just needing to vent and whine a little.... - Cloth Diapers & Parenting Community

Kinrice01 · 06-25-2008, 10:55 PM

So we have our first fost/adopt placement. We signed up with the intent to adopt. This little girl is a perfect fit. She is absolutely adorable, sweet, the perfect age that fits right in with my other kiddos, gets along great with all of us... you get the idea. I have only had her a week but I am totally bonding with her. I hope she stays with us. I don't want her to leave. When I took her for her first visit with bm it was already emotional for me. it effected me more than I thought it would. Strange feeling.

Anyway, everyone keeps telling me to count on the fact she will probably go back to bm. She was removed for parental substance abuse, and next court date is July 10th. So, she very well might go back to bm, caseworker says bm and my fd have a good relationship and bm wants her back asap.

Anyway, I'm sure you all have btdt, and know how I feel, but I get knots in my stomach thinking that this is probably just temporary, when I've wanted to adopt all along.....

Thanks for listening..

patricianaps · 06-26-2008, 09:44 AM

Good luck at court. There's no rhyme or reason to the court system, it seems sometimes. I hope for your sake it works out wonderfully. I will be praying for a good outcome.

Kinrice01 · 06-27-2008, 04:50 PM

Thank you...

MCR · 06-27-2008, 05:02 PM

Hang in their, you never know for sure what will happen till the judge decides what he wants to do.
Enjoy her while she's with you and if she stays so be it, if not at least you'll know you gave her lots of love and a safe place to live for a while.

jewelzbird · 07-03-2008, 12:18 PM

It sounds like you know what is going to happen...but you can love her while you have her. Sorry mama!!

zukeypur · 07-16-2008, 03:56 PM

Can you sign up as a legal risk home? That way you only get children who are more likely going to be adoptable. My DD was not legal risk, but then again, she almost went back to bm.

tink · 07-16-2008, 08:46 PM

Very hard road you're walking mama. I hope it goes well.

06-25-2008, 10:55 PM	#1
Kinrice01 Registered Users Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 678 Ratings: 32 Feedback: 100%	just needing to vent and whine a little.... So we have our first fost/adopt placement. We signed up with the intent to adopt. This little girl is a perfect fit. She is absolutely adorable, sweet, the perfect age that fits right in with my other kiddos, gets along great with all of us... you get the idea. I have only had her a week but I am totally bonding with her. I hope she stays with us. I don't want her to leave. When I took her for her first visit with bm it was already emotional for me. it effected me more than I thought it would. Strange feeling. Anyway, everyone keeps telling me to count on the fact she will probably go back to bm. She was removed for parental substance abuse, and next court date is July 10th. So, she very well might go back to bm, caseworker says bm and my fd have a good relationship and bm wants her back asap. Anyway, I'm sure you all have btdt, and know how I feel, but I get knots in my stomach thinking that this is probably just temporary, when I've wanted to adopt all along..... Thanks for listening.. Advertisement __________________ Kindra: wife to Chris since 6/01 , Stay at Home, AP, homeschooling Mama to: Seth 11/01, Elissa 10/03 , Noah 9/05 , Emma 5/09 , Luke 4/13 ,stepmom to a U.S.Marine Stephen 10/92 , foster mama to siblings I 12/08, J 12/09, and J 4/14

06-26-2008, 09:44 AM	#2
patricianaps Registered Users Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: cleveland Posts: 1,131 Ratings: 9 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: just needing to vent and whine a little.... Good luck at court. There's no rhyme or reason to the court system, it seems sometimes. I hope for your sake it works out wonderfully. I will be praying for a good outcome. __________________ WOHM mommy to Emily 5/02 Allison 3/04 and Elianna 7/08, TS to baby boy 8/10, BFFE to Joe

06-27-2008, 04:50 PM	#3
Kinrice01 Registered Users Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 678 Ratings: 32 Feedback: 100%	Re: just needing to vent and whine a little.... Thank you... __________________ Kindra: wife to Chris since 6/01 , Stay at Home, AP, homeschooling Mama to: Seth 11/01, Elissa 10/03 , Noah 9/05 , Emma 5/09 , Luke 4/13 ,stepmom to a U.S.Marine Stephen 10/92 , foster mama to siblings I 12/08, J 12/09, and J 4/14

06-27-2008, 05:02 PM	#4
MCR Registered Users Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Northern California Posts: 10,642 Ratings: 154 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: just needing to vent and whine a little.... Hang in their, you never know for sure what will happen till the judge decides what he wants to do. Enjoy her while she's with you and if she stays so be it, if not at least you'll know you gave her lots of love and a safe place to live for a while. __________________ Mum to and and Wife to SHOP MR REBATES

07-03-2008, 12:18 PM	#5
jewelzbird Registered Users Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Bay Area, CA Posts: 2,182 Ratings: 142 Feedback: 100% My Mood:	Re: just needing to vent and whine a little.... It sounds like you know what is going to happen...but you can love her while you have her. Sorry mama!! __________________ "Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody is watching"

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