Slow nurser? Help?? - Cloth Diapers & Parenting Community

Beaners_Mom · 12-20-2013, 04:16 AM

My DS was born on the 11th. We had some issues in the hospital, he lost 13 ounces and my milk took 5 days to come in. He's pooping and peeing just fine now, plenty of diapers, so my supply isn't the issue I think. It's just that he takes forever to nurse. I'm wondering if we are doing something wrong. He's been nursing for over 3 hours tonight and still screaming like he's hungry. He's getting milk, I can see it in his mouth, so that's not an issue either.

The problem is every time he nurses I'm looking at at least 2 hours to make him happy. That would be fine, if I didn't have to sleep or take care of my 5 1/2 year old or do any chores around my house...or do anything else really. He sleeps anywhere from 1 1/2 hours at a time to 3 hours (if I'm lucky). I just don't know how much longer I can function on 3 hours at night and maybe a 2 hour nap during the day.

I was reading online and they said a latch issue *might* be a reason why they nurse so long? I nursed my DD until she was almost 2, so the whole nursing thing isn't new to me. Someone tell me there's something I can fix because spending 3 hours at the breast every single time is going to drive me crazy from lack of sleep soon.

kanga1622 · 12-20-2013, 04:46 AM

I don't have any ideas but wanted to sympathize. DS1 took a minimum of 45 min to nurse and cluster fed in the evenings for 3+ hours. He had a HUGE sucking need so I introduced a paci at about 3 weeks so I could heal and get a little break between sessions.

Has he been checked for lip/tongue ties? I think those make it more difficult to transfer milk which would mean longer sessions to feel full.

I wish you luck and hope this is just a newbie adjusting to the world stage.

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Beaners_Mom · 12-20-2013, 04:50 AM

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Originally Posted by kanga1622

I don't have any ideas but wanted to sympathize. DS1 took a minimum of 45 min to nurse and cluster fed in the evenings for 3+ hours. He had a HUGE sucking need so I introduced a paci at about 3 weeks so I could heal and get a little break between sessions.

Has he been checked for lip/tongue ties? I think those make it more difficult to transfer milk which would mean longer sessions to feel full.

I wish you luck and hope this is just a newbie adjusting to the world stage.

Sent from my iPod touch using DS Forum

I haven't had him checked for those. How would I know if it was an issue? He has an appointment with his Pediatrician on the 30th. He takes a pacie sometimes. There are just times where I have to have a break...my DD needs help, the dog needs walked, dinner needs started, etc.

I hope it's just a stage too...in the hospital they told me 20 minutes at each breast and I wanted to laugh.

qsefthuko · 12-20-2013, 05:13 AM

He could be catching up for lost time. The time you were without milk and he lost weight.

He might also be comfort nursing.

Or he might have reflux. My youngest was constantly nursing. I found out later he had reflux. I strongly think the 2 were linked. When he would nurse it would push the milk and acid back down making him feel better.

It could be many different things. Can you learn to baby wear and nurse so you can get things done and spend time with your older child?

carriek38 · 12-20-2013, 05:16 AM

One of my girls is a slow nurser (the other has a super-strong suck & is done in 10 min) & it drives me nuts. It takes 30+ min to feed her & she frequently cluster feeds in the evening, as well as just "playing"/comfort nursing & not really transfering milk. She doesn't have any ties or other issues that I know of, but thereis some good info online about spotting ties--my fast nurser has a lip tie--& ask the pedi, LC, NP, etc to confirm. ENTs & dentists frequently do the correction. TBH, I sometimes just get touched out at the double nursing & long sessions...I'll do some compressions to make sure she gets enough & then take her off my breast, or nurse her for a reasonable amount of time & supplement with some pumped milk. There's something to be said for it, though, b/c she's gaining weight like gangbusters, while the other twin is gaining but much more slowly.

AmandaHW · 12-20-2013, 07:19 AM

My first son did this, turns out he did have a tongue tie. After that got fixed, things did get better. I would suggest getting to a LC now...not waiting until the 30th and see if they can watch him nurse and take a look at his tongue. He never ended up being a "fast" nurser but at least they weren't marathon sessions. He also had reflux, so that could have contributed as well.

