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Old 04-09-2013, 10:06 AM   #1
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How to get toddler to sleep in her own bed

I need help. We bedshare, which I like with a young baby, but its difficult sharing with my 2 year old DD. I have tried to transition her to her own mattress on the floor next to us, but she climbs in be during the night. I want her to be able to sleep in her own bed though out the night, since we are expecting a baby in October. My husband wants a king size bed, instead of having her sleep in her own bed. How do I get her to sleep in her own bed??


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Old 04-09-2013, 10:16 AM   #2
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Re: How to get toddler to sleep in her own bed

I wish I had a magic answer. My oldest boy slept in my bed till he was 6. He would start the night in his bed in his own room then wake and come in my bed in the middle of the night. Over time it got later and later that he came in. Eventually it was just in the morning he would come in.

My now 4 1/2 yr old just never got out of his bed in his room when I put him in there at 18 mos old. Same with my now 3 1/2 yr old. My 12 month old still sleeps with us and I do not see this changing soon.
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Old 04-09-2013, 12:08 PM   #3
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Honestly, the answer is to be patient but persistent, kind but firm. Maybe give her goals. But since I've been through it before and I'm going through it again, I guarantee it can happen very successfully if you adjust your expectations a bit and cut everyone some slack.
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Old 04-09-2013, 12:16 PM   #4
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Try moving the mattress to a different room? I know with my almost 2yo DD, there's no way she would settle for a mattress on the ground if she knows a better option exists. We got DD special sheets with a dog print that she loves and took turns laying down with her on her mattress in her room before she started sleeping there on her own. We also used that setup for napping first, then tackled nighttime later.

I would vote for a king size bed too. Even if you move your kiddo out of the bed, it's inevitable you'll have 4 bodies in there at some point!

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Old 04-09-2013, 02:39 PM   #5
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Re: How to get toddler to sleep in her own bed

We always moved them into their own room, if they could see us, they wanted us.

With my daughter we skipped the crib (other 2 moved to cribs) and then I would lay with her in her room until she fell asleep. Then after a while I would just lay for a few minutes then leave and close the door, now I just tuck her in and leave. At first sometimes she would cry for about 30 seconds, and then stop. If she ever got worked up or was crying longer than a couple of minutes I would have gone in and comforted her again.
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Re: How to get toddler to sleep in her own bed

My method was to use the bed rail in towards our side of the bed. I bought a toddler bed from IKEA, it matched up a little higher to our old bed, but DS would roll onto our bed at night. So I used the bed rail that keeps them from rolling out of bed, on our side of the bed and had the other side by the wall. I would cuddle him with a pillow on the rail as he fell asleep then he could grab my hand under or over the rail if he wanted but it helped a lot with him staying in his bed. You could do the same with a pillow as well.

DS still wants to be next to our bed, but he doesn't get in our bed any more, which is nice as our old bed was just too small to have him in it too.
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