Diaper Swappers

sunshinemama · 07-28-2006, 01:21 PM

I need a little advice. DS goes to daycare 2x a week. He has a best friend that goes 5x. I'm guessing his friends family is very affectionate, and that's fine. Now mind you this isn't all the time but when I pick ds up, half the time he will go give his friend a hug and the friend will give him a kiss. My problem is with the kiss. We don't kiss non family or very very close friends, mostly because we have a 5 mo old and we really don't need me or him coming down sick. I was sick for 2 days when he was around 1 month and it wasn't pretty.

How would you approach this on a 4yr old level? His friend is about 31/2yr old. I want to bring this up with the day care provider so she can help but I don't want to hurt the little boys feelings or offend his parent's if it gets back to them in a wrong way, kwim?

Carrie · 07-28-2006, 01:27 PM

If he doesn't kiss him on the lips (lol) I'm not sure there would be a huge risk of sickies. You could always wipe off the spot where he kissed after getting in the car and explain that saliva spreads germs etc. but that you don't want to hurt the friend's feelings. If they are in daycare together there are probably plenty of other opportunities for them to share germs anyway. I wouldn't have a problem, but then I have twin boys who like to kiss each other. I think 4 year olds will probably outgrow this soon!

sunshinemama · 07-28-2006, 01:49 PM

Unfortunately it's right on the lips. I think I'll encourage him to let him kiss his cheek. I know they have tons of opportunity to share germs through out the day but the directness of it doesn't help me not freak out inside. I know I'm crazy but I'm a freak when it comes to having babies in the house. DF gets the look when he takes one step off the tile and onto the carpet, that ds2 rolls around on, w/o taking off his shoes.

Watercolor Ponies · 07-28-2006, 02:07 PM

Maybe ask them to hi five instead of kissing. Give them some sort of substitute for the behavior that you want to avoid. Or blow kisses, which my dss love bcs they can be all dramatic!

Carrie · 07-28-2006, 02:27 PM

oh right on the lips? Gotta admit that is a bit odd.

sunshinemama · 07-28-2006, 02:43 PM

I like the high 5, thanks for the suggestion. I'm gonna try it

escapethevillage · 07-28-2006, 02:51 PM

I am a daycare provider. I wouldn't allow lip kissing. I tell the kids "No face touching" at all. They are not allowed to get in each other's face for any reason. Mostly because of germs, but partly because it is an invasion of personal space.

Is the provider comfortable with this kissing???

sunshinemama · 07-28-2006, 02:59 PM

I'm not sure if she knows or thinks I'll handle it. It's only when ds is leaving. I'm definitely going to mention it. She's really cool about enforcing what each parent rules (not the right word) but I gotta run for now

07-28-2006, 01:21 PM	#1
sunshinemama Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 1,269 Ratings: 91 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	DS and Day care issue I need a little advice. DS goes to daycare 2x a week. He has a best friend that goes 5x. I'm guessing his friends family is very affectionate, and that's fine. Now mind you this isn't all the time but when I pick ds up, half the time he will go give his friend a hug and the friend will give him a kiss. My problem is with the kiss. We don't kiss non family or very very close friends, mostly because we have a 5 mo old and we really don't need me or him coming down sick. I was sick for 2 days when he was around 1 month and it wasn't pretty. How would you approach this on a 4yr old level? His friend is about 31/2yr old. I want to bring this up with the day care provider so she can help but I don't want to hurt the little boys feelings or offend his parent's if it gets back to them in a wrong way, kwim? __________________ Sunshine Wishes\| HC \|Need your onesies converted? T's Boutique\| HC Granola Chicks 1 & 3rd Thursdays \| Mom's Boardwalk 2nd & 4th Fridays

07-28-2006, 01:27 PM	#2
Carrie Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 690 Ratings: 8 Feedback: 100%	Re: DS and Day care issue If he doesn't kiss him on the lips (lol) I'm not sure there would be a huge risk of sickies. You could always wipe off the spot where he kissed after getting in the car and explain that saliva spreads germs etc. but that you don't want to hurt the friend's feelings. If they are in daycare together there are probably plenty of other opportunities for them to share germs anyway. I wouldn't have a problem, but then I have twin boys who like to kiss each other. I think 4 year olds will probably outgrow this soon! __________________ Carrie (28), wife to Mark (31), mama to identical twin cuties Ethan and Ryan (27 mo.)

07-28-2006, 01:49 PM	#3
sunshinemama Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 1,269 Ratings: 91 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: DS and Day care issue Unfortunately it's right on the lips. I think I'll encourage him to let him kiss his cheek. I know they have tons of opportunity to share germs through out the day but the directness of it doesn't help me not freak out inside. I know I'm crazy but I'm a freak when it comes to having babies in the house. DF gets the look when he takes one step off the tile and onto the carpet, that ds2 rolls around on, w/o taking off his shoes. __________________ Sunshine Wishes\| HC \|Need your onesies converted? T's Boutique\| HC Granola Chicks 1 & 3rd Thursdays \| Mom's Boardwalk 2nd & 4th Fridays

07-28-2006, 02:07 PM	#4
Watercolor Ponies Professional, Proficient, PeeWell Procurer (or anything else you want me to stalk!) Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Fredericksburg, VA Posts: 1,421 Ratings: 52 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: DS and Day care issue Maybe ask them to hi five instead of kissing. Give them some sort of substitute for the behavior that you want to avoid. Or blow kisses, which my dss love bcs they can be all dramatic!

07-28-2006, 02:27 PM	#5
Carrie Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 690 Ratings: 8 Feedback: 100%	Re: DS and Day care issue oh right on the lips? Gotta admit that is a bit odd. __________________ Carrie (28), wife to Mark (31), mama to identical twin cuties Ethan and Ryan (27 mo.)