12-20-2013, 04:16 AM	#1
Beaners_Mom Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: NY Posts: 2,448 Ratings: 28 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	My DS was born on the 11th. We had some issues in the hospital, he lost 13 ounces and my milk took 5 days to come in. He's pooping and peeing just fine now, plenty of diapers, so my supply isn't the issue I think. It's just that he takes forever to nurse. I'm wondering if we are doing something wrong. He's been nursing for over 3 hours tonight and still screaming like he's hungry. He's getting milk, I can see it in his mouth, so that's not an issue either. The problem is every time he nurses I'm looking at at least 2 hours to make him happy. That would be fine, if I didn't have to sleep or take care of my 5 1/2 year old or do any chores around my house...or do anything else really. He sleeps anywhere from 1 1/2 hours at a time to 3 hours (if I'm lucky). I just don't know how much longer I can function on 3 hours at night and maybe a 2 hour nap during the day. I was reading online and they said a latch issue might be a reason why they nurse so long? I nursed my DD until she was almost 2, so the whole nursing thing isn't new to me. Someone tell me there's something I can fix because spending 3 hours at the breast every single time is going to drive me crazy from lack of sleep soon. __________________ Jessica Partner to my S Mama to my Gabby and Duncan Last edited by Beaners_Mom; 12-20-2013 at 04:19 AM.

12-20-2013, 04:46 AM	#2
kanga1622 Registered Users Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 1,015 Ratings: 5 Feedback: 100%	I don't have any ideas but wanted to sympathize. DS1 took a minimum of 45 min to nurse and cluster fed in the evenings for 3+ hours. He had a HUGE sucking need so I introduced a paci at about 3 weeks so I could heal and get a little break between sessions. Has he been checked for lip/tongue ties? I think those make it more difficult to transfer milk which would mean longer sessions to feel full. I wish you luck and hope this is just a newbie adjusting to the world stage. Sent from my iPod touch using DS Forum __________________ Married since 2002, Doggy mama since 2004, Mama to DS1 since 03/2010 and DS2 since 06/2013. We BF, ERF, and CD. Always missing our little angels: 05/09 and 09/12.

12-20-2013, 05:13 AM	#4
qsefthuko Registered Users Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 13,119 Ratings: 85 Feedback: 100%	Re: Slow nurser? Help?? He could be catching up for lost time. The time you were without milk and he lost weight. He might also be comfort nursing. Or he might have reflux. My youngest was constantly nursing. I found out later he had reflux. I strongly think the 2 were linked. When he would nurse it would push the milk and acid back down making him feel better. It could be many different things. Can you learn to baby wear and nurse so you can get things done and spend time with your older child? __________________

12-20-2013, 05:16 AM	#5
carriek38 Registered Users Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Ponyville Posts: 8,220 Ratings: 60 Feedback: 100%	Re: Slow nurser? Help?? One of my girls is a slow nurser (the other has a super-strong suck & is done in 10 min) & it drives me nuts. It takes 30+ min to feed her & she frequently cluster feeds in the evening, as well as just "playing"/comfort nursing & not really transfering milk. She doesn't have any ties or other issues that I know of, but thereis some good info online about spotting ties--my fast nurser has a lip tie--& ask the pedi, LC, NP, etc to confirm. ENTs & dentists frequently do the correction. TBH, I sometimes just get touched out at the double nursing & long sessions...I'll do some compressions to make sure she gets enough & then take her off my breast, or nurse her for a reasonable amount of time & supplement with some pumped milk. There's something to be said for it, though, b/c she's gaining weight like gangbusters, while the other twin is gaining but much more slowly. __________________ Carrie. Wifey to F, Mama to Baby Bear, Nugget, and Teeny.

12-20-2013, 07:19 AM	#6
AmandaHW Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 1,394 Ratings: 198 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Slow nurser? Help?? My first son did this, turns out he did have a tongue tie. After that got fixed, things did get better. I would suggest getting to a LC now...not waiting until the 30th and see if they can watch him nurse and take a look at his tongue. He never ended up being a "fast" nurser but at least they weren't marathon sessions. He also had reflux, so that could have contributed as well. __________________ Amanda: mama to 3 awesome boys...L(9) , R(7) and N(12/29/13)