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Old 04-14-2013, 01:04 AM   #21
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When my daughter was just new, I embroidered socialist slogans, painted subversive bits of poetry, and (my favourite) a print of Duchamp's urinal with "Dada loves me" all over the cutesy, twee, ruffly, ribbony, glittery or otherwise objectionable clothes we got at the thrift store. I *love* her newborn pictures. I should do that again...
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Old 04-14-2013, 01:11 AM   #22
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Three generations of my inlaws (gmil, mil, sil) show love or something like love by buying clothing for my daughter. I show my daughter love by letting her wear pretty much anything in her wardrobe whenever she wants to. She's outside in the mud in (what I embarrasingly think of as pretentious) Ralph Lauren sweaters all the time. She has so much clothing that there is practically nothing I won't allow except for seasonally inappropriate clothing. So if she pulls out a dress with built in crinoline for a trip to the library so be it.

But I'm from the NE so I never put head-eating bows on my daughter anyway. And she has never been anyone's billboard - not even mine.
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Old 04-14-2013, 01:31 AM   #23
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As someone who was forced to wear TickleMe! brand overpriced boutique crap with matching hairbows until the 5th grade, I solemnly swear never to do the same to my daughter. I don't know if you guys remember this clothing line, but it had actual 3d stuff glued/sewn to it with matching leggings and bows. It was so embarrassing. I just wanted to be able to play and run with the other kids without having to worry about whether I would get in trouble for getting my stupid outfit dirty.

We mostly do basics, but that doesn't keep my family from sending us gigantic waves of pepto colored frill and bows. Honestly having a SAHD in our house nips any potential problems right in the bud! He wouldn't even know where to begin to put a bow or giant-baby-head-eating-flower in and I prefer to keep it that way. That's not to say our daughter doesn't have lots of "girly" clothes. She wears skirts/dresses and has pink stuff, etc, but it's all practical and comfortable. Most of it was cheap or second hand. I even let her wear skinny jeans (they fit her best), but it's usually with hoodies and high top addidas or chucks. They aren't very "sexy" or even girly at the point.

It's so strange to see the difference in what we and local friends and family bought and what we were gifted by American friends and family. We are expecting a boy now and when I went through our things to get the girly stuff out, 90% of it was from the States. I was beginning to think gender neutral clothing didn't exist over there anymore.
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As someone who was forced to wear TickleMe! brand overpriced boutique crap with matching hairbows until the 5th grade, I solemnly swear never to do the same to my daughter. I don't know if you guys remember this clothing line, but it had actual 3d stuff glued/sewn to it with matching leggings and bows. It was so embarrassing. I just wanted to be able to play and run with the other kids without having to worry about whether I would get in trouble for getting my stupid outfit dirty.

We mostly do basics, but that doesn't keep my family from sending us gigantic waves of pepto colored frill and bows. Honestly having a SAHD in our house nips any potential problems right in the bud! He wouldn't even know where to begin to put a bow or giant-baby-head-eating-flower in and I prefer to keep it that way. That's not to say our daughter doesn't have lots of "girly" clothes. She wears skirts/dresses and has pink stuff, etc, but it's all practical and comfortable. Most of it was cheap or second hand. I even let her wear skinny jeans (they fit her best), but it's usually with hoodies and high top addidas or chucks. They aren't very "sexy" or even girly at the point.

It's so strange to see the difference in what we and local friends and family bought and what we were gifted by American friends and family. We are expecting a boy now and when I went through our things to get the girly stuff out, 90% of it was from the States. I was beginning to think gender neutral clothing didn't exist over there anymore.
Gender neutral stuff is pretty hard to find at most of the common retail stores . Well here anyway(Texas)
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Old 04-14-2013, 05:06 AM   #25
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Hmmmmmm the hookers down my way don't wear big bows in their hair. Wonder if that's a regional thing
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Old 04-14-2013, 05:58 AM   #26
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Totally agree!

