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Old 04-03-2013, 06:22 PM   #1
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She said that ds is extremely ADHD and I'm being naive in hoping that he will outgrow it and not need to be medicated. My mother and myself were both diagnosed with mental disorders that we believe stemmed from our environment more than an actual mental illness. (My mom was dx as an abused, controlled, young mother of 3. i was dx as an abused, unsupervised and often terrorized child.) We are both now normally functioning adults without being medicated. Can't I hope the same for my son?

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Old 04-03-2013, 07:31 PM   #2
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ADHD is a neurologic difference/ disorder, the brain functions in a fundamentally different way in some areas. Not all cases require medication, and there are other things you can try. Some cases do. Only you and your child can ultimately decide how to manage it.
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Old 04-03-2013, 10:08 PM   #3
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Re: I like our behavioral therapist but she kinda pissed me off tonight.

Have you ever tried medicating just to see what a difference it can make? While sometimes it is overused, as a teacher, I have seen cases where it was magic. Honestly, if you have a behavioral therapist that you like and trust telling you this, I might give her the benefit of the doubt. My best friend was diagnosed as an adult and started meds 6 months ago. The change in her has been amazing, and while she was coping ok, she feels so much better now that she is addressing it. It took a bit to find the right med though. Her take on it is that she feels so much better that she would medicate her own children in a heartbeat if they needed it.

We are working on a diagnosis for DD, who is 6. Right now, we all want to kill her a lot of the time, and I feel like our relationship with her would be so much better if we weren't frustrated by her bouncing off the walls, running through the house, and singing all the time.
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Old 04-04-2013, 01:46 AM   #4
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We tried clonodine at night to help him sleep and he kept wetting the bed and wet himself at school so I stopped it. We've only seen the therapist 4 times so I don't exactly trust her yet. Ds behaves differently with dh, very attention seeking. I'll elaborate more when I'm not half asleep!

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I'm not going to tell you to medicate your child, but I do want to tell you that there can be some very strong benefits to meds and share with yoj our success story. I worked in child development and in school aged child care and Rec programs for years and have seen a lot of kids on meds that were like little robot zombies so I was always really against medicating. When my son was dx'd with ADHD (he also is autistic and ODD) we tried everything else and eventually got to the point where we were desperate for any thing that might help even a little. ADHD meds are stimulants and I was told that basically if the brain chemistry is not off then the meds will make things worse not better so if we tried a lose dose we would know fairly quickly if they were going to help. I agreed to start him on the lowest dose of biphentin and we didn't tell anyone, no family, no friends, not even the school because I wanted to see if anyone noticed a difference without expecting there to be one. The second day at school on the meds I got a text from his teacher saying what an amazing day he was having. He completed work in the allotted time for the first time ever in all 4 years he had been in school and not only did he finish it but he was the first one done! The meds have made a huge difference in his academic ability and his self confidence as well. We had to adjust the dosing a couple times to find the right fit but it's been a year now and I wish I hadn't waited so long to start the meds because it could have saved a lot of frustration for everyone. It's a huge decision to make and reading the potential side effects can be scary so if you do decide to try meds be very open with your doctor make sure he/she is willing to work with you to find the right fit and explain the benefits and risks for each option and start of with very low dose, my son is still on a dosage that is technically far too low according to the guidelines but it works great for him and he doesn't need more than that.
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Re: I like our behavioral therapist but she kinda pissed me off tonight.

My oldest has ADHD and medication is a God send for her. When your used to your kid always being/acting certain ways especially your first it's really hard to see i think. I didn't see it at all and I'm a social worker lol. I see it in other children but my oldest I did not. She was my only for a long time and so we always did what she wanted to do and just without knowing it catered to her needs for always having to have something to do and we were always going places on the weekends. She was diagnosed in 2ond grade. Her symptoms were not being able to sit still at all in a structured setting, inability to concentrate, had a hard time understanding the task or directions. It's def a issue with her brain functioning a different way. She was put on meds and improvement was immediate. Then she started to verbalize that she didn't understand what was going on in class and her teacher was always upset with her. It broke my heart that she felt those things but didn't realize it was a problem at the time. She's been on meds ever since with last year 9th grade being a trial run no meds. Well let's say last year she really struggled getting B's and C's. I put her back on meds and this year and working very hard she's been on honor roll 3.8333 all year. When she turned 11yrs old her attitude went sky high if she was off meds. She would just spew whatever was on her mind with no filter. She didn't have that prior so I'm sure hormonal changes and tweendom. I also noticed in 7th grade that her meds helped control her impulsiveness that she started all of a sudden to have. My daughter would not be the success she is now without the help of her meds. We have also been integrating coping skills and putting in place things to help her in school since 2ond grade but she still cannot do most of things off meds. She takes the lowest dose of Addreall XR but it's pretty amazing the difference. Sometimes we have to do what is best for the kid and take us out of the picture. Maybe you should try meds if he does have ADD/ADHD and see how he does.
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I'm kind of wary of therapists, I suppose. We had one diagnose all 3 of us with depression by the second visit..... Ds' teacher doesn't think he has a problem with hyper activity or attentiveness. He's smart as a whip and has no trouble learning new things. His only real problem is with listening, which has gotten better lately. If anything, I'd think he has slight OCD or ODD. Idk, I just see a typical active boy, not ADHD behavior. He is a difficult child, for sure. But most definitely not worse than kids on supernanny! I feel like if dh would work with me on discipline then his behavior would improve.

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Re: I like our behavioral therapist but she kinda pissed me off tonight.

Well I have a son with Aspergers with ADD/ADHD, OCD/ODD behaviors and the list could go on. He also has issues with listening, and we recently found out he has an Auditory processing dysfunction.

When you say trouble listening is it trouble following directions, or trouble paying attention/focusing in class. Is it possible to provide visual cues or visual directions for him to see if makes a difference, maybe his brain just needs the visual to process it?

Also are you open to trying an alternative diet like SCD or GAPs, we have been on it for over 2 years and have seen some improvements, along with working on behavior modification, I think it helps takes some of the intenseness away.

I feel your reserve on meds Our Psychologist keeps pushing meds also, and as much as I'm not willing to look at it now, if our functioning dosen't start improving I may need to open up to the idea, looking at our sons situation and how it really may help his quality of life.
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DS is PDD NOS and recently diagnosed (but longtime suspected) ADHD. I was VERY against medication until last resort. My son has an IQ of 140 and is performing at C average in school because its interfering with his ability to focus and concentrate. When my dr explained that medicating him will allow his brain to function at his optimal level and give him the satisfaction of school success, I realized that my hesitation to medicate him was robbing him of his right to be successful. Two weeks ago we started meds. I already see improvement and what's more important, so does my son. He is developing self worth and its amazing.
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