Diaper Swappers

ashley84 · 01-27-2013, 12:20 AM

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Originally Posted by mmeneely

It has nothing to do with God and everything to do with either planning it or doing 'it' without knowing you were ovulating or using protection.
I have NO idea how people have pleasant surprises - your discharge is clear and stretchy when you are ovulating. It is for everyone and you can feel it when you wipe so even if you weren't looking for signs, you would clearly notice.

This isn't always true. Lots of people have tons of EWCM when they are exclusively nursing a young baby. It doesn't necessarily mean they are fertile.

We never planned to leave our child spacing up to God, but he took over. We struggled to conceive our DS and DD. We wanted more after DD was born, but we planned to wait a few years. Given our history, we didn't think we had to bother with any type of avoiding, at least not right away. I was nursing DD exclusively AND pumping and extra 20oz a day to donate. I got pregnant when she was 3 months old. I'm currently about 6 weeks into that pregnancy. Everyone is downright shocked - my midwives, my LC, our family doc, my doula, us, etc. We are having Irish twins, despite our history of struggling and the fact that I'm producing nearly enough milk to exclusively feed twins.

In hindsight, I should have known better but how could I have ever predicted this? I am very educated on ovulation signs. I've been tracking my cycles (FAM method) since 2008. My cycles came back really early with my DS. It was like 7 weeks postpartum. My midwife insisted that it must be delayed postpartum bleeding. She said there was no way that I got my cycle back so soon. I wasn't sure, but I wanted to believe her. I second guessed myself this time around. I was pretty sure I ovulated at the very end of November. I was between 8 & 9 weeks postpartum. Sure enough, my first postpartum period started just a few days later on December 4th. Still, there was a slight doubt in my mind. Maybe it was just the delayed postpartum bleeding that my midwife suggested that I had experienced the first time around. At any rate, I know how the body works. My luteal phase hadn't been even close to long enough to sustain a pregnancy even if one of DH's sperm had caught my potential egg. I wasn't worried. It takes us months of perfect timing to make babies!

At the end of December, I kind of suspected I was ovulating again. DH asked me if he should pull out. I laughed and told him not to waste his time. I got my BFP on Jan 9th. Sometimes it's just meant to be.

ambivalent_amy · 01-27-2013, 12:27 AM

DS1 & DS2 are three years apart (almost exactly to the day). DS2 & DD will be two years apart (again almost exactly to the day).

JackieMarieVDV · 01-27-2013, 01:03 PM

Our plan was to have about 2 years between my son and the next one. This would have worked out perfectly since my son was born June 14, 2011 and I got pregnant in October, to be due in July 2013. Our plans were put to a halt however, when I m/c this baby, I was 12 weeks, baby died around 8 weeks. So now, God has taken over and we will (hopefully) be blessed with a baby in His time. So, sometimes you can plan and try, and sometimes that just doesn't work and you have to accept what you are given.

Oh and to the person that said you can always notice when you are ovulating, I totally disagree. Some women don't have noticable amounts of CM, sometimes you have seemingly fertile CM at random times and may not be O'ing and sometimes you have too much on the mind or on the go to notice. Pleasant surprises are most definitely possible.

momEmac · 01-27-2013, 07:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mmeneely

It has nothing to do with God and everything to do with either planning it or doing 'it' without knowing you were ovulating or using protection.
I have NO idea how people have pleasant surprises - your discharge is clear and stretchy when you are ovulating. It is for everyone and you can feel it when you wipe so even if you weren't looking for signs, you would clearly notice.

I have to disagree. Every woman's fertility signals are different. I don't have any cm leading up to ovulation. I will be normal one day and the next, bam, lots of cm and I drop an egg. That's how I conceived my DS. We had just had a miscarriage and we were planning to wait a month or two before ttc again. We went away for a weekend and I had no signs of ovulating post miscarriage (I hadn't gotten af back yet) and we dtd the first night. The next day I had tons of cm and then it was pretty much gone the next day. We used protection the rest of the weekend, but I caught it that first night with no signs it was coming. I started having symptoms 10 days later and my first test was a bfp. My ultrasound dated back to that day I ovulated. Since we were already planning for a baby, it was a good surprise, but still unexpected. Not everyone has clear signs of fertility.

My iDevices are out to get me. Please excuse mistakes.

cdeweese · 01-27-2013, 07:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mmeneely

It has nothing to do with God and everything to do with either planning it or doing 'it' without knowing you were ovulating or using protection.
I have NO idea how people have pleasant surprises - your discharge is clear and stretchy when you are ovulating. It is for everyone and you can feel it when you wipe so even if you weren't looking for signs, you would clearly notice.

Ummm... Yeah, not so much

My children are less than 12 months apart and I never have EWCM nor had I fully resumed my cycles. And considering it took us 4 years and 2 losses before my DD was born, it was a VERY pleasant surprise

erin_c_odonnell · 01-27-2013, 08:06 PM

I get my period back right away and all of ours are between 17 and 2 1/2 yrs apart with 3 losses mixed in. We believe God is the author and creator of life. I'm actually in 2ww with 2 days left till I test

and

for 1.

and 2. No more losses

kannondicarpo · 02-03-2013, 03:17 AM

All of ours have been left up to His timing.

