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Old 01-10-2008, 12:42 AM   #11
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I want to do what he wants me to do (if that makes any sense) but I don't know what he wants
Oh, I so know that feeling. I am still waiting for my 25 month old to really get going with the talking so he can just tell me what he's so stinking mad / sad / frustrated by. We've had lots of nights like that. I am not anti-CIO (), but I would hold him for quite awhile too, and then pat him for awhile in his crib. It happens way less than it used to...hang in there!

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It is NOT CIO if you are attending to him. Now, leaving him in his crib to cry wondering where mama is...THAT Is CIO.

Sarah, i PROMISE you...this too shall pass.
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Aw, hon. This is definitely just a phase, and it will pass. I know how hard and heartbreaking it is, though.

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mama! I feel your pain. My 9 month old does the same thing. He cries if I lay him in his crib and rub his belly or back and he cries if I pick him up and try to rock him. He arches his back and squirms all around.

I havent found a solution yet, so I definitely feel your pain. Goodluck!!
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Old 01-10-2008, 08:34 AM   #15
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I don't consider it crying it out if you are trying to comfort them..no one can just MAKE them stop crying. I consider CIO when you just leave them to cry alone. Maybe he is getting TOO tired have you tried getting him to bed earlier..or nap a little later so he isn't so tired come bedtime?
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Do you feel like you are doing something bad by holding them? Don't worry about labels like CIO or whatever, just do what feels right to you. If holding him feels right, do so! If it doesn't, don't! Each baby is different and there are no rules to parenting!
Ditto! And I'd add that there are all sorts of degrees of crying and *most* of them (in my opinion) aren't going to damage a baby. I didn't do the long no-attention-to-screaming CIO with my girl, but did let her "whine and wail it out" as long as she didn't get really upset, and she is now a happy 21-month-old who greets her crib with smiles, is willing to play in it before or after a nap, and sleeps for 10-13 hours a night with only one brief (typically 30-second) waking. If I listened to everyone who said not to ignore an unhappy child at all, no one in this house would not be getting anywhere near as much sleep.
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As Dr. Sears puts it in his sleep book there is a huge difference between Cry It Out ALONE and Cry It Out with mom.
Your baby may not be happy that he's not getting exactly what he wants at that moment but he still knows you're there for him and taking care of him.
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