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Old 09-10-2013, 07:47 AM   #1
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Thinking about homeschooling

Hi all! I currently have 1 daughter and am a WAHM (super flexible schedule) and while she's just nearly 2, we are moving soon and the topic of schooling has been coming up a lot. I've been thinking a lot about homeschooling her and any future babies but my husband is very skeptical. Can you give me some insight as to the pros and cons? I know I'm in the homeschooling forum, so there are bound to be more pros I think he's mostly worried about the socialization aspect as the only homeschool kids he's met were very very sheltered and unsocialized as kids and now are pretty socially inept as adults. I know someone like that, but most of the kids I know are very social and have transitioned into community colleges with amazing grace while keeping up their grades.

I just don't want to get to the point where I'm having to make a split second decision on registering her for school or keeping her home

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Old 09-10-2013, 08:04 AM   #2
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Socialization is pretty much #1 on the list of what people point to as a con of homeschooling. If public school parents are honest with themselves the only socializing that should be happening at school is lunch time and recess...if a child socializes in the classroom they get in trouble. I know people who attended public/private school and they are socially awkward, at best.

My children get plenty of opportunities to socialize with people of all ages...homeschool coop, sunday school, church, home with family, neighbors, out in public at stores/library/park, soccer team, Mom's Bible Study that has classes for kids, etc.

Pros:
Can customize the curriculum to each child, and grade level doesn't have to be equal across all subjects
Focus on Biblical Foundation/Worldview
Family is #1
Better relationship for us as parents with children as well as for siblings
Flexibility for family vacations/illness/spur of the moment activities
Along the flexibility lines, can school year round so we can take vacations when it is cheaper/not peak times
One-on-one focus
Opportunities to explore what interests our children at any specific time.
Can teach my child who has SPD in a way that works for him and he isn't "labeled" the bad kid in school because of his needs.
Better educational opportunities than our public schools or even private schools can offer in our area.

Cons:
Some days are just tough
The house is never "perfect" but it is lived in
Financial strain if 2 incomes is ideal for your specific family

I know there are more pros and cons on my list, but this is all I can think of right now. If I think of more, I will add them.
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Old 09-10-2013, 01:36 PM   #3
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I was public schooled and I would still consider myself very socially inept. :/ It is something I work on every time I am in a social environment and I still frequently say the wrong thing or come off the wrong way.

I worry more about too much socialization, rather than not enough! DD1 and 2 are enrolled in Gymnastics for 1 hour each week plus 3 hours free gym, 2 hours of "chinese school" per week, homeschooling co-ops and meet ups (2-3 hours per week, sometimes more), Park play dates once a week, La Leche League Meetings they attend with me twice a month, trips to the library, museum, zoo, etc. I wish we stayed home more and spent less time socializing!
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Old 09-11-2013, 05:31 AM   #4
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Thank you ladies! You completely reinforced what I was thinking I'd love for dd to have more of a hands on approach to learning.
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Old 09-11-2013, 07:32 AM   #5
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I was public schooled and I would still consider myself very socially inept. :/ It is something I work on every time I am in a social environment and I still frequently say the wrong thing or come off the wrong way.

socializing!
Me too.

Dh and I were also both lost in the shuffle. We did well enough that we weren't a concern, but neither of us were really learning anything that would benefit us once we left school.

I really appreciate that my kids can spend more of their time as they choose, and become more familiar with their unique way of processing the world and figuring out how they fit in, rather than spending all their time learning other people's perspectives.

I also really appreciate that my kids spend more of their "social" time with each other. I think the sibling relationship is teaching them a lot about what a husband/wife relationship will be like, and they'll be able to date with a clearer perspective of what they need in someone else.
The "social" aspect of public school is IMO not really even healthy for more kids. I think it offers more negative points than positive.
In some cases it may not be do but overall I think it's true.

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I have one thing to say about the socialization aspect.

Go to any major college in your area and hang around where the grad students are. Talk to 10 of them and I bet you would find 8 of them are social inept. And out of those 8 probably 7 were public school educated. This is just how really driven focused people are. At least in my experience. When you are good in one thing you fall back on something else.

Personally I can fix the socialization with my sons, I have a limited window to teach them what I want them to learn though. So I would rather they are doing both or if I had to pick, education over speaking.

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I think you know the pros. But cons incl some kids/parent dynamic are better w parents as parents, not parents plus teachers.

Some parents are just not good teachers. I may get flamed for that, but its true.
They don't have the patience or the knowledge base, knowing when to help, when not to, how much to help, or xyz, the innate skills that make a good teacher. They can teach a workbook or facts, but its harder to teach the why, the critical thinking, the skills. Not saying anything about any individual but teaching well is not easy and if you have a good school options, why not take advantage of the wealth of expertise?

I can teach my child a science curriculum, but a good science teacher/expert will teach him SO much more.

The two do not have to be exclusive. You can do BOTH, and I think most good parents do. I do. My kids go to preschool while I do a job I LOVE where my expertise is needed and valued. At home, I teach my children all sorts of things, depending on their individual interest.

My children can get excellent educations in schools, being taught by experts in child development and learning styles and in individual fields. but that doesn't mean I won't be teaching them at home. Expanding on learning in their areas in interest, taking them to gymnastics and children's museums and doing art.

I go back and forth between homeschool or not. Will play it by ear, depending how public school goes. But right now, my kids are in a preschool that's an excellent fit for each of them.

Just be honest with yourself and your personality, abilities as well as your children's. wait and see what options are available.

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Parents are always teaching their children, whether they go to public/private school or not. Do I have this so called "patience" the previous poster mentions? Not really. But I love my children, and if I could teach them their colors, letters and numbers, how to get dressed, how to eat with a spoon/fork, etc. then I've already been their teacher for many years.
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Old 09-11-2013, 01:37 PM   #9
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Parents are always teaching their children, whether they go to public/private school or not. Do I have this so called "patience" the previous poster mentions? Not really. But I love my children, and if I could teach them their colors, letters and numbers, how to get dressed, how to eat with a spoon/fork, etc. then I've already been their teacher for many years.
Love this!!

Totally agree, it's not that we have some magical patience level that allows us to homeschool. As a Christian though, I feel that God will equip me to do everything that He calls me to do (including homeschooling).
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I read some of the above comments. Have you thought of 'afterschooling' your child? i.e. they attend public school & you work on educational subjects/syllabus at home after school. We are currently doing that with my 5 year old, and starting a similar (but scaled down) version for my 3 year old.
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