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Old 09-01-2007, 09:42 PM   #1
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DH wants to know the sex and I don't.

How have any of your resolved the situation when one of you wants to know the sex and the other doesn't? We've found out for our two other children, but this is our third and last. I don't want to know and this is my last chance to do it that way. DH is adamant that he wants to know. I refuse for him to know and not me, since I think that is unworkable for various reasons.

Even though I don't want to know, it would be much more convenient to know and that makes me feel like DH can push me over if he keeps pressing and pressing and pressing. Maybe that sounds confusing or wimpy, but there are a lot of decisions we make based on 90% certainty. I want DH to respect that, not keep trying to overthrow that 90%.

How did you guys resolve this dilemma?

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Old 09-01-2007, 09:46 PM   #2
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im not sure what id do!
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Old 09-01-2007, 09:59 PM   #3
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Re: DH wants to know the sex and I don't.

i said 'my way or the highway' of course...that might not be such a good idea if you're planning on staying married , we were already in the works of divorce so it was ok
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Old 09-01-2007, 10:10 PM   #4
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did you explain to him WHY you want this one to be a surprise?
if not i would have a serious talk and he shouold understand and be ok with the decision
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Old 09-01-2007, 10:51 PM   #5
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Oy, that's tough. We both wanted a surprise this pregnancy, and I'm so glad, it's fun to guess and think about.

I would just express all of your reasons for wanting to wait, and listen to all of his reasons for wanting to know, and go from there. You could always have the tech look and write down the gender in a sealed envelope, then either open it later if DH doesn't back down.
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Old 09-03-2007, 10:23 AM   #6
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Re: DH wants to know the sex and I don't.

Hmm, I guess I really do wear the pants (as some friends and family claim...I think it's pretty even), cuz he said wanted to know, I didn't, and that was it. End of discussion. He didn't push me on it at all. But we're not planning on having a US, and would have only done it to see, so our situation is a bit different than most.

Good luck with that one mama...
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Old 09-03-2007, 10:41 AM   #7
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It would be a hard one. If he knew he may let it slip to you ruining the suprise. With us we did not know the sex. I felt it was like opening my christmas present and then put it back under the tree. LOL Good Luck.
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Old 09-03-2007, 10:41 AM   #8
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Old 09-03-2007, 10:45 AM   #9
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well.. I think you should tell him that it isnt so much you dont want HIM to know.. it is more that YOU dont want to know.. meaning.. there is a possibilty of him saying.... SHE or HE... and ruining it for you .. tell him that this is the best gift you could ever get .. if he would just let it stay wrapped under the tree... btw.. he WILL find out sooner or later ya know..LOL...
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