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Old 08-05-2014, 04:45 PM   #11
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Sometimes I have to physically separate my two fighters. They are 12 and 7 BTW.

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Old 08-05-2014, 07:23 PM   #12
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I am sure this has been addressed, but wanted some advice. My 4.5 year old twin boys fight a lot. Not constantly. They like each other and play well together and want to be together most of the time. We are putting them in separate classes for pre-K next year, and hopefully having some time apart will be helpful. We tried separate rooms at night, but they hated it and cried and said they were scared, missed each other, etc. I do 20 minutes of special one-on-one time with them every single day.

When they fight, it always leads to hitting, throwing a toy at each other, biting, etc. I try to intervene early, but I am not always right there. I have tried time outs, as well as talking through a better way to work it out. Their fight are nearly always over a toy.

I just don't feel like this is getting better! I feel like they have good verbal skills and should be able to at least attempt to work it out!

My go to has always been taking the item away. You need to explain to them aggressive behavior is not tolerated nor rewarded. I always used the saying:"You have to act right to get nice things," then removed the toy. Eventually they will get smart and talk it out in order to keep the toy, or they will continue to argue, subsequently lose toys and eventually have nothing to argue over.
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Old 08-05-2014, 08:06 PM   #13
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Great thread, getting some really helpful ideas.
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Old 08-07-2014, 01:27 PM   #14
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I think so too, BusyPAMommy! Thanks for the good ideas.
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Old 08-07-2014, 01:29 PM   #15
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Suzi- thanks for the insight about the fits. I would like to tape one of his fits to see where things go so wrong. When we get to the end of the fit, I am always asking myself, "how did an argument over something so small/stupid escalate to such a huge fit? How could I have cut it off?"
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Old 08-07-2014, 02:52 PM   #16
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My brother and I did not stop fighting like this until well into the teens ....so. Sorry, can't help ya. And my brother was older than me by five years. We are great friends now.
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