DH is with me... No big bows, no writing on your bum, and no shorty-shorts that show your undies/diaper. DD is two and it is getting increasingly hard to find age appropriate clothing. Its all glitter and zebra stripes and "live to shop with mom" stuff. We also have an issue with stuff looking too "baby" for a 2YO.
Oh yeah, fluffy frilly dresses - nope. She can go to church in a comfy cotton dress just as easily, and I care much less when she gets paint all over the front. Jesus still loves her IMHO
We have bought her boys clothes from birth. Sorry, she loves puppies and fire trucks as much as any boy. And she loves her Dad too, btw - not just Mom.
I also feel like i must be the only mom of a 2YO DD who has never painted her kids nails.
I am not, never have been, a girly girl, and if we wind up with one we will both be .
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Old 04-14-2013, 06:46 AM   #27
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Re: Simple moms of girls... Anyone with me?

I don't do big bows, I've made through almost 13 years as a mom of girls with no fancy hairdos and for that I am thankful. My 6 yr old is a huge tomboy but she might wear a tutu skirt with leggings and pink sparkle high tops while she is pulling a chicken around the yard in a wagon.

My 11 yr old wants pink dip-dyed hair but she prefers the fit of boy jeans. I think one thing I have managed to teach my girls is that true beauty is not dependent on what you wear and that you don't have to look like everyone else. Homeschooling helps with this a lot since there is no peer pressure about the latest fashions.

I have noticed since they were little that the type of compliments we get are based on what they have on. If my little girls were dressed in girly clothes then they got "Oh, she's so cute, look at her adorable little dress!!" but if they are dressed more conservatively in "normal" clothes the compliments are about their good behavior or that they have beautiful eyes etc.
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Old 04-14-2013, 07:07 AM   #28
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I have a little girl who LOVES to dress up...and I let her wear whatever frilly fancy dress she pleases. A big bow, a tiara...or whatever else she wants. She has more clothes than I do, and I'm fine with that. She wants to be a princess when she grows up, and I've told her all little girls are princesses.
No, I'm not going to let her wear pants with "juicy" or some other suggestive slogan on the butt...but she is a girl, and I will let her embrace that by being over the top girly if she pleases.
On the other hand I have another daughter who plays more like a boy than some boys I've seen. That's ok with me too!
I have only one girl and after three boys I was convinced she would be a roll in the mud loving little sister. Guess what? She LOVES frilly stuff and glittery shoes and wild bows. I let her help me pick out what she wear and that's okay with me. I BUY the clothes so obviously it only goes as far as I let it.

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Dd wears huge bows and loves them ! In fact she will not leave the house without a bow or headband on. She has clothes that she can't get dirty but she also has clothes that she can do whatever in. I don't see the big deal with her having nice clothes that I would like to keep looking nice. We also do a lot of complete outfits where everything matches from head to toe along with a ton of handmade clothing. I spend a decent amount of money on her wardrobe because I can't stand how "sexed up "most store bought clothing is in her size. We have strict modesty rules in our household so words on the behind and tight fitting clothing are not allowed so I'll agree with you there but not so much on the bow and nice clothing.
I agree with this. Dd has tons of adorable outfits that she can still play in, butt here's nothing weird with having things reserved for special occasions. I wouldn't go take my kids to the playground sand box in my spike heels. Those are for certain functions.
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I don't consider it to be whoring my daughter out to the consumerist machine if I put a bow in her hair. I let my kids wear whatever they want for the most part, and most things they are allowed to get dirty.

My daughter has dresses and hand-me-downs from my son, so she's got a good mix of clothes. Know what? At 18 months she picks the girls clothes to wear most days. Heck, my son even has pink sunglasses and likes to put on a tutu every once in a while.

When both kids were too little to pick their own clothes, I'd dress them both fancy (when I actually got them out of their sleeper). I liked it, they didn't care as long as I fed them. Everyone was happy.
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Also, I do appreciate a simpler look as well though. I love small bows too. With a little side part and hair swept to the side she looks classically adorable. When dd was tiny I only used lined snap clips and thin headbands. No bows bigger than a golf ball really. She's bigger now though and in the same way is let my boys wear basketball shorts with a polo if they chose, she can wear sparkle tights with toms, and cheetah print tutus with tee shirts. It makes no difference to me.
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