Diaper Swappers

Guardandolaluna · 03-16-2008, 11:34 AM

Just looking for some input. We all woke up 9ish My 12 yr old DD just came downstairs and I told her I need her help hanging out with the little ones so I can fix breakfast. It is was 10am here and my DS and DDs have snacked on milk and string cheese, but we have not eaten "breakfast" yet. So, when I tell her I am making breakfast she tells me "so, your making lunch." I told her that her comment was not very polite. She said, it wasn't rude, because it was not early.

Respect is important to me. I am wondering if I am getting too knitpicky, but... had she made a comment like this to a teacher at school or someone else, I would have seen it as rude. What do you think?

2sunshines · 03-16-2008, 11:50 AM

depends on so much more... it's hard to say without hearing her tone or seeing her body language you know? I can take those words and make them very rude, or just funny banter depending on the other factors, kwim?

mistylaureena · 03-16-2008, 11:53 AM

hmm...maybe Iam not as sensitive as you? Becuase my kids (and when I say kids my stepson and lil brother who are pretty much here half the month--same age as your LO) say that type of thing to me all the time. We banter back and forth like that but in a joking manner. It doesnt bother me...I mean when I am making breaskfast at 10-11 I tell them its brunch and saves me money so I don't have to feed them breakfast and lunch--of course I am kidding--its all apart of the banter for us

Guardandolaluna · 03-16-2008, 12:12 PM

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Originally Posted by mistylaureena

hmm...maybe Iam not as sensitive as you? Becuase my kids (and when I say kids my stepson and lil brother who are pretty much here half the month--same age as your LO) say that type of thing to me all the time. We banter back and forth like that but in a joking manner. It doesnt bother me...I mean when I am making breaskfast at 10-11 I tell them its brunch and saves me money so I don't have to feed them breakfast and lunch--of course I am kidding--its all apart of the banter for us

i get what you are saying.. we DO joke around here alot. But in this instance, it was more like she was correcting me. It wasn't like when we are joking around. It is such a fine line sometimes. I think that the gentle disciplining part of me goes at bat with the upbringing I had sometimes, KWIM? I grew up in a children must be seen and not heard house. My parents were overly proper sometimes. I am always fighting myself with this!

Michelle_M · 03-16-2008, 12:21 PM

I voted "other." Because it depends. Was she trying to joke around and was just giving you a hard time, or was she intentionally being a smart alec to annoy you?

If it was the first, I wouldn't see it as rude, and unless I was already in an irritated mood it wouldn't really bug me.

But if she said it PURPOSEFULLY trying to be a smart alec, then it IS rude and WOULD annoy me.

KWIM??

God bless,
Michelle

abbie45 · 03-16-2008, 12:22 PM

I voted annoying/rude because unless she was joking around and the family was too....it just would have come off as haughty (sp?) or rude to me. But I'm a pretty strict parent, too...lol

Guardandolaluna · 03-16-2008, 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by abbie45

I voted annoying/rude because unless she was joking around and the family was too....it just would have come off as haughty (sp?) or rude to me. But I'm a pretty strict parent, too...lol

You see, that is just it! It is such a fine line sometimes! My DH is always joking around and I think that it has rubbed off on her to the point where she says things not even thinking. I truly don't think she was trying to annoy me.. she just said it. It wasn't even sarcastic.. it was more like she was correcting me. that is what bugged me. I guess it it because I see my sister do that to my mom all the time. My DD has that same attitude of my sister sometimes - the need to ALWAYS be right!

ForCryingOutLoud · 03-16-2008, 12:37 PM

It would annoy me, but I don't consider it rude. I would probably tell say back to her, well if you want lunch then I guess you are out of luck because I am making breakfast

-Blair- · 03-16-2008, 12:41 PM

I don't view it as rude in the least. She was merely making a comment about what you were doing/perceived you to be doing.

If it was in a "snotty" tone then I would've perceived it as rude, and simply would've told her to talk to me in a nicer tone.

Guardandolaluna · 03-16-2008, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Mommy2Carson&Belle

It would annoy me, but I don't consider it rude. I would probably tell say back to her, well if you want lunch then I guess you are out of luck because I am making breakfast

I love that! That would have been a better thing for me to say. I guess from what I am seeing on here.. I need to lighten up a bit

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03-16-2008, 11:34 AM	#1
Guardandolaluna Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: El Paso, TX Posts: 3,304 Ratings: 89 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Would you think this is rude? Just looking for some input. We all woke up 9ish My 12 yr old DD just came downstairs and I told her I need her help hanging out with the little ones so I can fix breakfast. It is was 10am here and my DS and DDs have snacked on milk and string cheese, but we have not eaten "breakfast" yet. So, when I tell her I am making breakfast she tells me "so, your making lunch." I told her that her comment was not very polite. She said, it wasn't rude, because it was not early. Respect is important to me. I am wondering if I am getting too knitpicky, but... had she made a comment like this to a teacher at school or someone else, I would have seen it as rude. What do you think? __________________ Kristi - Wife to Claudio and SAHM to Allie 13, Giancarlo 4, Sofia 2 and NAKing Vivianna born 3/30/09 Last edited by Guardandolaluna; 03-16-2008 at 11:36 AM.

03-16-2008, 11:50 AM	#2
2sunshines Registered Users Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 3,233 Ratings: 51 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Would you think this is rude? depends on so much more... it's hard to say without hearing her tone or seeing her body language you know? I can take those words and make them very rude, or just funny banter depending on the other factors, kwim? __________________ wife to my best friend, sahm to my four blessings: , , and

03-16-2008, 11:53 AM	#3
mistylaureena I saw Elvis. He sat between me and Bigfoot on the UFO Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Greeley, CO Posts: 6,356 Ratings: 235 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Would you think this is rude? hmm...maybe Iam not as sensitive as you? Becuase my kids (and when I say kids my stepson and lil brother who are pretty much here half the month--same age as your LO) say that type of thing to me all the time. We banter back and forth like that but in a joking manner. It doesnt bother me...I mean when I am making breaskfast at 10-11 I tell them its brunch and saves me money so I don't have to feed them breakfast and lunch--of course I am kidding--its all apart of the banter for us __________________ Misty--Mama to Mikey.... crossing fingers for more babies!

03-16-2008, 12:21 PM	#5
Michelle_M Registered Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Arlington, Tx Posts: 15,858 Ratings: 81 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: Would you think this is rude? I voted "other." Because it depends. Was she trying to joke around and was just giving you a hard time, or was she intentionally being a smart alec to annoy you? If it was the first, I wouldn't see it as rude, and unless I was already in an irritated mood it wouldn't really bug me. But if she said it PURPOSEFULLY trying to be a smart alec, then it IS rude and WOULD annoy me. KWIM?? God bless, Michelle __________________ Christian wife to my hubby, mamma to three little men and a little lady! Send a custom greeting card from Just Because Stationery!Because you don't need a reason to show you care. Caring is reason enough!!!