Diaper Swappers

momtojande · 07-08-2008, 02:33 AM

Had a family reunion Saturday on DH's side. Got treated to an elderly aunt of DH's telling me that I hold DD too much and I'm spoiling her. (Because apparently DD should have felt comfortable meeting a bunch of strangers and not needed any reassurance from Mommy.)

Today I suddenly connected the dots...this same lady has a 50-something daughter, and they constantly have these little battles where they stop talking to each other completely for awhile. LOL! Hmmm, I'm hoping I can build a little bit better relationship with my own daughter.

Just a little reminder that it pays to consider the source!

ladyvno · 07-08-2008, 05:29 AM

Oh my goodnes that is annoying when people say that. I love my inlaws, but if I hear "you're spoiling her" one more time, lol. She is only a month old and if I rush right to her, they make that comment. I don't hold her that much because I can't all the time taking care of my 2-year-old as well, so of course I'm going to hold her when I can!

That's a good observation you made about her relationship with her daughter.

nethridge · 07-08-2008, 05:49 AM

I hate that as well.
Thankfully, I don't get any of that from our families. Just from strangers who don't think I should be BWing

. Just ignore them...You know best.

ive · 07-08-2008, 07:13 AM

lol,some of my family as well have vocolazied what they thought of me BW him. They keep saying why don't you use a stroller? rofl. I think its just so funny how people are so quick to comment on things they have very little expierence w/.

ceilismom · 07-08-2008, 07:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ive

lol,some of my family as well have vocolazied what they thought of me BW him. They keep saying why don't you use a stroller? rofl. I think its just so funny how people are so quick to comment on things they have very little expierence w/.

I love the stroller comment. Like an expensive, space consuming device that keeps you from seeing or touching your child while in motion, and makes it difficult to pass somebody else on a sidewalk or in a store aisle is the greatest invention ever.

momtojande · 07-08-2008, 08:14 AM

I've never gotten the hang of the BWing thing much for more than occasional uses, so we do use the stroller for transportation sometimes.

But she's usually just up and down in my arms -- I call her my little monkey because she's so good at hanging on. Then when she gets a hand clutched in my hair (that's her comfort object!) it really completes the monkey impression.

I love it! She's my last baby, and I know she won't be doing this forever! Why on earth would I want to create some artificial distance between us?

LuAnn · 07-08-2008, 08:38 AM

Some people

You know on a side note, I seem to hold ds2 more when we go some place else so it seems like i ALWAYS hold him (which he is at times)...but hes 9m and he makes strange, its NOT because hes held to much its the AGE......

07-08-2008, 02:33 AM	#1
momtojande Registered Users Formerly: JonsMommy Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 3,738 Ratings: 19 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	You hold that baby too much! She's spoiled! Had a family reunion Saturday on DH's side. Got treated to an elderly aunt of DH's telling me that I hold DD too much and I'm spoiling her. (Because apparently DD should have felt comfortable meeting a bunch of strangers and not needed any reassurance from Mommy.) Today I suddenly connected the dots...this same lady has a 50-something daughter, and they constantly have these little battles where they stop talking to each other completely for awhile. LOL! Hmmm, I'm hoping I can build a little bit better relationship with my own daughter. Just a little reminder that it pays to consider the source!

07-08-2008, 05:29 AM	#2
ladyvno Registered Users Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: VA Posts: 543 Ratings: 4 Feedback: 100%	Re: You hold that baby too much! She's spoiled! Oh my goodnes that is annoying when people say that. I love my inlaws, but if I hear "you're spoiling her" one more time, lol. She is only a month old and if I rush right to her, they make that comment. I don't hold her that much because I can't all the time taking care of my 2-year-old as well, so of course I'm going to hold her when I can! That's a good observation you made about her relationship with her daughter. __________________ Victoria Christian mom to Amelia (Millie) and Susannah , wife to Zack DD- 4/11/06 DD2-5/24/08 Last edited by ladyvno; 07-08-2008 at 05:31 AM.

07-08-2008, 05:49 AM	#3
nethridge Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Fort Worth, Texas Posts: 648 Ratings: 15 Feedback: 100%	Re: You hold that baby too much! She's spoiled! I hate that as well. Thankfully, I don't get any of that from our families. Just from strangers who don't think I should be BWing. Just ignore them...You know best. __________________ Wife (married 4/11/05), and proud anti-circ, anti-vax, natural birthing, CDing Mama to Baby Cannon(2/16/08) Sometimes I blog.

07-08-2008, 07:13 AM	#4
ive Registered Users Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Midwest :) Posts: 2,461 Ratings: 47 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: You hold that baby too much! She's spoiled! lol,some of my family as well have vocolazied what they thought of me BW him. They keep saying why don't you use a stroller? rofl. I think its just so funny how people are so quick to comment on things they have very little expierence w/. __________________ Single mother of a Daring/Energetic/handful 5 year old Little man.

07-08-2008, 08:14 AM	#6
momtojande Registered Users Formerly: JonsMommy Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 3,738 Ratings: 19 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: You hold that baby too much! She's spoiled! I've never gotten the hang of the BWing thing much for more than occasional uses, so we do use the stroller for transportation sometimes. But she's usually just up and down in my arms -- I call her my little monkey because she's so good at hanging on. Then when she gets a hand clutched in my hair (that's her comfort object!) it really completes the monkey impression. I love it! She's my last baby, and I know she won't be doing this forever! Why on earth would I want to create some artificial distance between us?