View Poll Results: Which do you think is the best path? | |||
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12 | 36.36% |
Pull him and start home schooling |
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16 | 48.48% |
other |
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5 | 15.15% |
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Re: ds failing school what is the next turn?
It is an unusual situation, but since every kid is unique, it is what it is.
Since he is upset about his grades, he obviously cares. Did the teachers see his reaction? My son had huge problems in middle school after doing great in elementary and his teachers kept telling me he didn't care. Meanwhile, he would walk in the door and break into tears. It can really devastate a child. I would wonder about the differences between homework time and testing time. At homework time, do the kids get to move around? He is already stressing about his grades and he may be getting some not so very helpful, help. Reading is such an important skill and if they won't give him the help he needs, you might have to do something differently. School districts are desperate to cut costs. Some of the testing is subjective. I know in my district, they really hesitate to identify any problem unless there is no way to deny it. They don't have the staff they need as it is, identifying more kids means hiring more staff. I took my son to be privately evaluated. They picked up a processing issue and he got tutoring. Testing and tutoring was on my dime, school said they didn't offer tutoring for processing issues. It was hard, but it was worth every penny. He also started seeing a therapist to help him deal with the issues coming about because of the school difficulties. Hugs, mama. It is so hard to watch them when they are going through something like this. Advertisement
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Re: ds failing school what is the next turn?
I would leave him in school the whole year, then work on it this summer to bring him back up.
If you want him to stay in public school after this year, have him tested to see if he can get some extra help. I don't think teachers are going to do this for him without a diagnosis though, so you guys need to do that part. It sounds like he just isn't in the best learning environment for him. It might be great for most of the kids, but it's not a one size fits all type thing.
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When my kid needed special services, and the school didn't want to pay for it, I had testing done privately, and recommend from his doctor, and forced their hand. Once I had enough documentation (and didn't trust them for documentation, as it was financially beneficial for them to make him look better than he was) they legally couldn't say no.
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I am sorry mama - it sounds like schools have really failed your son. If he can do the homework but not the tests something is wrong.MIT could be lots of things... Dyslexia, anxiety, something else.
I think what I would do would depend on my kid. If I felt like the whole experience was damaging him emotionally I would pull him out now and hs while also exploring options. If he generally likes being there I would camp out at the school and demand services or retesting - if he is failing they are not meeting his needs. He is not being lazy. There is clearly a problem and they are obligated to address it. Fwiw our dd really suffered in ps. She is now in a Montessori charter - it's like night and day, just not having to constantly compare herself to the other kids and the working with objects really helps. I don't know where you live but there may be alternative schools, charter schools, online schools.
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Re: ds failing school what is the next turn?
I think it's truly time for private testing regardless of what you do . The home schooling education didn't really solve the problem either although it was no doubt easier on his self esteem. But either way, he should be able to get semi decent grades at school if he is trying. Clearly there is a something more at work there and you can't solve it until you know exactly what the problem is.
Once you know what the problem is you can make a better decision about the best place for him to be educated. |
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My son has told me they go to fast for him in school. He wants me to tell his teacher he needs the class to slow down so he can catch up. They go to fast he says. |
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I could do my math homework my freshman year of high school. I could take my time, maybe get my dad to explain a concept I totally wasn't getting. Tests were much more difficult. Eventually my teacher (who was AWESOME) said I (and a couple of other kids) could take our time on our tests, come back to finish them during study hall or lunch. Suddenly my grades on tests went up. For me it wasn't anxiety or comprehension but speed of work. So that makes perfect sense to me.
My brother just barely graduated from high school. He's an awesome guy now but man, he had it rough in school, and for years after. He could read, but he couldn't seem to understand what he read. But he was never quite far enough behind to qualify for services. (Sound familiar?) I wish my mom would have really fought harder for him, but she felt hopeless. We all did. Him finishing his homework each evening was like this epic family struggle--we all wanted to help but we couldn't always and he'd get frustrated and there would be yelling--ugh. Now, he's 28, married, they're expecting their first child, and he and his wife read out loud to each other before bed. No joke. Classics, Jack London and Moby-**** and stuff. I wish his path to this point hadn't been so difficult, but I'm so proud of him.
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