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i am a terrible mom
i am so upset. my boys are having so much trouble sleeping...well, it was only jonas but now micah seems to be getting on board. he only wants to sleeep in my arms, or fall completely asleep and then and only then am i able to put him down. i am trying to read and follow the no cry sleep solution, and i have the gist of it- i am supposed to get the baby sleepy and then put him down, and pick him up when he cries and repeat infinity. but i don't have the patience for that. i feel so awful about that, but i jsut don't. and i just hate letting them cry, but i have done it in the past when they were going through similar sleep strikes, and it 'fixed' the problem. but i hate myself for it. i wish i was the kind of person who had infinite time and patience to gently help them fall asleep, but that's not who i am. right now jonas is up there crying, and i am down here crying, and i jsut feel like crap. tell me im not ruining my babies!
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if you're a bad mom, then so am i. i let my dd CIO when she was 10 months old and it worked and she is totally fine healthy. and she goes to sleep on her own every night and for naps. it sucked at the time, but if that is what works for your kiddo then thats what works. but if you feel that bad, im sure you can find something else that works for you
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me too I am in the CIO club so we can all be bad moms together now my son is 2 and a wonderful sleeper! it does get easyer!!!
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You're not a terrible Mom at all! You know yourself and you know your kiddos. You can tell when a cry is for something real or just being a little stinker, kwim?
What works for one doesn't necessarily work for another. We did employ CIO at times and can attest to it's successfulness for us. Both kiddos sleep wonderfully at night and my older DD is a great napper (still working on DS). Don't beat yourself up...you know your kids. ![]() |
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thanks ladies. i am feeling better now, especially since they both went to sleep the first time we put them down tonight. that hasn't happened in a while.
i hope i didn't offend anyone--i wasn't implying that moms who use cio were bad, just that i didn't feel good about doing it. we each have to do what is best for our own families, and i certainly don't think less of anyone who does cio. just feeling frustrated is all. again, sorry if i came across as offensive, that was not my intention. |
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Sleep is difficult for babies and mommies. We all do the best we can.
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Helen, You are Not a bad mom. It is hard to hear them crying and not run to comfort as we are programed to do. It is even harder when you are dealing with two!! I know you are a wonderful mama. It will all work out in the end, and it will get better. You are a sweet, caring, person. Although it is hard to hear them cry some before they fall asleep, it doesn't make you a bad mom if they cry some. I remember how hard it felt when my DD (8 yo now) went through that at the same age your boys are. I hated it, but in two nights she was going to sleep with no assistance when I layed her down in her crib. I really hope you feel better, you are a great mom
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:yeahthat
Sometimes I think CIO is harder on us moms than on the kiddos
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