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Old 01-06-2008, 06:03 PM   #121
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Re: ok, so do you guys REALLY wait 6 wks PP to DTD?

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We waited about 3.5-4 weeks for the lochia to stop and my 20+ stitches to fall out. But I had to "re-learn" to "O" again or at least to allow myself to relax enough to "O" again!
you "O" when you dtd??

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Old 01-06-2008, 07:02 PM   #122
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Re: ok, so do you guys REALLY wait 6 wks PP to DTD?

Not only did I wait the full 6 weeks, but I would have happily waited 6 months...maybe even a year...lol

I was NOT in the mood, I had some issues with my episiotomy stitches - namely, my OB could not stitch one small part of it and that area had to heal naturally without stitching.

My husband was just about climbing the walls at 6 weeks though, so I had a couple glasses of wine and got it over with. Not romantic, and it wasn't particularly great, but it was either that or I feared his head would explode...lol

This time? He KNOWS that I'm not going to feel pressured or "guilted" into DTD before I'm truly ready to. It caused a lot of problems for me, and he would really lay on the guilt pretty thick. I'd say it was our biggest fight for the first 6 months to a year after Evan was born. I ended up getting more and more bitter about it, making me want it even less...
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Old 01-06-2008, 07:09 PM   #123
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Re: ok, so do you guys REALLY wait 6 wks PP to DTD?

It was more like 5-6 months.. I had really bad tears (something like 30 stitches needed) so there was no way in heck I was going to DTD anytime soon after after DD. After I healed we were in the middle of an international move so we were sleeping on the floor and there was no way that it was going to happen there either.
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Old 01-06-2008, 07:23 PM   #124
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we wait for bleeding to become pink. Midwife told me not too early since wounds of birth are 'fresh' and could be a breeding ground for infection in the uterus. On average it's btwn 6-10 days or so. don't specifically remember each time! LOL!
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Old 01-06-2008, 07:41 PM   #125
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Re: ok, so do you guys REALLY wait 6 wks PP to DTD?

The first time I waited 6 weeks and I still didn't want to. I have either a type 3 or 4 laceration all the way through. I was so traumatized down south I didn't think I would ever let DH touch me again. I caved to him around 6 weeks and it was painful and I bled. I don't even remember how long it was the second time, but my laceration wasn't as deep and I healed quicker, so I think I was in the mood quicker, but still in no hurry.
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Old 01-06-2008, 07:52 PM   #126
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So is it true you are more fertile during those 6 weeks? After reading this thread I figured it was ok for us to dtd (we normally wait till after 6 weeks and Im 5 weeks pp right now) and we didn't use bc. Im not sure why. I am very fertile. I have 4 lo and my oldest is 3 1/2, no twins. I'm not sure why I didn't think it would count to need to use bc. I get pregnant even when I use bc. Ok. breathe. I would love more children but my body needs a break. Just freaking out.
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Old 01-07-2008, 08:03 AM   #127
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Re: ok, so do you guys REALLY wait 6 wks PP to DTD?

I don't remember how long we waited after DS (4-6 weeks, I think), but I had 2nd degree laceration and was extremely sore for about 8 weeks and uncomfortable for another 4 or so. Needless to say, we didn't DTD very much the first few months of DS's life.

WTG for you ladies who have the desire to DTD before then!
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