18 months
22 months
24 months

Don't watch for fertility signs -- just wing it!

raisingcropsandbabies · 02-03-2013, 04:45 AM

Dh felt led to not prevent or space pregnancies for 4 years... SO we had 4 in 4 years and 2 miscarriages. Through seeking God's will for our lives, He now feels we are to stop having babies. We use condoms and we haven't been pregnant in a year... the longest span EVER in our marriage! In seeking God and listening for His voice and direction for spacing/#of children, we are leaving our childbearing upto Him.

Spacing went:

14 mos.

19 mos. with 2 miscarriages in between, thus the longer spacing between 2 and 3

17 ms.

COgle3 · 02-03-2013, 05:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mmeneely

It has nothing to do with God and everything to do with either planning it or doing 'it' without knowing you were ovulating or using protection.
I have NO idea how people have pleasant surprises - your discharge is clear and stretchy when you are ovulating. It is for everyone and you can feel it when you wipe so even if you weren't looking for signs, you would clearly notice.

I think maybe you could have sat this discussion out. Just sayin

mommamitchell · 02-04-2013, 09:17 AM

#1 and #2 are 23 months apart. They were due 2 years ad 1 day apart but #2 came early. #2 and #3 are 29 months apart but would have been closer to 31 months is #3 had not come early.

All our ours were "planned" but we believe only by God's grace were we able to concieve them. We have only used birth control once andthat was after #2 son was born and only for 10 months. Other then that in our 8 year marriage we have not used any form of BC.

01-27-2013, 12:27 AM	#22
ambivalent_amy Registered Users Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: NB, Canada Posts: 876 Ratings: 65 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	DS1 & DS2 are three years apart (almost exactly to the day). DS2 & DD will be two years apart (again almost exactly to the day). __________________ Amy- SAHM, tandem nursing, co-sleeping, cloth diapering, carseat checkin' mama to Peter (4.20.08), Jasper (4.25.11), and Ruby (4.11.13). Wife to Chris

01-27-2013, 01:03 PM	#23
JackieMarieVDV Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Ontario Posts: 429	Re: If you left spacing up to god (or chance)... Our plan was to have about 2 years between my son and the next one. This would have worked out perfectly since my son was born June 14, 2011 and I got pregnant in October, to be due in July 2013. Our plans were put to a halt however, when I m/c this baby, I was 12 weeks, baby died around 8 weeks. So now, God has taken over and we will (hopefully) be blessed with a baby in His time. So, sometimes you can plan and try, and sometimes that just doesn't work and you have to accept what you are given. Oh and to the person that said you can always notice when you are ovulating, I totally disagree. Some women don't have noticable amounts of CM, sometimes you have seemingly fertile CM at random times and may not be O'ing and sometimes you have too much on the mind or on the go to notice. Pleasant surprises are most definitely possible. __________________ Happily married to my first love 06/27/10. SAHM to my silly monkey 06/14/11. Missing my 8 week angel. with baby #2, due late September 2013.

01-27-2013, 08:06 PM	#26
erin_c_odonnell Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: North Carolina Posts: 2,676 Ratings: 44 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: If you left spacing up to god (or chance)... I get my period back right away and all of ours are between 17 and 2 1/2 yrs apart with 3 losses mixed in. We believe God is the author and creator of life. I'm actually in 2ww with 2 days left till I test and for 1. and 2. No more losses __________________ Erin- Helpmeet to David, Deaf. Reformed Christian. Homeschooling. SAHM to 5 on earth, 3 in eternity. ISO: DESPERATELY want size 10 Ladder Hill Design bed wetting pants!!!

02-03-2013, 03:17 AM	#27
kannondicarpo Registered User Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Big Island, Hawaii Posts: 12,362 Ratings: 370 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: If you left spacing up to god (or chance)... All of ours have been left up to His timing. 18 months 22 months 24 months Don't watch for fertility signs -- just wing it! __________________ Shannon ~ Wife to Kevin \|\| 08.14.04 Mama to Nikolas Eli \|\| 04.14.07, Kate Elise \|\| 11.06.08, Charlene Keala \|\| 9.27.10 & Zakary Michael \|\| 10.25.12 ~ DiCarpo Designs Loving life on the Big Island! Last edited by kannondicarpo; 02-03-2013 at 03:19 AM.

02-03-2013, 04:45 AM	#28
raisingcropsandbabies Registered Users Join Date: Feb 2012 Posts: 1,106 Ratings: 1 Feedback: 100%	Re: If you left spacing up to god (or chance)... Dh felt led to not prevent or space pregnancies for 4 years... SO we had 4 in 4 years and 2 miscarriages. Through seeking God's will for our lives, He now feels we are to stop having babies. We use condoms and we haven't been pregnant in a year... the longest span EVER in our marriage! In seeking God and listening for His voice and direction for spacing/#of children, we are leaving our childbearing upto Him. Spacing went: 14 mos. 19 mos. with 2 miscarriages in between, thus the longer spacing between 2 and 3 17 ms. Last edited by raisingcropsandbabies; 02-03-2013 at 04:50 AM.