Pregnancy After Loss (Feb 1-14)

[Almacham]

Good luck Erica!

[canadianbakers]

Originally Posted by bumminbeachbabe Hi, I'm hoping I can join you ladies.

mama. I've said it before, but I am sorry about the loss of the baby. Just because there is a healthy baby growing in there, one that will be born... that doesn't make things all better and it doesn't mean that you should just forget about the one who died, or say "well at least we've got one".
It's totally okay to grieve the loss of that little one. And I can definitely see how it would be getting harder as you near edd - you should be meeting both of your babies but you'll only be meeting one... and this baby will be a constant reminder of the lost baby and what could have been.

Originally Posted by stevensmom u/s in less than an hour it's the quad screening/nuchael scan...that I was going to avoid this time since we got a horrible false positive with dd. But dh wants to know so he can "plan"

Good luck. Can't wait to see pics! for no positives - false or otherwise - this time.

Originally Posted by Almacham Elena, that's what I will do then... I called the high risk ob-gyn and I can't get in until the 28th of this month so I have two weeks to go before finding out exactly how long I am and the official due date.

[fishingfor5]

Originally Posted by bumminbeachbabe Hi, I'm hoping I can join you ladies. This pregnancy was a bit surprising. I started out so sick. Even more than usual. My dr thought I had my dates wrong because I had a measurable fundal height much further ahead of what I'd estimated. We had an u/s that showed that I'd been having twins, but on stopped developing. It was a shock to hear it. Nobody irl understands my feelings. As I get closer to delivery my heart aches a little more for the bean that didn't make it. I've tried talking to DH about it, but all he has to offer is that the baby was genetically incompatible with life. Um, not helpful. I know intellectually why it can happen, but these feelings are not tied with reason. A baby is a baby to me. Regardless of its length of life it was my baby. Anyways, I'm hoping that I've found a place here to get the support and empathy I need. I look forward to getting to know you all. Sent from my iPhone using DS Forum

Oh momma I am so sorry. I wish I could say my dh was always a winner with his support on our losses but it wouldn't be true. With each one though he did get better!! When are you due? Congrats on the little life you are continueing to grow.

Originally Posted by stevensmom u/s in less than an hour it's the quad screening/nuchael scan...that I was going to avoid this time since we got a horrible false positive with dd. But dh wants to know so he can "plan"

Hope it went well!!

deanna - If you need us to help you be strong on team green we are ready to help you!

Elena - and just more . Thank you for being so sweet and encouraging. Sounds like your dh got a wonderful woman. Everything will work out just fine. I had to laugh about the wall. Dh knows I would build one. My daddy is a carpenter.

Today is a good day. I started out spotting again but seem to have been given a peace today. I wish everyday were like this. Perhaps it's the cold making me less fretful and the fact that the dc are sick and I am coping with that too. DD1 spike a fever today..... Whatever it is I like it.

Oh and does anyone know if pregnancy hormones can cause a BF toddler to get hives? Seriously, dd2 broke out in hives several times today. I have no idea why. She hasn't had any fever or illness since Sunday, isn't eating or wearing anything new and I am not taking any thing new. I just find it weird. Her whole but was one BIG welt and she was scratching all around her upper thighs which also had welts. I wondered about the hormones as I have gotten hives at the start of a couple of my pregnancies. The first one being the WORST. I even had a few this time but just for one day about a week ago.

[mibarra]

Originally Posted by bumminbeachbabe Hi, I'm hoping I can join you ladies. This pregnancy was a bit surprising. I started out so sick. Even more than usual. My dr thought I had my dates wrong because I had a measurable fundal height much further ahead of what I'd estimated. We had an u/s that showed that I'd been having twins, but on stopped developing. It was a shock to hear it. Nobody irl understands my feelings. As I get closer to delivery my heart aches a little more for the bean that didn't make it. I've tried talking to DH about it, but all he has to offer is that the baby was genetically incompatible with life. Um, not helpful. I know intellectually why it can happen, but these feelings are not tied with reason. A baby is a baby to me. Regardless of its length of life it was my baby. Anyways, I'm hoping that I've found a place here to get the support and empathy I need. I look forward to getting to know you all. Sent from my iPhone using DS Forum

Realized I starting posting without introducing myself.

We were in a similar situation, except DD1s twin made it to 31 weeks. I was going to the doc everyday for biophysical profiles. Everything was fine Thursday afternoon. Friday morning I found out we'd lost DD1s twin, and went straight to the hospital for a c-section since they shared a placenta. It's so hard some days to look at DD1 and think about how her identical twin didn't make it....

DD2 was a run of the mill pregnancy. Then we had a miscarriage that was pretty devastating for me. Now we're expecting baby #3 early April.

I'm so sorry you lost one of your babies mama. I don't think you'll ever stop missing that baby. Be sad when you need to, but it's ok to be happy about the baby you do have too. It's a weird place to be and it's hard for anyone to imagine.

[canadianbakers]

Originally Posted by fishingfor5 Today is a good day. I started out spotting again but seem to have been given a peace today. Oh and does anyone know if pregnancy hormones can cause a BF toddler to get hives?

I'm glad you were able to feel peace.

about the hives. That's strange!

[Three Little Monkeys]

Can I join you ladies? I just got a BFP tonight. I'm still in shock. a little history: I had 2 very basic pregnancies with GD being my only complication. Then when dd1 was 3 I had my first mc. I had three more over the next 3 years. Finally in November 2011 we had our sweet rainbow baby. So technically I am pregnant offer losses + 1 healthy pregnancy. This wasn't planned and I have no idea where I am as far as dates go since I still have not had a PPAF. my worries now are this baby sticking and my milk supply for dd2. She has lots of food allergies and still needs Mommas milk!

[yellowitchgrl]

39 weeks today and still pregnant

[canadianbakers]

Originally Posted by Three Little Monkeys Can I join you ladies? I just got a BFP tonight. my worries now are this baby sticking and my milk supply for dd2. She has lots of food allergies and still needs Mommas milk!

welcome, congrats, and

Have you ever found any foods or anything that help boost your milk supply? For me, ice cream and oatmeal (cookies, thank goodness!) are a guaranteed booster. I've heard good things about "mother's milk tea" (or something like that) - though I'd check into what you can take while pregnant. I'd look into what's safe, and start taking it now, before there's a dip in supply, kwim?
Good luck!

Oh, and for a sticky bean for you mama.

AFM:

And happy 7 months for me & hiccup!

[canadianbakers]

Originally Posted by yellowitchgrl 39 weeks today and still pregnant

Or, sorry?

So glad everything is well - can't wait to see pics of your little rainbow, Sarah!

[yellowitchgrl]

Originally Posted by Three Little Monkeys Can I join you ladies? I just got a BFP tonight. I'm still in shock. a little history: I had 2 very basic pregnancies with GD being my only complication. Then when dd1 was 3 I had my first mc. I had three more over the next 3 years. Finally in November 2011 we had our sweet rainbow baby. So technically I am pregnant offer losses + 1 healthy pregnancy. This wasn't planned and I have no idea where I am as far as dates go since I still have not had a PPAF. my worries now are this baby sticking and my milk supply for dd2. She has lots of food allergies and still needs Mommas milk!

Welcome! Hopefully this will be a smooth sailing rainbow baby for you.

Yay for 7 months! Time is flying.

I don't mind still being pregnant, cause he's still wiggling around and my BP is staying down. I'm not miserable or anything, so he can keep cooking.