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Old 12-03-2007, 08:00 PM   #1
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When your 3 year old throws things ...... at you.....

What do you do? And how do you keep your cool. The pillow wasn't so bad it was soft. But I didn't like her trying to throw her shopping cart at me.

She's also started kicking us. I'm not amused not one little bit. And the back talking, and refusing to eat any meal we give her that doesn't consist of peanut butter or cheese. Lets not forget tempter tantrums that result in her either throwing herself into to a wall, almost cracking the railing on her crib/daybed, or almost cracking her head open on the hard floor (we're on the first floor, there's concrete under that carpet).

I'm just at a loss. My normally super patient boyfriend is losing his patience very fast. And I can't even nurse the baby (if you read my post in BF support you know where I'm at with that) without DD#1 ending up in the bathroom playing in the toilet.

We ask her sit down or go to her room then tell her to go to her room and we get a "no!" and when we start to get up or move towards her to escort her to her room she decides to sit. Her listening is non-extant, and her back talking is at an all time high. She's so hyper I can't even sit down with her to get her to count to 10 with me. Just argh!!

Any ideas at all as to what I can do to curb this????

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Old 12-03-2007, 08:17 PM   #2
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Ok, here's my advice, not from having a 3 year old but from having worked with them.
Is it possible that she is jealous of your relationship with the baby? Sometimes kids will do that stuff when they are angry but don't know how to say it. It's possible she feels left out when you sit down to nurse the baby and she knows that playing in the bathroom will get her attention from you. Any attention, bad or not, is better than no attention in a kid's eyes. She may just need some one on one time with you doing something WITHOUT the baby around. It is very frustrating to have a child that age not listen to you, because they are starting to get old enough to hurt you, even if it's on accident. As for the food thing, she'll eat when she's hungry. Don't stress about that. I'd worry more about her emotional well being at this point. She just sounds kind of angry, and possibly sad.
Hope that helps! Good luck!
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Old 12-03-2007, 08:20 PM   #3
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Re: When your 3 year old throws things ...... at you.....

nak....sounds like my ds twin!! He has got way worse since the new baby. I'll b watching this thread.
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Ahhh...my 20 month old dd is starting to throw things at me..an unfortunate result of having a daycare..monkey see, monkey do...3 yr old twins that throw things when mad!
I tell her it is not okay and take away the item she threw. Time outs when necessary!
Chances are your dd is trying to adjust to the baby. My ds went through a phse of getting into everything when dd was born. Baby locks and latches work for a bit....even when they figure them out, it buys you a few minutes to keep them out of things. As far as eating goes, with my kids I offer, but do not force or substitute food, so if they are hungry, they eat. And I offer healthy snacks between meals. Food is not worth battling over!
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Re: When your 3 year old throws things ...... at you.....

I too will be watching this thread. My 3 yr old has been "challenging" me all the time lately. I want my sweet boy back!
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Ok, here's my advice, not from having a 3 year old but from having worked with them.
Is it possible that she is jealous of your relationship with the baby? Sometimes kids will do that stuff when they are angry but don't know how to say it. It's possible she feels left out when you sit down to nurse the baby and she knows that playing in the bathroom will get her attention from you. Any attention, bad or not, is better than no attention in a kid's eyes. She may just need some one on one time with you doing something WITHOUT the baby around. It is very frustrating to have a child that age not listen to you, because they are starting to get old enough to hurt you, even if it's on accident. As for the food thing, she'll eat when she's hungry. Don't stress about that. I'd worry more about her emotional well being at this point. She just sounds kind of angry, and possibly sad.
Hope that helps! Good luck!
I couldn't have said it better myself.
and a bit to add. Your baby is 4-5 months? i think DD#1 is seeing that she is here to stay. At first the new baby was so anticipated and brought so much fun. But now the routine is getting set she sees she's not getting as much ono on one as before. It's easy to see why she's not. the baby of course. Or that's how she sees it.
Get her more involved with the daily "baby chores". When you have even 10 minutes alone with her to do a quick activity or a bath or anything at all where the baby is not with you tell her how you enjoyed spending some time alone just the two of you.
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Old 12-03-2007, 10:51 PM   #7
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I guess I should be happy she still tries to dole out hugs and kisses to the baby...... heh.
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In my house, which is not everyones house, if you can't play with your toys right, they are mine, and I put them where you can see them, but not touch them. Same for not sharing, i take them, and I don't share. Also, time outs work well.

But, look to see what the real issue may be, perhaps a special trip with your dd is needed. We have mommy/katelyn days, and we don't take the baby. Usually we got to the mall and get a cookie from the Great American Cookie company...and then go eat dinner. She thinks it is so funny to eat dessert first. Usually her behavior/mood improves drastically after that!

Also, when dd # 2 was your daughters age, it was worse. It is getting better now that dd is a bit older, and thinks my older dd is the funniest thing in the world. It has only been in the past three weeks that Katelyn has started to interact with Lauren.
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