but you're working toward your goals in baby steps. Be honest about your abilities to parent your children, and tell them if they'll help you you're willing to do what it takes to make things right. They may have options and resources that you didn't know about. Once there is a paper trail it may hurt you a little bit but it may also help you to get whatever services and help are available to you and your children.
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For our county, children over 1 must be in their own room. .

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Really? Why? Kids can't share a room? That seems a bit extreme. We have a 3 br and 4 kids...
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For our county, children over 1 must be in their own room. .

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Well they don't have to have a room all to themselves, right? My kids share a room. Do you mean they just aren't supposed to room with mom and dad?
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Well they don't have to have a room all to themselves, right? My kids share a room. Do you mean they just aren't supposed to room with mom and dad?
Oh, I bet that's what she meant!
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Oh, I bet that's what she meant!
I hope so! My three share a room. Well technically my 3 year old sleeps with me but she has all her stuff up there.
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